Dating Girl Who Loves Sex, But Refuses Blowjobs

vandaalen · 2015-05-14T20:42:38+00:00

She's pimping you by holding back what you want most. Don't let her.

Next time if you see her, do not ask her. Extend foreplay a little bit and make her really horny. Be very dominant - biting, pulling her hair and all that.

Then get up and command her "Get on your knees." When she's down, tell her to suck your cock. If she refuses, calmly take your clothes and put them on. Don't say a word. You don't need to rush, but make sure that you come off like you mean it. Also try not to come of as being sulked.

If she doesn't try to hold you back just leave and soft next for two weeks. Ignore all the drama which will arise. Then repeat. If she fails to comply hard next.

If she's trying to hold you back by talking you into it without sucking your dick keep on putting your clothes on.

If she asks why you are leaving tell her something along "I think I left the oven on.", or "I just remembered I've got an important meeting tomorrow early in the morning."

redpilldude · 2015-05-14T21:29:53+00:00

Well, first you shouldn't be "negotiating" for blowjobs. Negotiating for blowjobs does not turn on women.

If she isn't interested in giving you a blowjob, then you just need to decide whether you want to be in the relationship. There are many women out there who enjoy giving blowjobs. What makes her special?

If I were you, I would just hard next.

Strangeclouds420 · 2015-05-14T20:24:45+00:00

eh, you're making it a bigger deal than what it should be which is resulting in her feeling like she has some power play advantage. She obviously is willing to give them but just be cool about it for a bit if you plan on keeping her around as a plate. If you want a bj right now and it's non-negotiable then you need to next her.

livingthedreamnow · 2015-05-14T21:01:08+00:00

Depends on what you want man,, hopefully she's only a plate. For god's sake don't text about it anymore though. Logistics only.

If the good sex is enough for you to want to keep this plate spinning,,, then I'd ignore this, and enjoy the good sex.

If you don't really care, then when you see her, tell her that while her comments about her other qualities might be true, you're with her in a physical relationship and it seems that she's either unwilling, or unable to meet your physical needs, so you'll be pursuing other opportunities. Tell her she's a good girl, and you're sure she can find someone willing to settle for no BJ's, but it aint you.

If your value is high enough, she'll bitch you out (handle accordingly),,, but she'll be blowing you. If she doesn't see your SMV as being high enough, she'll bail,,, and you can hit up a plate who is an enthusiastic knob gobbler instead.

johnnycaustic · 2015-05-15T00:58:03+00:00

I have to disagree with the guys suggesting you try to control her. It sounds like this girl is genuinely attracted to you and likes sex with you, so it's not an attraction problem. If that's right, maybe she's one of those rare girls who just genuinely hates giving blowjobs, and control-freaking her isn't going to change that. It's okay to continue to request them occasionally, but don't try to negotiate for them; that's weak.

The way to deal with girls who won't give you something that's important to you is to assign them a lower place in your hierarchy of plates. You mentioned having two fuckbuddies who will give blowjobs. If blowjobs are important to you, spend less time and emotion on this girl and more on girls who will give you what you want. If she asks why you're giving her less attention, explain politely that you're reserving most of your time to look for a girl you'll be fully satisfied by. (Make sure you say this in a cool, relaxed way, with no hint of anger.)

A woman who gives you good sex, but won't give you blowjobs, is better than nothing, at least until you're too busy with something better. Just don't give her more priority than she deserves.

TL;DR: Lead women, but don't try to control them; it's futile. Instead, demote them to a lower place among your plates (or not a plate at all), and if they want to rise, sweetly let them know what's holding them back.

thebadmanpuntdbaxter · 2015-05-14T23:57:49+00:00

My opinion, tighten your frame.

The first page is fine, but don't bargain for bjs. She should suck your dick because pleasing you is the most important thing in her life. If you start making it an exchange your on the fast road to a BB dead bedroom.

And saying that you actually need them? I cringed. If you were trying to be sarcastic it was not obvious. All you did is give her power over you. If you "need" something, you get it because you're chad thundercock and you get what you fucking want. You dont handcuff yourself to the pussy and hand her the key.

And "lol" reeks of indecision and insecurity in the wrong context. Laughing at her for expecting you to pay is more of amused mastery in this context. Giggling when you were trying to be firm? You told her that your firmness is up for negotiation

Real8inchDong · 2015-05-15T03:44:27+00:00

Wouldn't waste my time..If a girl doesn't suck dick that's automatically a disqualifier. What's the point in messing with her when there's literally millions of women that suck dick AND have sex everyday?

rhettdu · 2015-05-15T17:58:00+00:00

It's cool. just get your blowjobs somewhere else. In fact suddenly not mentioning it any more might clue her in.

It sounds pretty needy, frankly

Title	Dating Girl Who Loves Sex, But Refuses Blowjobs
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Date	May 14, 2015 8:19 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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