Similarities and differences between searching a job and seduction

South-Excitement1720 · 2026-06-17T08:09:24+00:00

I would say, interviews and dates are not that different, apart from one has a focus on getting a role and a salary, the other is focussed on a more intimate kind of relationship,

That said, body language, tonality, frame control, etc, come into play in both, albeit different ways,

IE. a lot of people enter an interview with the frame of "I must prove my worth" and put the interviewers on a pedestal, where as it might be more effective, to view the interviewers as equals and have the frame of "Lets see if I even want to work here".

vertascend · 2026-06-17T09:31:50+00:00

Life has a way of bringing things around: let me give you an example:

If you’re hot, you sweat to cool yourself down; similarly let’s take a car for example, if it gets hot, the water in the radiator takes the heat away, both use water
Everything is translatable, you referred to finding a date like numbers game when finding a job; similarly if you have a good resume and portfolio; you have a likelier chance to be called for an interview or a date
Now that we have put things in those terms; once you get a job; you have to market, funnel, close and upsell to the customer; just like that you have to put yourself out to a girl, you gotta give a reason to be with you, you gotta weed out the time wasters and rubbish, close on them with a kiss and upsell yourself so she wants to sleep with you

Everything is translatable but not iron clad; while it can be put in these terms, there’s more to life that finding reasons why things are…. Sometimes they just are the way they are… learn to live the process

Special_Rice9539 · 2026-06-17T17:15:45+00:00

Same dynamic of a lot of people competing to sell themselves to a single “chooser”

The job is overwhelmed with a sea of shitty applicants and needs to quickly sift through them, which in turn means the applicants have to optimize for getting past the filters.

It also means the most qualified candidate might not get hired because they aren’t good at the interview process.

As an applicant, you need to apply to a ton of jobs, but as you gain work experience, you become a more attractive candidate for other companies

Pristineonk · 2026-06-17T17:44:14+00:00

Probably not a bad analogy. Also holds up in terms of how you can only seduce the girls who want to be seduced by you. That's why we see even the coaches get rejected so much. Like, you can have great game and use the correct pushpull lines and be confident etc, but if you're not her type, it's never gonna work

Same as how you can be great at job interviews, but if you have no education, you're just not gonna get the job to be a brain surgeon lol

desire always comes first and is necessary (her thinking you are hot, and the company needing someone with your qualifications)

Matter_Still · 2026-06-17T18:10:18+00:00

It has very little in common. If your basis for similarity is that in both you learn something from a previous failure, then “searching” for a girlfriend is not much different than learning to hit a golf ball or parallel park.

As to the differences, the guy interviewing you for a job has no skin in the transaction. You either have that M.S. with three years experience in propulsion systems or you don’t. It’s not personal. It’s very personal when a woman doesn’t even acknowledge your existence.

Most importantly, you’re not likely to take being turned down for the job as hard as you would when you discover that cute girl who you think is into you rejects you.

“You’re not Penske material” is far less uncomfortable than, “I’m just not attracted to short guys” or, “You still live at home. I’ll pass.”

Siyuen_Tea · 2026-06-17T19:04:07+00:00

What you're actually looking for is called sales techniques. You are learning how to sell yourself. The overlap is much larger than people would first think

codecodeyt · 2026-06-17T22:43:56+00:00

Both are rare events. The chance any one girl you talk to will become your girlfriend is very low. Less than 5%, similarly the chance any 1 application becomes your next job is also low less than 5%.

They both work through a funnel. To get a girlfriend you need to like her AND she needs to like you AND you both have to like each other long enough to not ghost each other. Anybody who does dating online understands that people fall off. So it's like a filter, that feels almost like a numbers game.

Just like a job, you would never put all your effort into one application. You would apply to multiple jobs, because you know there is a low chance any one job gets back to you, then you know there is a chance you get an interview but not get the job.

Same with dating, there is a chance you get her number, then there is the chance you go on a date given you get her number.

Both a job and a girlfriend only require one success to change your life. One yes for a job switches you from unemployed to employed, and a consistent string of yes's from a girl will get you a girlfriend.

Title	Similarities and differences between searching a job and seduction
Author	Joy_Boy_12
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Comments	10
Date	June 17, 2026 7:58 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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