This is my routine and lines need advice…

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-04T17:36:28+00:00

Try to live in the moment without the routines. If you continue to reinforce bad habits then you'll become fully dependent on these corny scripted conversations. Be more observant and work at thinking on your feet so you can be more genuine and applicable to the woman you're speaking with.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-10-04T18:26:41+00:00

These routines and openers are pretty terrible.

Rule 1: Don't do the direct method. That only works if she's instantly interested based on your looks alone. Usually it fails because it comes across as too desperate and pushy.

Rule 2: Opener + follow up must make contextual sense. You're talking to a total stranger. Does it really make sense that the first question you ask a stranger is "would you rather live in the city or the woods? Why?"

No! This makes you seem totally insane. Like a drugged out crazy person.

Opener has to make sense. Don't be direct.

Follow up question has to make sense. And what I mean by that is; you need to answer the stranger why the F you're Talking to them!!! Because it's weird to talk to a stranger so you need to give them a logical reason for why you're doing that. To show them that you're NOT a weird crazy dangerous person.

For example:

"Did you get that bag locally? I'm asking because I'm looking for one like that to get for my mom"

Here you open with a logical reason for why you're talking to this stranger. Instantly showing them that you're NOT desperate to date her based off looks alone. And you're NOT crazy. You answered their question "why is this stranger talking to me" with the opener. And it makes contextual sense. Check check check. Now you went from seeming like a crazy person harassing strangers - to seeming like a completely normal person in two sentences. Winning. From here some casual chit chat should be much easier.

epimpstyle · 2025-10-04T20:23:31+00:00

I don’t like direct openers when they come out of nowhere, no prior context, nothing. It’s much better when there’s a clear premise for saying something, because the conversation flows more naturally afterward... also in case she is not interested in you romantically, you can just politely finish the conversation without being sus.

However, in your example as you said, you can spark a playful and dynamic conversation by picking two things about her, one flattering, one not so flattering.

For example: "You have an adorable look" -> "thanks" -> "You’re confusing me… your eyes are so expressive, like a fairy, but those black pants make me think you’re a secret agent / a chimney sweep / Catwoman / a ninja assassin.... I’m trying to figure out… are you a good girl or a bad girl?" Now you need a reaction, otherwise, you can’t continue. You’ll just end up talking to yourself, and that’s no longer fun.

Forget those serious questions, focus on funny or interesting stories instead. Like this: "I see you have a ring on your index/middle finger. Do you know what that says about you? It says that today you’ll meet a handsome guy wearing [insert your outfit description]… but it also says you’re a teacher.’" She’ll say, "I’m not a teacher, I’m a cashier - or whatever she works" and you say a routine: "What? A cashier? Funny thing, a friend of mine dated a cashier once and he said… [insert a funny story]...."

That’s how it’s done.

ChickenFettuccini · 2025-10-06T20:37:29+00:00

Routines and scheduled lines are horrible. Especially if you live in a small town and say the same lines to different girls they will hear about it pretty fast and everyone will know you are lame. Go out and make friends, get better at socializing. I would immediately get annoyed if a guy came up to me and told me I have an “adorable look”. wtf does that even mean. There’s no way for a convo to build off of that. She’d probably awkwardly say thanks and then walk away. What are you trying to convey to her? You can start with a question like where is a good spot to go for x or just simply ask how it’s going and if they wanna get a drink.

becomesharp · 2025-10-06T22:39:38+00:00

Questions (even interesting ones) are not routines. They're questions.

Questions arent necessarily always bad, but if the girl isn't invested in the conversation, questions very quickly seem like youre trying to interrogate her or obligate her to talk to you.

Try not to ask the woman to carry the conversational burden for you by asking her a ton of questions and hoping she does the heavy lifting.

Real_Dynamics · 2025-10-04T17:47:36+00:00

The more questions you ask the worst conversationalist you are as a whole. Tell stories, anecdotes, opinions, expereinces, feelings, and tease, flirt, mess with her,... Don't do interrogations or interviews.

Trip_seize · 2025-10-04T18:05:10+00:00

Routine.

Title	This is my routine and lines need advice…
Author	Dependent_One_8131
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	October 4, 2025 5:29 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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