What advice would you give for a sex-averse woman?

Retired401 · 2026-01-03T21:19:15+00:00

Be up front about it to anyone you even consider dating. It's only fair.

cubatista92 · 2026-01-03T22:01:36+00:00

State your sexual preference and find a compatible partner (men with porn as their preferred sexual outlet, men looking for a lavender marriage, men with health conditions that prohibit/limits sex, asexual men).

These men are definitely in the world.

Wife_and_Mama · 2026-01-04T01:27:23+00:00

Find someone equally asexual. There are plenty of people out there who have little to no drive. They should be dating each other. Dead bedrooms are cruel.

moonlitbutterfly117 · 2026-01-03T20:55:28+00:00

Have you had your hormones checked?

Ok_Ground_3857 · 2026-01-03T20:47:19+00:00

What is your goal for dating? Are you trying to find a husband? Are you looking for a romantic partnership that doesn’t include sex?

If so, I would try to find a like-minded man.

TheBunk_TB · 2026-01-04T00:08:03+00:00

Are you expecting the guy or woman to be sexless, too? Be upfront about your issue so you can set free those that might have a problem with it.

Broawa-eyyyyy · 2026-01-05T08:22:03+00:00

You’re swimming upstream on this one. Find an asexual man if you’re straight. If not, I think your odds improve if you expand your horizons.

Be upfront on this one or it will come back to bite you every time.

xxTx-Toymanxx · 2026-01-05T17:51:54+00:00

Honestly, you can only be honest about it but it is likely going to be very very difficult to find anyone who will want a relationship. Sex builds and maintains intimacy and most people want enthusiastic sexual partners.

You may need to consider someone that has the same issues, maybe compromise with an open relationship or similar so they can seek sexual fulfilment elsewhere.

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Title: What advice would you give for a sex-averse woman?

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Full text: Out of curiosity, what dating advice would Red Pill give to women, who are sexually averse?

I mean this in a way where the sexual aversion has already been deemed “incurable” - no amount of sexual therapy or changing partners can change it. The woman is permanently unable to desire sex, and is therefore, functionally asexual.

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6112115 · 2026-01-04T02:04:31+00:00

Suppose the partner paid attention to everything you liked and didn’t like. They would be building themselves up to be everything that you need, on all levels, including sexual.

You would feel safe, cared for, attractive, sexy, loved, appreciated, etc…

Deep down you would notice this and would feel like you are at one with this person.

Generally speaking, women in this scenario don’t cheat, they want to have sex, want to have kids, feel like it’s a deal that makes sense on every level, and are happy to continue on in this relationship.

If your partner doesn’t do this, I personally don’t understand how any women can last or be happy in a relationship. A huge responsibility goes on men when we get into relationships with women, which no one tells us about.

Women have a responsibility to tell the men what they want and don’t want, but this needs to be early in the relationship and in a way that makes sense to the man.

Really, the men should be aware of this from a very young age by their parents, so it seems “normal”.

There are, as it turns out, a lot of factors that go into a healthy relationship where sex is wanted by both parties.

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Title	What advice would you give for a sex-averse woman?
Author	ApprehensiveField986
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	January 3, 2026 8:43 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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