My friends are demanding me to apologize for the changes I've made in my life

BrunoOh · 2015-02-26T23:19:41+00:00

I've also become very outspoken when it comes to my opinions when it comes to traditional gender roles, and I'm not concerned with what my moreso progressive friends think.

Go spend some more time on /r/theredpill and read the sidebar. One of the 48 Laws of Power is "Think as you like but act like others". Basically, don't broadcast things like that. Keep to yourself.

I should mention that they've badmouthed girls in the past just for being more intelligent or having a higher SMV.

I'm just really confused by all of this, and fail to understand why getting in shape and being feminine is "bad" according to them.

Crab bucket mentality. If you put one crab in a bucket, it can escape, but if you put multiple in a bucket, they pull each other back in and "no one" can escape. That's what they're doing here. When someone sees another better than him or her, there are usually two reactions:

1) "I want to be like him/her".

2) "I want him/her to be like (the mediocre) me".

The one you are experiencing is the second. They are trying to hold you back. They want to sabotage you. If you were a guy, I'd tell you to get better friends..I really have no idea how that works for females.

HappySnowGirl · 2015-02-26T23:40:51+00:00

I've also become very outspoken when it comes to my opinions when it comes to traditional gender roles, and I'm not concerned with what my moreso progressive friends think.

Your inner joy and peace will speak for itself. You don't have to be outspokenly opinionated. Another word for that is obnoxious.

You know your friends are progressive and you're trying to bait them. You can't be upset when they bite.

wendy-fly · 2015-02-27T03:03:39+00:00

It could be several things. First, it could be that your changes are intimidating to your friends and they are looking to pull you back in the fold. Second, it could be that you are doing what my newly vegan friends do- inundate my Facebook page with their new religion and intolerant that I don't share their views.

My guess is that it's probably a little of both. You know they are progressive and you are shocked when they question your RedPill posts??? Like HappySnowGirl says, you baited them, don't be surprised when they bite. It's also very annoying to have my social media blown up with someone's new obsession, no matter how much I agree with it. Plus, if you don't care what your progressive friends think, why did you feel the need to write an entire post asking for help with figuring how what they are thinking?

Live your life well. Lead by example. You don't need to shout it from the rooftops that you are trying to better yourself, become more fit and feminine, and have a happy relationship. People will see it and you will influence more people than you ever realize.

RojoEscarlata · 2015-02-27T01:51:30+00:00

I'm just really confused by all of this, and fail to understand why getting in shape and being feminine is "bad" according to them. I need someone to decipher what the hell they're doing.

Because in their eyes you are diminishing their SV, by improving yourself you automatically are setting the bar higher, and for the feminist (leftist of any kind really) the only "logical" thing to do is bring you down to their level of mediocrity(equality)

[deleted] · 2015-02-26T23:43:05+00:00

Live your life and be happy, offer advice when someone asks for your counsel, and state opinions when appropriate (but never in a overbearing/rude manner). Don't apologize for improving your life, but make sure you aren't being snitty/judgmental towards your friends either. You are free to live your life as you wish, just as they are free to do the same.

If the negativity persists, be firm and polite. Explain that you are doing what you need to in order to be happy, and that you aren't going to apologize for that. You may need to distance yourself from some of your friends if they become too pushy.

gprime312 · 2015-02-27T04:39:08+00:00

They're jealous, which means you're doing something right. Good job and don't stop.

sierrasecho · 2015-02-27T01:36:07+00:00

I live my life, which is quite (but not in all ways RP). I talk with my girls, with the guys at school, with my SO, with my family about what I believe (without proselytizing at all - I never say "you should" but just "this is what I find works for me").

I never mention RP terms at all. I never refer to this subreddit. My girls especially are as liberal and "progressive" as they come (and from the perspective of a liberal west coast Canadian city). Most agree with what I say, even if it irks them. I don't care to convert anyone. Proof is in the pudding, when both men and women say to both my SO and I "I want what you two have."

VarsitySlutTeamCpt · 2015-02-27T05:20:53+00:00

I think the best thing for you to do is accept everyone but keep doing what your doing. Be a wolf in sheep's clothing. If they call you out based on your actions then unleash your beliefs and why you stand by them. Lead by actions not by words.

eatplaycrush · 2015-02-27T01:01:50+00:00

I know with all of this being newer and exciting you feel as if you just found a great secret to life and you're becoming happier so you want to tell everyone, but don't. You need to think for yourself, but blend in. Don't draw more attention to yourself then you need, focus on making your life outstanding. People will always judge anything that focuses on maintaining a positive and healthy life because it takes constant effort and it isn't easy, they don't want to ever have to be put in the position where they might actually have to try.

You have to let people decide for themselves. If they decide they want a better life, then I bet you'll be the first person they start talking to about ideas on how to improve. Until then, don't be confused. Realize this is the reality of the world, people are sheeps, and a small percentage actually carry their OWN thoughts while being an efficient, progressing, positive person.

RPB1 · 2015-02-28T18:34:31+00:00

As everyone else has indicated: you are a threat. These types of women don't like it when one of their own raises the bar because the idea of working hard to secure a worthwhile man offends the hamster.

They don't like the idea of not being good enough or you getting all the attention because the contrast draws too much attention to their own faults. They'd rather Prince Charming just shows up and give em Princess treatment while they lounge on the couch watching Orange is the New Black as a pile of potato chip fragments pile up in their wine-stained lap. Women like that prioritize ego over self awareness and self actualization.

Avoid being preachy but don't take their shit. They want you to apologize to validate their attitudes and lifestyles. Living well is the best revenge.

RatherPlayChess · 2015-02-28T21:58:54+00:00

Guy lurker here. If we were dating and you had that type of judgmental friend, it might cause me to think less of you. I am really only attracted to someone who considers their own opinion of themself before considering others' opinions.

ColdEiric · 2015-03-01T10:56:20+00:00

I'm just really confused by all of this, and fail to understand why getting in shape and being feminine is "bad" according to them. I need someone to decipher what the hell they're doing.

Because they don't believe that it's possible to become what you are trying to become. They don't believe as you do, that they can get a better life. They wish or dream, but they lack the courage in their hearts to try. So they quit, and they demoralize you, because they don't want you to leave them alone. They want you to stay with their constant pity-party, which you ought to leave.

giraffe34 · 2015-02-27T15:58:40+00:00

You could tell her to eat a bowl of dicks :)

Title	My friends are demanding me to apologize for the changes I've made in my life
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Upvotes	23
Comments	16
Date	February 26, 2015 11:05 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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