Best Advice I Can Give.

Ok_Builder_3285 · 2026-01-26T19:56:06+00:00

There is no moving on. I will never have anything again. It's been over 4 years. There is nothing after divorce. It's a death sentence.

I'm sure moving on is the best thing, but there's no actual way to do it. Stuck in misery forever.

Plastic_Efficiency35 · 2026-01-25T01:00:41+00:00

Thanks man. Deep and real, my friend.
I needed to hear that today.

Tonyalarm · 2026-01-24T02:24:02+00:00

Your message is honest and powerful. Moving on is not cold, it is survival and self respect. Divorce hurts, but staying stuck hurts more. Choosing yourself does not mean abandoning your children, it means becoming strong enough to protect them. Pain slowly fades when purpose returns. Life does not end with a marriage, it begins again. Anyone in limbo should remember this: your past does not define you, your value remains, and your future is still yours to create.

According-Designer15 · 2026-01-23T20:47:38+00:00

31 with two marriages behind you, five kids with three different moms that you're raising, and you're here four months separated telling struggling guys to move the fuck on with their lives because the marriage, the aftershock, the guilt, the pain, all of it stopped mattering when the union dissolved, probably even before the divorce, and you've made the decision to live and every day is happier than you were in the marriage. Brother, appreciate the encouragement and yeah disengage and take your life back is solid advice, standing by your kids always is the priority, and happiness being a mindset where you choose yourself and your kids instead of ruminating over the loss is real, but here's the thing, you're four months out with a new girlfriend already and saying you've checked out mentally and moved on while the actual divorce is still coming soon, and that timeline feels fast especially for someone who's been married twice by 31 and has five kids to three different moms. Not saying you're wrong about moving on or that your advice isn't valid, but some guys reading this are gonna need more than four months to process betrayal trauma, financial devastation, custody battles, or losing their kids, and jumping into a new relationship that quick after checking out mentally can sometimes be avoidance not healing. The core message is right though, don't let it traumatize you into not living, choose your kids, pick yourself up, life is short and we only get one, just make sure when you're telling guys to move on you're also telling them to do the internal work so they don't repeat the same patterns that led to two divorces by 31. Keep showing up for those five kids brother, that's what matters most.

DoctorQuit · 2026-01-23T18:41:28+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Divorce doesn’t end your story, it just strips away what wasn’t working. What you build next says a lot more about you than what fell apart ever did.

Title	Best Advice I Can Give.
Author	Western-Rush6680
Upvotes	17
Comments	12
Date	January 23, 2026 6:37 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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