Weight gain and motivation drop after divorce

BornBandicoot2515 · 2025-08-06T22:22:34+00:00

Take 2, 2 mile walks during those work hours. Door to door that should be no more than 45 mins. Closer to 35 mins should be doable but I don’t know what shape you are in.

This should dramatically help. I’m not kidding. Walking is one of the best ways to burn fat (not cardio) and will also keep your metabolism going.

I have a demanding high stress job and have been doing this bc I too can’t get to the gym. I try to do a call when I walk so I am still “working”. I have lost weight doing this. Just my 10 cents.

On the food side, up the protein and the fiber (as much fiber as you can handle) and drink a metric ton of water.

Prize_River9642 · 2025-08-05T08:49:45+00:00

I strongly recommend buying a cheap, adjustable workout bench and two sets of dumbbells from Amazon / Facebook marketplace. Make sure to get sets that allow you to take plates on and off. You'll need these eventually.

Complete game changer if you don't have the disposable income to join a gym. Yes, gyms are more efficient, but really not necessary to get into better shape than 99% of the population, particularly if you live in America. You also save time and gas money.

Get onto a workout plan - start with lifting 3 days per week. Something like this would be good to start with: https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/3-day-full-body-dumbbell-workout.

On two of the days you're not lifting, do a short dynamic warmup followed by 15-20 minutes of high intensity cardio. Again, follow a plan for this - don't give yourself the added cognitive load of timing and planning your own workouts, there's simply no need unless you're looking to build a very specific type of body. There are plenty of beginner HIIT workouts on YouTube. On one of the other days, do a dynamic warmup followed by an ab workout. On the final day, recover! I usually walk for 10k~ steps a day too, but it seems you've got this covered with cycling. If I were you I would even consider replacing cycling with a HIIT workout. Might save you time and the calories burned would probably be roughly equivalent based on two 7.5 mile slowish cycles.

I'm lucky in that I really don't have a sweet tooth. I do, however, fucking adore crisps / chips. I just don't buy those when I'm shopping. In one of your other comments, you mentioned that you've got more of a handle on your diet now. That's great - often one of the most difficult things to do. You can eat way more bulk if it's clean food. Get yourself some protein powder too. I find replacing one meal a day with a protein shake and some creatine is a really easy way to limit my calories. My motivation is always higher in the morning so I tend to replace breakfast. I can be slightly more lax at lunch / dinner that way.

As you rightly say, the motivation to do this is more difficult than the planning. The best trick I've found for this is to know that motivation doesn't come before a workout but after. The way I get into a workout I really don't want to do is to turn my brain off for the first two sets or so - just stick a podcast on and jump into it without really thinking. Once I'm already moving it seems stupid to stop.

Do this for a month or so, and I promise you it will become habit. If you're consistent you should start to feel better after two weeks, start to notice yourself looking better after about 5 weeks, and other people will notice after about two months. Working out is now non-negotiable for me. I feel significantly worse if I skip it.

Wrong-Claim-670 · 2025-08-05T00:42:17+00:00

Bro the motivation needs to real Eat well and a little exercise will go a long way Love yourself first you will get your happy place

Mission-Carry-887 · 2025-08-04T22:25:50+00:00

That is 183 in freedom measures.

I am 6-1 and would love to be 183.

I would not beat yourself up too badly yet.

Impossible_Tour411 · 2025-08-04T21:12:54+00:00

Man, it’s all about the diet. You can’t outrun your fork at your age. Gotta get a grip on the cravings. Have a cheat day where you cheat a little bit, but not much. After a few weeks it will become habit.

ImpermanentSelf · 2025-08-04T21:09:06+00:00

Embrace the discomfort, sit with it, don’t try to distract yourself from it.

Title	Weight gain and motivation drop after divorce
Author	the_money_meatsack
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	August 4, 2025 8:54 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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