Hey would you say instagram is a waste of time what are the chances a girl will reply to you back in instagram ?

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-11-30T13:00:04+00:00

Don't use insta to find girls. Use insta to maintain and increase girls' interest level in you.

jkotran · 2025-11-30T11:33:24+00:00

In general, Insta approach (sliding into DM) is an L. You're entering her frame and giving free attention. The smart money uses Insta to demonstrate abundance.

izz420 · 2025-11-30T16:47:55+00:00

Facebook is definitely a better platform if you are into grannys

2025-12-01T21:40:06+00:00

Honestly I'd say it's a waste of time. Women get so much attention online your message will just get lost in the either. Though if you have a good social media presence you'll be more likely to get a response.

tajbinjohn · 2025-12-01T11:31:32+00:00

IG >>> phone number. Especially if you don't have an iphone

Pickledsundae · 2025-12-01T15:35:09+00:00

I have had great luck adding random people with mutual friends on Facebook. My strategy is this:

If they accept, immediately and consistently (like 1-3 short videos and/or picture with you, every or every other day) post stories of you doing cool interesting shit that shows off what you enjoy doing. For me, it's currently been cutting pumpkins with my katana, shooting my bow, playing guitar, and doing martial arts. Include as many doggos as possible, too.

Try not to be obsessive about it, but before your story expires, keep track of who viewed it; if she's especially into it and likes or hearts it, naturally this is a HUGE indicator of interest, and the door to message her is open.

But usually, it'll take days if not weeks of seeing if a certain girl or two consistently keeps up with your stories; another indicator of interest is if she is one of the first to view your stories after you post.

After you've noticed the girl(s) that keep up with your stories, I will send an opener on messenger that goes something like:

"So, I've a confession to make 😏"

Naturally, she'll be curious. Say something along the lines of how you don't usually add people from friend suggestions/people you may know, but you couldn't help add her when you saw her. Feel free to use the following opener:

"So I know Facebook's more bout dank memes than finding the girl of your dreams, but I only wanna say you're seriously stunning and seem down to earth. I'd love to take a chance to see if we click"

Due to the nature of Facebook and how people rarely check messenger, I have to say, from an efficiency standpoint, dating apps are always going to be better ROI but, I don't trust myself on dating apps because I easily get addicted to them lol so this is the lite version.

Hope at least some of this helps you out, and lemme know if it goes well!

Disastrous_Affect742 · 2025-12-01T19:29:09+00:00

I don't have any social media accounts and I do fine

ratfooshi · 2025-12-01T21:39:24+00:00

Insta's how I met my drinking squad!

Balance is good. Just be unique and send her something she probably hasn't heard before.

Shoddy-Lingonberry-4 · 2025-12-02T04:02:55+00:00

I have better luck meeting women IRL. The gym, coffee shops, approaching anywhere once I get some choosing signals.

Objective_Shallot879 · 2025-12-02T23:32:32+00:00

Instagram is by far the best option if you know how to play it right. (decent profile + good texting game)

Personally I never send cold DMs because it comes off as needy and thirsty. My advice is to go with story replies which is a low-pressure and natural way of starting a convo.

The trick: never compliment, never ask a boring question. Be playful, confident, and a little cocky.

Women get so much attention and DMs, so the goal is to stand out in her DMs.

Instead do this:
- Playfully tease → "Trying to look cute but we both know better"
- Cold-read → "You seem like the type of X girl but I bet you are Y"
- Provoke → "Alright model, prove you're fun off-camera"
- Banter → "You would hate my version of that coffee"

I built a tiny tool that reads her IG story and writes lines in these styles (saves me time).

If you want to test it, shoot me a DM.

insanerizzy · 2025-11-30T18:50:59+00:00

You shouldnt be using social platforms to cold DM because it's low value. Online is all pay to play now.

If you want to do it like the big boys do, take high value photos for your ig feed them run ads on those and send a message to all the girls who react to it.

Title	Hey would you say instagram is a waste of time what are the chances a girl will reply to you back in instagram ?
Author	Potential-Farmer8066
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Date	November 30, 2025 9:20 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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