When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?

epimpstyle · 2025-08-14T09:10:35+00:00

IODs are easy because you can tell when a girl wants to leave or isn't interested.

The problem is with IOI signals, because you don't know if she really likes you on some level or is just being polite. In short, if she stays there an talk to you just assume that she is a friendly person and you can keep talking to her, tell her stories, check her compliance level ... etc

norwegiandoggo · 2025-08-14T09:31:53+00:00

In the absence of evidence - it's best to assume she's interested. This will help your confidence and worldview. It can turn into a self fulfilling prophecy. Assume people like you - that you're attractive. Just be careful to note it if she's really not interested. You really need to learn IOIs and IODs. It's important that you learn it. You don't want to become an harasser or stalker because you're too dumb to realize she's not into you.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-14T10:21:15+00:00

You are not being a leader if you stop yourself to try to analyse what a woman wants or not before you make a decision to act.

I don't approach woman because they give me signals, i approach women because i want to. It's a feeling, it's an impulse. I give myself permission, and women may respond one way or another, which is not my problem.

My only issue comes down to, "Am i doing what i genuniely feel like doing, or am i waiting for people to tell me it's safe to do it?". And whenever i do what i want to regardless of what people think, that's when i count it as a success. Because i followed my heart, rather than letting fear or anxiety stop me.

Now, you may object, "ok but if I do what i want then that can upset some women", and sure some might get upset, some will happy that you approach. That's not something you really fully control because every person can be on a different mood.

The only thing you can control is how you choose to do the approach, which is by doing it respectfully, telling them why you want to talk to them from the beggining so they get context as to why you approached them, and respecting their decision to engage with you or not gracefully without insisting or causing drama if they say they are not interested.

So it's not about reading minds trying to figure out what they want by telepathy, it's about letting them know what do you want, and then they have the chance to say yes or no.

There is no objective universal signs that a woman can give for you to figure out what they want, because every girl is different, women are not machines, their behaviours can mean one thing in one context and the complete opposite in another context or mood they have.

So trying to look for consistent meanings from their behaviours will frustrate you a lot, because you simply will reach the conclusion that women just don't make sense.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-14T11:33:13+00:00

If you can't tell what a person you are talking to thinks of your behaviour I would suggest assuming they do jot appreciate it. It is extremely unlikely you are knocking it out of the park accidentally.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-08-14T12:30:28+00:00

If she's still there, she's at least somewhat interested.

Natural-Wrongdoer-85 · 2025-08-14T10:17:42+00:00

What is iod?

Title	When in doubt about IoD's (as a beginner), should I assume she's hot or cold?
Author	lockandlood
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	August 14, 2025 8:34 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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