was wondering what i am doing wrong ?

becomesharp · 2026-03-17T05:15:03+00:00

Youre doing brute force/numbers game. It's good to get you past the beginner phases but once youve overcome AA, you want to start working on some finesse. You can't just be throwing up the ball every time you get it just to say you took the shot. Gotta start working on form, accuracy, and skill.

Women are frequently telling you that you're too aggressive because youre still doing the "always be closing" methodology. Any good salesman will tell you that that sales strategy is for noobs. Which is fine if youre a noob, but it sounds like you may have graduated past that.

Upgrade your strategy accordingly.

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2026-03-17T05:01:33+00:00

How fundamentals of female dynamics book

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-03-17T08:48:46+00:00

The only thing you are doing wrong im assuming is before you get the number you are not letting the woman know why you are getting it.

Make a plan before you get the number and if she agrees then exchange contact info. If she seems weird or unsure, move on.

Dont just get numbers to get numbers.

vertascend · 2026-03-17T09:02:15+00:00

In my experience, coming on too strong can hurt your chances, when it comes to face to face situations…girls aren’t the best at giving rejections… it’s easier for them to give their details and just flake… it doesn’t require them to show their emotions… so sorry buddy in those instances, the attraction factor wasn’t there that would’ve made them want to stay

You must ease off on the boldness but not too much otherwise you’ll get thrown into the friend zone …. There’s a sweet spot in the middle that’s where you want to be and it takes a little finesse… and that comes from experience

fireqwer · 2026-03-18T15:01:48+00:00

I think you've learn what everyone realises after being inthe game long enough

You can only bang the girls who want you. you can't MAKE them want you. You are doing absolutely fine/all you can do

it's 100% a numbers game. Even for the 'coaches'

burncushlikewood · 2026-03-17T07:47:14+00:00

I'm not sure what you're doing wrong, a lot of guys are not really emotionally connecting with women, women crave romance and closeness, if you're not stirring up her emotions. It's like that episode of Seinfeld where Elaine is attracted to the "bad breaker upper", she is curious as to how these women react after an ended relationship, because a man that can stir up that kind of passion is enticing. Learning how to do this is hard, but if you can focus, just try and build rapport and get to know her as a person and appreciate her personality

Title	was wondering what i am doing wrong ?
Author	confused_8357
Upvotes	2
Comments	32
Date	March 17, 2026 4:24 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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