I (46M) guess it’s been coming as long time. Toxic relationship I’ve stayed in way too long. Waited until our son (18M) moved out and went to college (yeah I know). Rather than leave right away I decided to see if things changed, they didn’t and maybe are worse.

Tried individual and couples therapy. Individual therapist told me to leave, STBX (49F) told me she doesn’t want to do couples counseling anymore (only attended 3 sessions), lawyer told me to go. I decided I’ll do it after Thanksgiving (arbitrary but the timeline I told myself) The state requires six months separation.

I don’t know what I’m doing but I feel it’s right. It’s been 18 years of marriage and 20 years together but I think it’s time to move on alone.

Wish me luck and stay strong men. I’m going to try to keep my head up and faith that things are going to get better.