My sister: "I feel like I could gain 100 pounds and my SO would still stay with me". I'd like your advice.

Pink_acetaminophen · 2015-01-08T14:27:51+00:00

Go ask TRP

johnnight · 2015-01-08T15:09:19+00:00

Teach HIM, senpai. Teach him to understand his SMV.

stillnoturday · 2015-01-08T17:12:17+00:00

She will dump him.... he will get with a hotter girl after he breaks down he will rebuild himself. That is what it is going to take for him to realise his SMV.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-01-08T14:29:57+00:00

Man here. I know you're looking for advice from the ladies, but I figured I'd jump in.

Firstly, there's almost never anything you can do in these situations. Especially being his GF's brother, he's automatically going to see you as biased in your sister's favor and will usually suspect anything you do or say to him about their relationship as being antagonistic. Even if subconsciously, he'll be thinking of the protective big brother.

However, depending on how well you know him, maybe you could invite him to get a few beers with you and just hang out with him. Make him feel really comfortable with you and get him to open up. Lead the conversation to talking about your sister in a playful way, like "lol, my sister can be crazy sometimes". Try to make it like lockerroom talk, just a couple of guys talking and joking about women, etc. The goal is to open him up to talking about it comfortably, like you're "on his side".

Once there, drop some subtle RP truths, but avoid the jargon and some of the harsher stuff, and calibrate to his reactions. He'll always be a bit guarded about it, since he's going to try to be on good behavior about "the big brother", but the more comfortable you make him feel, and the more you express sympathy with him about "women", etc, the more you'll be able to "get real" with him without shutting him down.

If he starts to really open up, especially if he starts getting in to asking you for advice or starts talking about relationship problems, maybe mention one of the standard RP books (NMMNG, Way of the Superior Man, etc) and talk about how it's "changed your life" with regard to women, etc. Maybe even offer to loan him your copy if you own one or something. Edit: The goal here is to keep it framed from your own experience, and never framed as advice or trying to change him for you sister's sake.

But like I said, most plugged in men are very resistant to RP, and especially since he's your sister's BF, he'll probably be very guarded. But that's the best I can come up with. Treat it like seduction: build "attraction" and comfort -- on a friend level, i.e., be a cool, fun, friendly guy --, then "escalate" the conversation toward subjects like your sister, "women" in general, etc, and calibrate to his reactions.

TheTerrorSquad · 2015-01-08T15:57:12+00:00

WTF is up with all these young women whinging about good men?

nomnompuffs · 2015-01-08T16:40:30+00:00

I hope your sister and her boyfriend can work this out with good dialogue.

Iva3442 · 2015-01-08T15:15:05+00:00

I'm going to go ahead and try to post this one more time.

Give him a copy of this http://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011-ebook/dp/B004W0IRQ8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420726216&sr=8-1&keywords=Married+man+sex+life+primer

Then make damn sure he reads it. You're a guy, so if you go to him and tell him frankly that the relationship is in danger and the sense of comfort he has created is smothering the passion, it's going to mean more coming from you than it will coming from your sister (or pretty much any woman).

MMSL is the best book I've read on balancing alpha traits and beta traits to maintain a relationship's stability and closeness while also maintaining desire and carnal attraction.

Caveat: As your sister's boyfriend steps his game up, his SMV runs the risk of getting to the point where he may be able to pull better women than your sister. Tread cautiously, make sure she's ready to keep improving herself too.

[deleted] · 2015-01-09T00:29:31+00:00

You can't do anything to help "save" someone's relationship. It's entirely their's, you can only offer advice and support. Speak your mind, then move on.

Calla_ · 2015-01-08T15:48:27+00:00

This is so weird I would marry a guy who loved me and cared about me and thought I was sexy even if I become morbidly obese.

SLUDGEBORG · 2015-01-08T14:25:19+00:00

She sounds like a jerk. Tell her to move on. He needs someone who will appreciate his loyalty, and will probably find someone else and more self respect once he does. She's probably not really ready to be tied down anyway.

Iva3442 · 2015-01-08T14:17:30+00:00

Give him a copy of this http://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011-ebook/dp/B004W0IRQ8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420726216&sr=8-1&keywords=Married+man+sex+life+primer

Then make damn sure he reads it. You're a guy, so if you go to him and tell him frankly that the relationship is in danger and the sense of comfort he has created is smothering the passion, it's going to mean more coming from you than it will coming from your sister (or pretty much any woman).

MMSL is the best book I've read on balancing alpha traits and beta traits to maintain a relationship's stability and closeness while also maintaining desire and carnal attraction.

Caveat: As your sister's boyfriend steps his game up, his SMV runs the risk of getting to the point where he may be able to pull better women than your sister. Tread cautiously, make sure she's ready to keep improving herself too.

wendy-fly · 2015-01-11T01:07:16+00:00

I know know. I guess I'd just say she should talk to her boyfriend. Tell him how she feels and then see what he does with it. If he can step up he will and if he can't he won't. And if he can't step up then she needs to decide if she can be loving and faithful and if she can't she needs to leave.

PowerHuffGirl · 2015-01-08T15:54:37+00:00

my sister feels like he think's she's his only option

So she wants the guy to put her under pressure to be the best she can be? She wants to know that he could leave if she didn't do that?

Shouldn't she instead be happy that this man loves her the way she is?

Why does she assume that this man views her as her only option and is unaware of his SMV? What makes her think such a thing? Maybe he's aware that he could get other girls, but he chose her over all these other women anyway because she's something special to him. I don't understand why she doesn't view this as a valid explanation for his behavior and asks to be dread gamed instead.

That's just weird.

The solution doesn't lie in you making that guy swallow the red pill, I think it lies in finding a way to make him let your sister know that he's with her by choice and not because he feels like he has no other options. It's a good thing that he's so loyal to her.

Aerobus · 2015-01-08T17:09:11+00:00

Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should.

I'm going to guess you care more for your sister than for the guy. If that's true, you need to help the guy out and help him understand his SMV.

But what I would do is tell the sister to break up because she's not being fair to the man. He's being a good BF and your sister is already beginning to resent him.

ColdEiric · 2015-01-08T18:14:33+00:00

Drag him to TRP. We'll teach the guy, but he's gonna get hurt in the process.

Show him IanIronwood's blog. Vox Day's AlphaGame.

Title	My sister: "I feel like I could gain 100 pounds and my SO would still stay with me". I'd like your advice.
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Date	January 8, 2015 1:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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