Hardest thing for me

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-05-26T04:37:13+00:00

You start by accepting that you don't own her, you never have and never will.
Acceptance and letting go is an art. I am sorry you are going through this. We all have been where you are in some form at some point in time.

UrAristotle · 2026-05-25T11:39:30+00:00

My ex was enough of a cunt to me during the process that it wasn’t a problem.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-05-25T05:23:40+00:00

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Bobby_Digitul · 2026-05-25T01:30:11+00:00

Understand that what you really miss is the connection. You miss the bond. Yes you may always have some level of a soft spot for the woman you were with. The woman who divorced you is not the same one. The woman with another man is not really the same one you were with. It's a primal reflex to think about it, and to feel like you're cheating when another woman gives you the eye, even though you're divorced. Focus on learning emotional regulation for the pain of the split. The thoughts about her with someone else will go away. Hard to believe but at some point you may think about her and feel glad someone else is pursuing her and not you. Harsh idea: think about her having kissed another guy or even worse. Do you want to touch her knowing another man's genetic material is on or in her?

akihonj · 2026-05-24T23:03:30+00:00

She's not yours it was just your turn, soon enough she's going to be somebody else's headache.

Women don't change their behaviour they simply find new ways to blame the new guy for the mistakes of the old guy.

She wants out, pack her bags and hold the door open for her to leave and let her know no matter what she will never be allowed back in your life.

Watch her go, move on and make your life better without her than you could ever have with her.

curiouszm · 2026-05-24T23:02:15+00:00

I don't know your story, but if she left for someone else and you still believe these things you're telling yourself "she's my baby" "she's mine..." You'll suffer so much while she moves on with her current partner. I was going down hill fast and stopped caring for myself, till I realised the person that caused my suffering doesn't give a shit and is enjoying life with her new partner. I discarded the person I married off my head, that person does not exist anymore. I'm focused on stabilising my life, that's all I care about.

But then again, I don't know your story and reason for divorce. So, correct me if I'm wrong.

Apprehensive-Wish330 · 2026-05-24T22:45:09+00:00

I’m in the informal separation state right now. I guess it depends on why you’re getting a divorce. I found out my wife is a cheater and a liar so whenever I start missing the person I knew, I think back to how I felt when I found out. I’m also looking forward to dating again. I have a woman waiting for the divorce to be final and for me to feel healed.

Title	Hardest thing for me
Author	Westchesterguy4468
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	May 24, 2026 3:41 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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