How to be you and still get women

aeturnus95 · 2025-12-14T10:58:00+00:00

’Being you’ here comes down to finding your STYLE.

That is why you are confused by all the various approaches. You need to know yourself good enough to identify your style.

Cold approach is not for everybody. Hot approach is not for everybody.

What approach works for you? Then lean into it. Then you can learn to game. And you will be successful. But you must play YOUR game. In YOUR arena.

You know you’re in the right arena when you can use your strengths NATURALLY.

JackSquirts · 2025-12-14T12:19:33+00:00

Understand that "you" is not static, it's always changing,and develop yourself into someone women are attracted to. I see stuff like this and just cant imagine the ego involved in thinking you're so awesome that nothing about you needs to change to be a better person.

It's like saying, "how do I become a doctor if I dont know anything about biology?" If you arent getting what you want out of life, you need to make the changes necessary to achieve your goals. If being "you" is more important than finding love, then youve made the decision.

If you want women, you have to be a person women want to be with and the vast majority of the attributes they look for are skills that will help you in all other aspects of life - social skills, confidence, fitness, wealth. You dont have to attempt to go full Chad, but you do have to hone your skills in these areas (predominantly the social skills).

"Just be yourself" and "you deserve to find someone" is malicious. What if you have nothing to offer someone? Do they "deserve" a partner with nothjng to offer them too? cause that's what "everyone deserves somebody" and "you're great the way uou are" also says. Get off your ass and make something of yourself.

fuck_dating_reddi_t · 2025-12-14T10:42:45+00:00

I want to know too, even after lowering filters ,I can't get even an ugly girl(or my country sucks)

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2025-12-14T10:40:01+00:00

I want to know

Left_Emphasis_5574 · 2025-12-14T10:48:44+00:00

The real hack is to be YOU. That's a fact but you still need to be elegant, good posture, confidence etc etc.

Don't strive for the final results and don't expect anything.

People will notice your energy.

confused_8357 · 2025-12-14T12:15:06+00:00

If by " just be you" you think i dont need to put any work or make any moves then nothings gonna happen.

The just be you is often said to people who perform abd create a false facade to impress women. They dont feel fulfilled later as they are acting.

You need to start showing behaviors which subcommunicate lack of desperation and abundance of options. This is the new you..there is no performance here. That transformation comes from past experiences for which you need to make moves in an outcome independent manner

Start by making moves and failing

Dandys3107 · 2025-12-14T12:29:51+00:00

Who says "just be you"? And what that even means exactly? In terms of constructive mindsets for your seduction game, I would say it would be about constantly exerting and developing your naturally good sides. However, at the same time you should not put up with your disadvatanges that clearly get in they way of reaching your goals. Being optimistic is surely a more effective way of being for a human, but it does not mean getting lazy or demanding at all.

tattooedpanhead · 2025-12-14T16:47:56+00:00

be yourself unapologetically. that means you dont give a damn what people think about you. you don't give a damn if they like you or not. you're ready and able to walk away from abuse and rejection. you don't react you respond. you don't chace and you dont aproch. Unless you see in her body language that she's interested. then you make a move and make it bold or she will quickly turn off.

Sure-Guest1588 · 2025-12-14T16:54:59+00:00

All the men here try to be 'the attractive guy' but for that you need to play a role.

epimpstyle · 2025-12-14T17:44:00+00:00

how to be you and still be attractive?

I doubt this is possible. It is much better if you adapt and make small changes. It’s just like going to the market and trying to sell only apples, you’ll have few customers, only those who need apples, and you’ll make little money. But if, along with apples, you also add other fruits, it becomes much easier to find customers, and you’ll make more money.

Imagine a person who is 100% himself, with no filter. He says everything he thinks, even if it’s rude or inappropriate. Even though he is authentic, others see him as impolite or lacking tact. In their eyes, this person is not ‘attractive,’ but rather off‑putting.

The guy in my example might find maybe 1 out of 100 girls who like him as he is. But if he makes a small change, he can improve the ratio, instead of 1 in 100 girls, it could be 1 in 10. In that case, his chances are much higher. Be real, it’s not the same to talk to 100 girls until you find one who likes you, as it is to talk to only 10 and already find the girl who will like you.

No-Lobster-4646 · 2025-12-14T19:44:14+00:00

Who told you to be you? That’s the worst advice someone can give to anyone trying to improve any aspect of their life. Now, since you’re trying to improve your dating life, have you improved the way you dress? The way you communicate? Where you take your dates? Perhaps your car? Your body language?

Title	How to be you and still get women
Author	Terrible-Pie1410
Upvotes	12
Comments	27
Date	December 14, 2025 10:29 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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