How do you handle anxiety?

circlhat · 2014-05-31T21:39:34+00:00

Don't over think it, just go for it. Many times I thought I date would go horrible I thought I would sit there with nothing to say.

Every time I was wrong and the date went fine , I somehow found things to talk about. Which is funny because I would spend hours in my head trying to simulate a conversation and exhausting myself.

You can't think yourself into social skills, just like you can't think yourself into playing guitar. You just have to go out and try

Nubenebbiosa · 2014-05-31T23:30:39+00:00

IMO medication can be used poorly or properly.

Poorly: Use it as a crutch.

Properly: Use it to put yourself in unique and challenging situations, and learn how to handle yourself in these situations you couldn't manage before due to anxiety. Then eventually go off medicine.

I used to have horrific social anxiety, and it was so fucking embarrassing and depressing. Then I used medication but still just sat home. Then I started forcing myself to go out, talk to women, and even started boxing and lifting weights. These are things that without medication I would panic if I tried to do.

Once I built up my confidence, I went off medication. At first things were a little hard, but I had so many experiences of kicking ass at them before that I was comfortable :)

Aalewis__ · 2014-05-31T22:06:14+00:00

xanax

Jewlz32 · 2014-06-01T02:25:36+00:00

You go into something willing to fail, until it eventually becomes natural and you start to improve.

2014-06-01T02:27:51+00:00

I work out until I'm too worn down to care.

I highly recommend.

Occultist · 2014-05-31T21:31:47+00:00

L-theanine and phenibut.

2014-05-31T21:24:49+00:00

Hobbies. Keep yourself busy. You never know how your career or financial issues in life will end up. Keep working hard and networking to ensure yourself a good future, but sometimes worrying about it isn't going to make a single difference. Lift weights, try new hobbies, etc. I too have anxiety about my futures career, but I counter that anxiety by lifting, rock climbing, and mountain biking. Just figure out what works for you, man. Everything else will fall into place.

MetacognitiveMan · 2014-06-01T03:50:27+00:00

Here is a good post covering methods I use successfully: http://psychcentral.com/lib/9-ways-to-reduce-anxiety-right-here-right-now/00017762

9 Ways to Reduce Anxiety Right Here, Right Now

Take a deep breath.
Accept that you’re anxious.
Realize that your brain is playing tricks on you.
Question your thoughts.
Use a calming visualization.
Be an observer — without judgment.
Use positive self-talk.
Focus on right now.
Focus on meaningful activities.

ColdEiric · 2014-05-31T22:01:08+00:00

"Just do it"

OsoFeo · 2014-05-31T23:07:18+00:00

It helps to be social, hang out with friends.

Not only because it feels good, but also because most setbacks can be mitigated by a supportive social network.

maxmangel · 2014-06-01T00:54:34+00:00

One of the main negative effects of anxiety is that it will influence your decision making. You'll avoid something that you really shouldn't. So I find it important to overrule this effect, to make it clear to yourself what is important, and create action rules to follow that excuses can't easily undermine.

limbooo · 2014-06-01T02:26:05+00:00

I haven't been able to figure it out.. Going to need meds I guess.

MattAmoroso · 2014-06-01T04:25:20+00:00

The following is a joke... don't be mad.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDpyS2HN5SA

lawlqq · 2014-06-01T08:05:31+00:00

I like to imagine my self standing on the edge of a cliff looking off into an ocean filled sunset. I breath deeply in my day dream and in reality, and I leap. Just leap... Make the jump. Dive in. For example: tonight was my 5 year class reunion. Got off work around 10 pm, got spiffed up and parked outside the bar. At that moment there was 4-5 minutes of moderate anxiety and I was in the process of convincing myself "I was too tired, and blah blah blah". Then I thought about it... "Just leap dude". And so I did. And I'm so glad. I talked to so many old friends and was able to practice my frame, game and social skills. Today was a good day... all because I decided to make the jump.

chill_geddy · 2014-06-03T20:50:49+00:00

I have a mantra which I have developed for myself in scenarios where I begin to feel anxious or unsure of meself I stop close my eyes breath deeply and say " nothing matters & soon it'll all be over" exhale I repeat that shit till dirty brain thoughts go away

Ironhigh · 2014-06-01T00:20:49+00:00

Force yourself to be arrogant, worked for me.

It's like the "imagine everyone in underwear" but a little different.Always remind yourself that the majority of people are shit and deserve no respect.

Just always hold mean thoughts about others in your head.Though don't let those thoughts out, just keep them to yourself.

SariaLystra · 2014-06-01T00:09:50+00:00

Think about what you can do at this point in time with your own power. What do you immediately need to do that you can accomplish without help from anyone else? This can be something as simple as cleaning your room to something like calculating how much you spent this month.
Realize that if you don't do something, nobody will. This is probably the biggest hurdle because too often, people will do #1 (if they do anything at all) then throw their hands up and say "I give up." This is common in things like coding and group projects where they expect someone else to do the work for them. You just have to rely on nobody but yourself. If you dont do the work, nobody else will.
Take your time to do it well and do it once. It is more costly to do things over again so take your time to focus on one task and one task alone. If you have multiple things due at the same time, work in parallel and organize when you do what. Create a plan and follow that plan UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.

Surrender your free will to a plan you have made for yourself.

Career-wise is probably the hardest because it involves relying on the mercy of someone else. I would say it has to do with how you present yourself to people. First impressions are important so what kind of impression do you want to give? Do you want to be known as someone who can get things done or someone who can give moral support where it needs to be? That question is up to you and how you want to fit into the new job. You can relax a little once your coworkers know you better but basically, your first impression will determine how your coworkers will treat you for the rest of the time you are there so take care of yourself and TAKE YOUR TIME.

Vaganusaurus · 2014-06-01T05:28:55+00:00

I just ignored mine until it went away.

Title	How do you handle anxiety?
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