General advice for clubs/bars?

hunterpua · 2025-10-04T08:29:45+00:00

A cool thing you can do at a bar that you can't do in daygame is approach them, leave, and come back to them later.

If you leave someone you approached in daygame they're gone.

If you leave someone you approached at a bar, they're likely to still be in the exact spot you met them when you come back.

What I like to do is give compliments or make small talk with a lot of people, just 1-2 minutes max and then move on as I'm making my way through the bar.

Don't just randomly bounce around. Have direction, like going from the entrance to the bar itself or to a certain spot in the venue, you can even just do this along the way to the toilet.

From there, you guage reactions. Note who was the most warm and then go back to them.

You don't even need to rush to get that girl's number, because the most warm might not be the one you're most attracted to.

But guess what, all the less warm people who see you having a good conversation with her and her group will warm up to you, so you can go over to them, and that will just continue to build things up for the other groups around you.

You can even start this out with people you aren't attracted to at all. As long as you're seen having good interactions with people, the rest of the room will warm up to you.

Of course, you don't have to talk to a hundred people. If you land on a girl that you're really into, it's fine to just stay with her and continue letting things move forward between you two.

I know a really gentle, sort of submissive and effeminate guy who does this and one time the girls in the group he settled on said he was very dominant and actually used the word "alpha" to describe him for talking to different people like that before one of them eventually went home with him that night.

If this is a lot for you or you just prefer a more one shot, one kill approach, just do daygame.

When you get good at daygame, you can carry that over to the bar and your odds of having a one and done approach are much higher.

As for a nightclub? Reddit links don't go through on this sub so I'm just gonna copy-paste nightclub advice I gave someone earlier this week:

When you really understand game and don't just have a rolodex of canned lines and routines then you can just translate everything to dance.

Social Proof = Dancing with many people

Approach invitation = Pointing, nodding, smiling, or gesturing at her from a distance and if she reacts positively she wants to dance with you

Comfort = Matching her and dancing in sync, also reacting similarly to certain tracks that come on, or both knowing the dances of certain tracks

Teasing/Messing with her = stuff like sticking your fingers into her belt loops when you're dancing together to move her around so she dances weird and you jokingly make faces like, "what's wrong with this chick?"

Qualification = You challenge her to copy or top your dance moves, or if you're good at partner dances like Bachata, you lead her and see if she can keep up.

Flirting = Dancing with her in a provocative way then pushing her away, maybe even dancing with someone else for a bit if she's in a group

Sexual Escalation = Easiest one, sexual dancing. Most of us at least have an idea of what that looks like

I've kissed girls on dancefloors before even exchanging names.

If you go through all that stuff and then motion for her to move somewhere to talk for a bit then the conversation is mostly just you guys figuring out how to go home with each other.

You can build things up on the dancefloor to the point where you can just take her hand and lead her, without talking at all, and she'll just follow you.

In some clubs I've even made a pitstop at their handicap toilet or just somewhere more hidden, to mess around with each other some more.

I've had moments with girls where the very first time we say, "nice to meet you" is when she's holding my dick and I have a finger or two inside her.

Additionally, don't stand around looking for a girl to dance with. Just start dancing on your own and then do the stuff above.

jackthehat6 · 2025-10-04T12:35:09+00:00

you likely just need to MASSIVELY increase your volume. It's a game of numbers and luck. YOu are trying to find single, hot girls who are attracted to you/think you are hot. That's what cold approach is (assuming you're not only approach girls who give you signals/IOI's which is more 'warm approach')

Obviously if you look like a male model you could probably get laid with like 3 apporaches, but most guys don't and need to make a LOT (and I mean a lot!!!) of approaches

I used to get laid a fair amount doing night game cold approach in bars. It's how I got the majority of my lays by far. But I can tell you you need to accept you're gonna have to eat a metric tonne of rejection along the way until you find the girls who are hot, single, and into you! Knowing everything there is to know about game, along with all the pushpulls and techniques etc is of no use when you open a girl who just isn't into you. It's that way for the pickup coaches too

burncushlikewood · 2025-10-04T23:07:14+00:00

https://youtu.be/9mVFtDiMyLY?si=0ySKsDLMoFn00m9D

https://youtu.be/_jStE6-uQgQ?si=d_0DaEFgOHR0y7o3

ImpossibleBritches · 2025-10-04T09:27:15+00:00

Find Mystery's old material.

It was developed specifically for the LA club scene. It might be a little dated now in some fine details. But the framework is solid.

Mystery Method gives theory and practical tactical advice.

A couple of things to bear in mind though:

Mystery was always clear that his system provides training wheels. Once you understand attraction and develop your confidence - which you can gain by using his model - you can let go of the training wheels.

The other thing is clubs are particularly good for building your frame: you get to test your skills constantly over and over again under pressure. You cant expect to take women home with reliably high frequency, especially when you are getting started. But constantly, consistently working on the skillset makes you more confident in conversation with women.

pindarico · 2025-10-04T08:26:56+00:00

Places for older people always ended up with awesome stories. The ladies are self aware and they crave a young passionate night… beware some of them get sticky!

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-10-04T12:54:27+00:00

via jonh anthony - Can i meet her real quick, most girls go in groups so 60% of the time they dont care if some guy hits on friend as long as you have a good smile and friendly about it.

wear a fucken polo even at a dive bar...

Move her to a quieter area, get her number, and set up a date. Next, set up the next one, unless it's a small bar. If it's a small bar, talk to everyone. She will see you talking to everyone and assume you're important. That's how I dated a bartender for a few months. I still go to that bar where she works lol ! Once in a while, we still fuck but she knows i fuck other girls too and she always gets mad at me lol

Commissar_David · 2025-10-04T08:14:15+00:00

It's possible, but it depends on the venue. Some dance clubs usually have mostly women that just want to dance and nothing more. You generally can pick it up after feeling the vibes of the people that go there regularly.

Title	General advice for clubs/bars?
Author	Healthy-Two217
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Date	October 4, 2025 7:57 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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