Contradiction?

becomesharp · 2025-11-01T02:27:26+00:00

Remember this adage: Neediness is not WHAT you do, it's WHY you do it.

It's the intention behind the behavior, not the behavior itself.

So if you approach her without the emotion of neediness, it almost doesnt matter WHAT you say, because she's reading the intention, not the behavior.

This is why advanced guys can walk up and say overtly needy things to a girl "omg where have you been all my life? Youre beautiful, lets get married tonight" and its fine, but someone else does it and it comes off needy and unattractive.

Last thing: there are a certain minority of women that do not want to be approached, ever. They do not represent the majority. Do not be discouraged by this small, vocal minority.

As Will Smith said in hitch, "no woman wakes up saying, 'god I hope I don't get swept off my feet today.'"

hunterpua · 2025-11-01T01:46:38+00:00

This is not an issue when you're genuinely selective, not just pretending to be just to try and impress her.

Just judge them every step of the way before progressing.

When I approach a girl, I'm not saying to myself, "I want to fuck her", I'm saying, "Ok, she's cute enough. Let's see if I like her."

Then when I approach, I'm judging her based on her response before I decide to keep talking to her.

For example, I like to ask for directions when I cold approach.

When I do, I'm genuinely judging her on helpfulness, sincerity, and enthusiasm.

I'll start to walk away after she answer's my question but if I was happy with how she did it, I might stop, turn around and tell her that I liked how she did that and continue the conversation.

I don't say I like her, I don't say she's cute, pretty, or whatever, I only praise her for how she acted when answering my question. And she gets a few minutes of conversation with me because of that.

If I didn't like it then I just keep walking.

The guys who aren't being genuinely selective will never keep walking. No matter how she responds they'll pretend it was good and try to keep talking to her.

They might even think that not provoking a warm response was a failure on their part.

Me, if I'm not getting a response I'm happy with, I see it as a failure on her part, like she wasted an opportunity.

And I leave and approach someone else. 🤷🏻‍♂️

No big deal. There's lots of pretty women.

Title	Contradiction?
Author	Legitimate-Buyer5865
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	November 1, 2025 1:03 AM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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