Has anyone seen benefits from avoiding porn/masturbation?

[deleted] · 2014-10-02T06:41:44+00:00

From the perspective of a married man:

-my wife looks subjectively hotter to me when I'm not comparing her to porn stars

-I'm into my 30s, so I don't have an unlimited sex drive anymore. Fapping releases the pressure. I prefer to save the pressure for the real thing. Nothing worse than your wife saying she's in the mood and you've just exhausted your resources. Not saying I can't perform, but I perform Better with a full tank if you know what I mean.

40_SixandTwo · 2014-10-02T06:04:18+00:00

I've seen alot of benefits. Personally, I've been going strong two weeks without porn and I feel a ton better. I'm not exhausted and depressive all the time.

AFPJ · 2014-10-02T18:41:45+00:00

Yes, how is this still up for debate? Here are the basics:

If you have sex at least once every two weeks, don't masturbate.
If you haven't had a release in the last two weeks, it's best to fap.
protracted NoFap can (not necessarily) lead to health problems.
Don't jack off to (or even watch) porn, it fucks your brain up.

Darvo1 · 2014-10-02T07:17:07+00:00

I had the exact same issue, took me at least 40 minutes before I could finish while I was jerking it regularly. Since stopping, I can finish in 10 minutes (a much better amount of time for both ) due to increased sensation. Its amazing how much harder I can get . while fapping, could only manage about 80% during sex, whereas when I wasn't, it was closer to 95%. Of course there are other factors, but I think that yes, stopping masturbating has had quite a positive impact on sex for me.

[deleted] · 2014-10-02T07:52:29+00:00

I was on nofap until I "relapsed" after 3 weeks and I began again yesterday. During those 3 weeks I most certainly noticed a confidence boost, a slight change in voice (which I assign to my constant struggle to control myself) and a need to redirect this energy in some other way (which I did by exercising).

It's definitely not for everyone but if you find yourself messing with your pleasure stick as soon as it's ready to play with then you might give nofap a go.

648262 · 2014-10-02T09:59:48+00:00

More time for other stuff.

First ejaculation after two weeks is surreal.

uberrific · 2014-10-02T14:21:55+00:00

Porn is most likely the root of your DE issue. It was for me.

kingofpoplives · 2014-10-02T18:36:21+00:00

I've read somewhere that male testosterone peaks around 1 week post ejaculation, and this corresponds with my experience. If you only clear the pipes once a week you'll feel more energetic and aggressive. If you go longer than that you'll start to get achy balls and t-boost will fall off.

karmacrunch · 2014-10-02T10:41:11+00:00

Yeah I suffer from delayed ejaculation, last night i was fucking some girl and she went down on me for like 1 hour and a half, couldn't cum and I had trouble keeping it up after like 2 hours of sex, I jacked off before I went to the club (bad idea) and i clean the pipes like twice a day so I wasn't in the best of states, had to finish by jacking myself having her suck on my balls. Would of liked to cum when fucking her or when she was sucking.

needsmoretrp · 2014-10-02T15:15:16+00:00

Everyone is different so your mileage may vary. I cut out all porn and vary rarely fap anymore (if I do I edge). I think it makes the real thing feel better. I have regular lays though, (pretty much on demand). If I didn't I'd probably fap more but I definitely think for me porn fucks with my head

I'd say at least try cutting out porn and start to lessen your faps (stop the death grip shit too). See what it does for you, you can always adjust.

jdoe5 · 2014-10-02T16:43:17+00:00

I've stopped for about a month now and the main thing I noticed is I don't have as much anxiety about approaching women. Could be placebo effect, but to me it seems like there's something to it. You don't realize how lazy it makes you until you stop.

itsemalkay · 2014-10-02T07:22:33+00:00

Yes, I am on NoFap. I have +300 days, and I can tell you that I saw massive muscle gains and a higher sex drive. I also saw a confidence boost and more energy throughout the day.

tombreck2 · 2014-10-02T04:52:16+00:00

My first 200+ times having sex was unprotected (3 college LTRs) and once I started hooking up with non-LTRs using a condom I could not finish. The first 25 times using a condom I had to fake it. Is that what your issue is?

usul1628 · 2014-10-02T11:56:57+00:00

tried it for a few weeks and while there are upsides, the excess energy etc made it too difficult to fall asleep at night, no matter what I tried, and I prefer sound sleep over the benefits of nofap

confuseacatlmtd · 2014-10-02T07:06:14+00:00

I think limit it. No need to go crazy. If you know when you are getting laid, don't jerk it the night before or all that day. I usually do one a day now but sometimes I do two. Much better than I used to be.

TheDamnedEngineer · 2014-10-02T12:45:05+00:00

If your problem is a difficulty to finish get a fleshlight, and the most simple you can get.

Just avoid fapping and when you must do, use it.

deville05 · 2014-10-02T08:29:08+00:00

I think for me its different that the people commenting. I have been having sex for 11 years and masturbating for more than that. Ive masturbated and had sex. And ive had sex and masturbated too. They seem to be completely separate for me. There have been days when ive not masturbated because i fucked a lot... But there havnt been days when ive not fucked cuz ive masturbated a lot.

I dont seem to compare pornstars in terms of how they look to the normal women, but i do compare skills or techniques or get inspiration from porn about trying different things. Also another thing i have is that when i watch porn it triggers me to visualise memories. I can very seldom jack off to people i havnt had sex with. Its mostly only girls ive fucked or know well enough that i want to fuck. I cant imagine a stranger and jacking off to her. I cant even watch porn with new porn stars..

I feel jacking off helps me cuz i really need to release to function properly. My brain does not work. I cant really talk to chicks calmly if im backed up. Ill fuck up n act desparate.

Title	Has anyone seen benefits from avoiding porn/masturbation?
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Date	October 2, 2014 4:49 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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