There is a common belief in my community that "chad" is someone who is just born lucky. I've known a lot of athletes in my day and I saw how hard they had to workout everyday to add just a little more speed, a little more power, etc.

But there is this, almost cope, reply to seeing a handsome man.

"He's born with that!"

"He won the genetic lottery"

"Being over 6 ft is a cheat code."

Now, except for the height, everything about how a Chad looks (muscle wise) is the result of hard work and focus. Even the stuff that isn't muscle can be changed with surgery. So I'm an outlier in my community because I never saw Chad as just existing.

Now here is my question: How much of seduction is learned vs being natural? Or if you want, a product of your childhood.

If Chad isn't made in a lab, and is the result of effort, how much of seduction is learned vs born?

I write this as a 3/10 guy, 40M, who has never even held a girl's hand. I'm no Chad.