Do I tell my 2 bestfriends(bluepill)of 10 years that their gf's cheated on them?

Ur_not_cookaine · 2017-06-08T15:02:04+00:00

It's a tough one. A real friend would thank you. I remeber there was a time when my best friend was cheated on, I kept it away from him for about 3-4 weeks. I didn't want to hurt him.

When i finally gave in a told him he was devastaded at the fact that I didn't do it right away. I think that shot his trust in me...even though I told him, I waited and did the wrong thing.

I say DO IT, that girl you banged wouldn't wait a second to blab if the roles were reversed. If they get mad and aren't thankful, they aren't real friends and are too deep in the BETA swamp.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-06-08T15:37:50+00:00

Tell them. If they get mad and you lose them as friends, that's even better. They were too weak and beta to be your company anyway. You're the average of your 5 best friends.

shredzro · 2017-06-08T15:00:33+00:00

Would you want someone to tell you if your girl was taking dick by somebody else?

GreenPiller · 2017-06-08T15:24:30+00:00

Tell them. But oneities is a mental disease, be ready to lose a friend or two. You have to tell them either way, better now than mid divorce rape and alimony.

nrjk · 2017-06-08T15:19:44+00:00

Tell them. Either the girls have cheated already, will cheat again, or are currently cheating. To me, looking at people's obliviousness and maintaining that unknown truth in an inner circle drains me.

There is no honor in cheaters. There is honor in truth even if it damages the friendship.

Maybe tell them anonymously somehow. But if a guy gets pissed you told him the truth, that guy isn't worth saving as a friend.

DadOnDabs · 2017-06-08T15:30:09+00:00

Tell them and show them in texts. Just say xxx told me and here are the texts to prove it. Then take them out for a night on the town and try to get them laid.

Metalageddon · 2017-06-08T15:55:24+00:00

I took the risk and did it.

One of my friends was dating a 9. Hot, darker skimmed Brazilian, gamer girl, intelligent. Very hot. Unfortunately a lush.

About 2 months in, she, in front of him, starts talking about how she has dreams of me saving her, and it weird shit. Major flag. He kept dating her after we both chastised her.

About a year in I found out when she was low on cash she'd fuck her dealer for more weed. Sometimes a few tabs as well. "Well, blowjob for mids, sex for heads."

This had been their usual arrangement for quite a while.

I didn't want to tell him, but I figured hell, either he'll appreciate it, or he's not really a good friend and I know for the future, i can't save him.

Luckily it turned out to be the former. He was mad, not at me, but at what he found out, and we're still great friends today. (It's been about 8 years since). He's one of my 3 best friends, family by all accounts. He'll beat the truth into me if necessary, and I'd do the same for him.

Look, you'll end up distancing from him anyway if you say nothing. So you might as well pull the hail Mary and give it a shot. You'll end up estranged or better for it. Instead of awkward distancing then estrangement essential guaranteed.

Scrubpuppy · 2017-06-08T16:04:57+00:00

If you don't you KNOW you will regret it for the rest of your life. You'll see these people all the time, knowing that they're probably doing it over and over and over to them.

Be a fucking man and tell your friends.

FrameWalker · 2017-06-08T16:27:01+00:00

Only for close friends. I have kept my distance and my mouth shut otherwise. It's a shame but it's just not your place if you aren't close.

Entrefut · 2017-06-08T16:35:06+00:00

If they're really your best friends, tell them. But don't say it in a vindictive, I want to break up your relationship way. You need to address it in a, I don't like keeping secrets from friends way. Don't tell them to break up, or stay together. Just tell them what happened and what she said and then how she reacted the next day, then say you don't know what to think about it, but you don't want to hide something from friends. If they're really bluepill, I'd tell them you don't completely believe it and the friend could just be trying to start drama. Whether that's true or not doesn't matter, your friends will think about it and know there's a possibility their girls cheated on them. This way when it happens again, they'll have been partially prepared.

