How to get over the fact that nobody cares about you at all beyond the economic output you're capable of?

Icy-Friendship1163 · 2026-04-21T14:56:51+00:00

When you swallow the black pill is a very painful experience .

Thats the price of wisdom .

It becomes better in the long run.

Worse is being a blisfull idiot.

Find your passion,live for It.

SonOfKong_ · 2026-04-21T18:21:39+00:00

In the last twenty years I have been pursued by a least 6 women because of my financial status. One woman, who incidentally was not one of them, told me in a conversation " rich guys ? I don't see the big deal, it's not like they are going to give you any of it" I laughed so hard she actually got mad at me.

If you look at a lot of women in their, late 30s, 40s and 50s they not doing well financially. They are sick of working shitty jobs and know they will never be able to retire. So if you are moderately successful and not real ugly or goofy looking you are prime man-meat in today's world.

AskTight7295 · 2026-04-21T15:10:37+00:00

I went through this. Girl left me and accused me of not being together etc because I didn’t have a steady job yet and was still working that out. But then I actually did just fine without her and it was mostly a “her problem“. My problem was thinking she would accept me for my passion and sincerity and I wasn’t discerning about her ability to maintain a committed relationship while negotiating the ups and downs of starting out in life.

What happened next, I also found reprehensible. Some women liked me but only because I was able to check the boxes. Many women openly even admit this, they are looking for a man who is “useful” for fulfilling their social, economic, and familial ambitions. But I could not bear to live my life with someone who does not like me for who I actually am. I refuse to be used, these types of women in my opinion should fulfill their own ambitions. I am not the fulfillment of someone else’s spreadsheet of goals.

So I hid my modest middle class success and drove an old crappy car etc. Eventually I found a partner who liked me as I was, and that person got the benefit of a much more competent partner than I outwardly seemed to be. I got to live without this list of expectations and demands placed on me, as I actually already exceeded them for this person. Remember, people who aren’t there for you when you are down, are also no good for you when you are up.

Morden013 · 2026-04-21T16:00:07+00:00

By accepting the fact that 99% of the people don't give a flying fuck about anybody except themselves. It is actually freeing, because you don't have to care about them either. You live your life and you don't own anybody an apology.

The right people will come and then you want to be the healthy and stable version of yourself. You can now move on and make yourself and your life better. Much better.

Wash that blackboard off and start with the new life and new you. It is never too late, but days are not coming back.

I was in your shoes once, at about that age. 8 year relationship ended - I had to end it. I was stuck in a dead-end career. I was still living with my parents. Then I started moving forward and things started falling into place.

All the best.

SaaSWriters · 2026-04-21T16:06:14+00:00

I have people who care about me. And I care about myself. And when I have been down financially, family has helped.

At the same time, I know that as an adult I have to figure things out for myself. I’m not much interested in people’s sympathy for me. So in your case, I cannot see what your problem is.

BlastHardcheese24 · 2026-04-21T16:21:18+00:00

You might want to look into joining a men's support group. If there aren't any that meet in person in your area, you can definitely find ones that meet online. Just be sure it's actually a group that's male positive, not one whose real agenda is to lecture its members about their "privilege."

SidewaysGiraffe · 2026-04-21T20:03:08+00:00

By caring about myself. Becoming the kind of person you admire means that your support means more to you- and as ridiculous as it sounds, that works.

This is an aspect of life that autism makes easier. This is an aspect of life that autism makes easier. (I write that twice because it's a sentence you'll probably never read again). You can't ensure the approval of others- you may be able to improve the odds, maybe drastically, but it's still ultimately not up to you. A pity, but that's reality. So focus on what you CAN do.

What brings you joy that you're able to reliably do, get, or experience? Sunsets are free. Libraries aren't, but they're taxpayer-funded. A few bucks can get you pots, seeds, and soil, and there's something about eating food you grew yourself that nourishes the mind as well as the body (radishes are excellent for this; they'll grow just about anywhere, very quickly, and require almost no maintenance).

Society will tell you that X is what life is all about; instinct says the same of Y. But what your life is about is ultimately up to you. If you can't win on their terms, then maybe you're playing the wrong game. But do you really think you'd be better off flipping over the table when you could just move to a different chair and take out another box?

Full_Marx747 · 2026-04-21T13:39:50+00:00

only your mom truly cares about your well being. i am sorry but that’s life of a man, i wish i had something else to add.

admins_R_r0b0ts · 2026-04-21T17:21:15+00:00

why care what people think who don't care about you?

5ean · 2026-04-21T14:04:02+00:00

You don’t need others to value you in order for you to value yourself. It sounds like you are allowing your negative thoughts to fester; instead, try to keep your mind focused on something with positive impact to yourself. Consider working out (if you don’t already) when you have some downtime; it will help you sleep better, look better, and focus your mind on something productive.

Senior-Friend-6414 · 2026-04-22T01:36:20+00:00

This is why it’s important for men to build relationships with other men. I have friends that make much more than me and much less than me, and we all respect each other and hang out and we don’t judge each other based on how much money we make. Having those kinds of men in your life is life altering

Holden--Caulfield · 2026-04-22T02:44:57+00:00

It'll get better. In 2008 when the economy crashed, my buddy lost his job and he literally searched for a new job 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. After 3 months of no job, his wife left him. He started hanging with his bros, and not caring- then got a DUI.

He eventually picked himself up. He has no college degree and now he's earning $300k/year and married to an amazing woman who earns about the same amount. They are super happy together and life is good.

TL/DR: Keep your chin up and don't let life get you down. The sun will rise tomorrow.

picardathon · 2026-04-22T09:41:52+00:00

Life was given to you through the miracle of creation that created a place in the universe for you to live it out: thats some serious fundamental self worth right there that no other person can touch.

Who says that the life expectation we are conditioned to by society is the only one possible or even desirable?

Most men never explore their fundamental needs and how to get them most readily met, except by a relationship with a perfect woman. Unfortunately that perfect woman has her own mind and wants, that may not coincide with yours.

Think of this point in your life as the wakeup call that perhaps beating your head against the same brick wall but expecting a different outcome is not productive, try a different approach.

I'm firmly of the belief that we each have talents and the best path in life is to develop those talents and in the process achieve happiness through their expression. Talents also tend to be the easiest to express, because they come naturally. It isn't about how much money you make, because money can't buy happiness and anyway, prices always keep ahead of wages.

Pursue your hobbies and interests with other people; develop platonic friendships particularly with other men who perhaps understand you better than women; explore sexual fulfilment through the other possible avenues than vanilla PIV; if you want to experience unconditional love, consider looking after a dog for the long term once your situation better stabilises; etc.

There is beauty and wonder all around you, we just tend to overlook it as unworthy of our time and attention. Stop and smell the roses is an example of this principle. When was the last time you looked deeply into a flower to admire its design and colours, or looked up into the night sky and marveled at all those galaxies, stars and planets?

Become a virtual traveler to see most of the world without spending much money, damaging the environment or worsening climate change.

Grow something, no matter how small and witness the miracle of life flourishing in a suitable environment with its needs being met.

Whilst there is life, there's hope.

Title	How to get over the fact that nobody cares about you at all beyond the economic output you're capable of?
Author	PossessionConnect963
Upvotes	110
Comments	23
Date	April 21, 2026 1:37 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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