My older Sister is cheating on her BB fiancé

Lsegundo · 2015-10-07T13:42:31+00:00

Eh. Don't involve yourself.

If you absolutely must, get hard evidence and send it to him anonymously on a burner email from a library computer. (This is what I'd personally do if it was a close bro)

argentinean · 2015-10-07T13:23:58+00:00

Just don't. You will blow your relationship with your sister, and the guy may even forgive her and hate you.

And don't resent your sister for getting what she wants without having to work hard for it.

Read the sidebar.

1NV0K3R · 2015-10-07T13:34:16+00:00

not your problem

dabrah1 · 2015-10-07T16:28:21+00:00

my advice, let her live her own life. If you do end up telling her, be prepared for her to resent you, your parents might feel some way about you betraying your sister, and theres a good chance the fiance will forgive her and end up hating you too.

balalasaurus · 2015-10-07T19:40:03+00:00

What you're asking is a moral question. TRP is amoral so any answer you'd find here will reflect the poster's sense of morality.

In light of that, what's your relationship with the fiancé? If you consider it worthy enough of telling him, then do it. But don't do it because of any feelings you have towards your sister. That's petty and the antithesis of everything we advise here.

Your sister will be able to find another BB. Will you be able to find another genuine friend though? Only you can answer that.

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T13:49:37+00:00

Definitely tell him. Gather all the evidence you can, give it to him, and let him make the decision.

butt_nutter · 2015-10-07T13:50:04+00:00

Yes. Stop that train wreck now. Just man up and tell him straight what you know and how you know it. Don't spend a lot of time on it and don't worry about it after you're done. THEN it's their problem.

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T15:55:12+00:00

As a man, you need to do what you think is right. You make your decision and own it. You do it for your own moral compass, to live your life. Fuck what others think.

The only thing men have is what we make for ourselves. We aren't giving anything. That being said what will you lose? A relationship with some free loading sister? What does she add to your life? Parents that allow that shit? Odds are they just don't want to rock the boat so this leach can latch on to someone else. ie. Passing on their problem to some unsuspecting chump.

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T15:49:55+00:00

Not your problem. Your sister is just playing the game. Hate the game, not the player.

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T18:16:30+00:00

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0kool74 · 2015-10-07T16:17:28+00:00

Yes....he should be told. Anybody that can be unplugged should be unplugged. Now.....he may not believe it, and there's nothing you can do about that. However, if I were in that position and wasn't told, I'd be pissed!!!

I have also cut off family members for this kind of chicanery. Just because your parents let her skate by and don't do anything about it, you have been unplugged and the bro code is in order. She doesn't deserve to have the opportunity to destroy a man.

exbp · 2015-10-07T17:21:00+00:00

Tell him! Save future him and their kids alot of heartache. You'll have to witness so much more of this if you don't. But do it anonymously, don't burn your relationship with your sis. Both of them will grow and learn from this.

Imagine the same situation a few years from now, she'd be passing off that kid as his...

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T14:27:23+00:00

Be happy someone is supporting your sister and she won't be destitute when your parents pass away.

Resent your sister all you like, but her relationship is none of your fucking business if it doesn't directly effect you.

Getting involved in other peoples' business like that when you have no place to is classless manipulative white knight garbage.

rurpe · 2015-10-07T14:39:01+00:00

The real issue is your anger for your sister. You need to learn to accept reality for what it is (awalt, af\bb, etc) instead of holding on to your blue pill fantasies (love, honor, etc). You wouldn't get mad at a fish for swimming around acting like a fish and you shouldn't get mad at your sister for acting like a woman.

Having said that, if a lot of people know about the cheating, an anonymous letter could do the trick. It should include a copy of the book "no more mr nice guy".

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T15:09:19+00:00

It's an ethical dilemna but it is none of your business. This guy will most likely put his blinders on like most BB dudes with a high SMV girl. You'll damage your relationship with your sister. Let him learn the hard way, it's the only way.

FrameWalker · 2015-10-07T14:39:02+00:00

Odds are he knows and it's kept hushed up. You can't speak to him directly and you can't speak to your sister directly either. You can't be the white or black Knight here.

When a lion kills a gazelle do you weep? Women are deadly. Never marry.

If you're feeling wreckless anonymously tell the fiance. If your sister told you in confidence, then you risk being ostracized from your whole family.

slurmfactory · 2015-10-07T14:12:34+00:00

Tough call. I didnt tell a friend her fiancee cheated, he did it again and she found out and divorced. Woulda saved them a lot of wasted time. Your sister cheated, got pregnant and had an abortion. Id tell her how you feel and say she needs to tell him herself as you dont like hiding and lying.

[deleted] · 2015-10-07T20:29:01+00:00

Perhaps more important than what you should do is the question. "What would he do with the info?"

Would he use it to understand women better? Would he think it's just her because she's an example of bad women, as opposed to good women? Or, even worse, blame himself and try to prove himself by upping the beta?

Govedo13 · 2015-10-07T20:30:52+00:00

Don't tell him. The mating game is immoral by its nature. Read the sidebar first and take some time to understand it, then you would know why women behave like that, they have their logical and biologically based reasons to be like that, don't hate your sister for being a woman.

This is classical hypergamy case- your sister acts quite normally- she locks a man that would provide for her social and financial needs while fucking others that provide for her physical needs.

You cannot either fix your sister or her beta provider. For you and your parents it would be better if she marries him and he provides for her, so she is not your problem financially or otherwise.

Meanwhile focus on your own life. Fix, change and develop things that directly affect your personal well-being because if you don't one day you would be at the said cuckolded guy place.

MightyTaint · 2015-10-07T21:01:09+00:00

How did you find out this info OP?

What's your relationship like with your sister's fiance? If she and he split, would you still know him?

pickledpeas · 2015-10-07T21:50:43+00:00

Leave a post-it note stuck to the underside of the toilet seat in his house saying:

''sorry your woman is cheating on you''

I would even say to visit r/theredpill on the note. Some would disagree on that matter.

He really should know about the abortion though.

awalt_cupcake · 2015-10-08T01:55:47+00:00

To hell with everyone saying don't involve yourself. Send an anonymous email, tell the dude personally, do what feels right to you even if it includes burning fucking bridges.

[deleted] · 2015-10-08T19:12:09+00:00

As much as I hate drama, I'd give the guy some sort of heads up. I mean, she's your family and all, but is not only that she cheated on him, but she had to have a fucking abortion as a result...There's no men in this earth that can do me wrong enough to wish that future upon them.

reznov_01 · 2015-10-07T14:19:58+00:00

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favours_of_the_moon · 2015-10-07T14:29:59+00:00

Hahaha, make her get you something really really good for Christmas!

Title	My older Sister is cheating on her BB fiancé
Author	Trpaltacc
Upvotes	2
Comments	33
Date	October 7, 2015 1:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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