If you hide this, keep this in your mind, you will always disrespect the situation your friends are in and the girls they are with. Once your friends know the truth you'll see what kind of men they are and how they handle something like this in their life.

tacko276 · 2017-06-08T18:13:56+00:00

Do you have solid proof? That's the first point. You need to show him a pic or something. Other wise girls just deny till they die

[deleted] · 2017-06-08T16:26:32+00:00

Don't be a puss. Tell them. Their butt hurt is their problem.

Mike377774774 · 2017-06-08T16:26:38+00:00

Tell them, do it.

UEMcGill · 2017-06-08T17:11:26+00:00

Get the girl to do the dirty work for you if you can.

I knew a girl in college, starts telling me "I can't decide between Dick or Harry I'm dating both of them"

I'm like "what the fuck, you know they're both my friends?"

"bitch you better tell both of them or I will"

And that's what she did, thinking they'd both try to woo her. Except her pussy wasn't worth it and they both ejected her.

[deleted] · 2017-06-08T17:28:22+00:00

You tell them because you would want someone else to tell you in that situation.

You trust that they're actually friends and will appreciate, if begrudgingly, that you treated them like adults when no one else would. And if they take you out of their lives, they did you a favor anyways.

chachaChad · 2017-06-08T17:38:45+00:00

FUCK THAT! CALL THEM NOW IF YOU'RE ANY KIND OF FRIEND TO THESE GUYS!

Call them and tell them on the phone or meet them face to face. This is important, emergency level information that you should not withhold. Fuck that the relationships are IN A GOOD PLACE. NO THEY ARE NOT. Your friends are in relationships where they do not have all the information. They are with untrustworthy women who are putting their physical safety at risk. THEY NEED TO KNOW ASAP.

It sucks and it's going to be hard for them to hear and they won't believe you. Do it. Stop fucking around in here and go tell both of them.

do_it_or_leave · 2017-06-08T17:47:39+00:00

Ask if he would tell this kind of rumors to you or to your other friend.

If he says yes tell him, otherwise say nothing. Just don't swear it happened because another girl told it, and it can me a lie.

To be honest the last sentence changed my mind. I wouldn't say anything because I didn't see anything.

VedranG · 2017-06-08T15:11:33+00:00

It's your obligation to tell them.

_the_shape_ · 2017-06-08T16:15:33+00:00

If you decide to tell them, understand and accept the risk of doing so and be prepared for a similar outcome to the one who got angry at you once upon a time - they might even stop being friends with you altogether.

To these sort of guys, the alternative is too harsh - accepting that they're gullible cucks, that there's another guy out there who their girls find irresistible (and that you yourself know this for fact), that they may have to endure a drought if they split with their girlfriend, that they may believe this to be the best they can get, so are unwilling to let get of her so easily, that their girlfriends are not as innocent as they think they are.

Keep all of this in mind before you make your decision.

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-08T16:17:13+00:00

You are not a part of the sisterhood, you need to tell them. Not telling them earns you absolutely nothing but another fuck or two with a chick.

It's really unlikely that they get pissed at you for telling. Encourage them to charge high for the indiscretion, should they chose to stay with the girls.

Docbear64 · 2017-06-08T15:02:23+00:00

I have experience with this, where couple of years back I told a friend, and he basically got angry at me and we stopped being friends after almost 10 years.

I get wanting to be honest and look out for your bros but you see that your good intentions can and will fuck up your good relationship . It's judgement call is ruining your friendships worth them seeing the truth in their own relationship ?

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to that, I personally wouldn't say anything but then again I don't have two really close friends in the first place.

showerdudes99 · 2017-06-08T16:56:56+00:00

How come you haven't told either of your "friends" about the red pill?

Title	Do I tell my 2 bestfriends(bluepill)of 10 years that their gf's cheated on them?
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Date	June 8, 2017 2:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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