Recently I watched the Netflix doc The Tinder Swindler. If you’ve seen it, you know it’s wild — the guy basically scams women out of money using Tinder + Instagram, and still gets them hooked. Crazy thing is… his methods are basically the same 7 tricks most “players” use.

Now, I’m not saying you should scam people or be a jerk. But if you actually break down those tricks, most of them are just psychology tools. Tools can be used for good or bad. And if you flip them into positive use, they can help you actually attract women without being manipulative.

Here are the first 3 tricks and how to use them in a legit way:

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  1. The “high-value” social media profile In the documentary, the guy had photos traveling, luxury hotels, fancy suits, parties where he’s surrounded by people, even “business leader” vibes. All of it screams: this dude’s important.

A lot of PUA coaches in China literally rent yachts, cars, and props just to stage this kind of lifestyle. It’s fake flexing.

👉 The positive way: don’t fake it. Actually go out, live a bit, share cool experiences. You don’t need a yacht — show your hobbies, your taste, your social life, your ambition. People are attracted to energy and lifestyle, not just money.

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  1. Social proof This just means: if other people value you, she’ll assume you’re valuable too. In the doc, the guy’s IG had thousands of followers. He also staged pics with other “successful” people and even had accomplices vouch for him.

👉 The positive way: grow your social circle naturally. Add more friends, connect with people, post when you’re out with friends, share collabs. You don’t need celebs in your pics — just being active and social already boosts how you’re perceived.

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  1. Time constraints PUAs call this “false time constraint.” Basically you make it seem like you don’t have all the time in the world, so the interaction feels scarce. The Swindler did it by saying things like “I only have an hour before my flight, wanna grab coffee?” That pressure makes people decide fast and drop their guard.

👉 The positive way: don’t fake it. Just actually be a guy with a life. If you invite someone out, say “I’m free Thursday evening, let’s do drinks.” Don’t be the “I’m free anytime, whenever you want” guy — that screams boring, no boundaries, no life. Having limits makes you look more valuable and interesting.

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Bottom line

Players win not because they’re evil masterminds, but because they know how to push the right psychological buttons. You don’t need to scam anyone — but you do need to understand how attraction works.

Use these tricks positively: • Show your lifestyle, not fake flexes. • Let others vouch for your value naturally. • Respect your own time (and she’ll respect it too).

Attraction isn’t about being rich or manipulative. It’s about showing you’ve got a real life worth joining.