Why the obsession with doing everything quickly?

Nervous-Arrogance · 2026-07-16T19:59:49+00:00

Cold approach is different to social circle....

Also I don't have the ability to spend months with every woman. Its approach, put your best self forward, see how she responds and take it from there.

Not approach, spend months chatting, then take it from there.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-07-16T20:34:43+00:00

You're speaking from very limited, if not almost no, personal experience.

I get that talking to your friends can help answer some questions, but a lot of people here will tell you the same thing: the more real dating experience you have, the easier it becomes to connect with women.

Late-Obligation6266 · 2026-07-16T19:59:14+00:00

The logic makes no sense our initial perceptions of a person is sometimes an accurate representation of their character, but not always. I don’t think there should be any timeline. Each person has timing that’s correct for them. We shouldn’t follow these arbitrary rules that have no basis in reality

silver54 · 2026-07-16T20:06:32+00:00

who said become official fast lol. sounds like a high school kids advice

SilentAirline6611 · 2026-07-16T23:32:15+00:00

“Tell her you like in the first 2 minutes, ask her out in the first hour, and become official within the first day or something?”

Leading with clarity protects your future self.

What your friends mean is that when you meet a woman you have to establish where you want to be & what role you want to play in her life.

Communicate what your goals are early on to woman to determine if her own goals align with yours, it’s an effective way to respect both your time and hers.

Being direct about your intentions, set the dynamic straight early are key in the early stages of meeting someone. whether it's a hook up, casual date or a committed relationship.

“People say the girl will decide whether you're boyfriend material in 10 seconds?”

Yes women usually form a strong initial impression and interest very early on within just a few minutes of meeting someone. The attraction they have towards you is sorted out in those first moments and can either increase or decrease over time.

Immediate certainty is not universal of course however If she is interested, she will typically make an effort to keep herself engaged in your presence.

readyforactiontuna · 2026-07-17T06:23:33+00:00

life is too short not to have sex. For example I am 25. Jesus died at 33.Go figure how little time I have to lose my virginity.

haftzabaa · 2026-07-17T06:44:16+00:00

Yes you can get an LTR from your social circle and it doesn't require "game" a lot of the time.

People here are mostly talking about getting laid from cold approach or OLD, where the window is genuinely much smaller because you start off as a stranger and have to schedule meetups and can't let her slowly develop a crush on you over time in a neutral environment. Most of the time in this sort of context if things don't move forward fast they just don't happen. (The only thing that you mentioned that's unnecessary is "become official within the first day", I'm not sure where you got that from).

Just a completely different context with different rules.

yorbb · 2026-07-16T20:09:17+00:00

lol if i decided everything in two minutes, i'd probably just be using my boobs as a magic 8 ball 💖 (s឴឵឴឵឴឵n឴឵឴឵឴឵α឴឵឴឵឴឵p឴឵឴឵឴឵: ivyswiftuo).

Title	Why the obsession with doing everything quickly?
Author	Secure-Ear-6185
Upvotes	8
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Date	July 16, 2026 7:55 PM UTC (6 days ago)
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