Hey there, I've been lurking trp for a while now, and while I agree with most of what is said, I still like giving people the benefit of the doubt. Now onto my story.

My gf and I gave been together for about one and a half years now. I'm currently seriously considering leaving her; here is why:

Immediately after we started going out, she continued texting and fb messaging her ex-fwb, even going so far as to hang out with him without me. When they would go for pizza, I asked why I couldn't take her. Her response "it's our thing". While I realize now I should have just dropped her, this was my first actual relationship, and first time having sex. My judgment was clouded. Anyway, I put a stop to that shit immediately.

I remember one day where she just straight up for into his car and left while I was making soup. I told her that that kind of shit was unacceptable, and she stopped talking to him altogether.

Fast forward a bit, and some more shit happens. There's this guy, call him M. M used to date my gfs twin sister, and after that they hooked up even when my gfs twin was in relationships.

So my gf is constantly talking to M. I ask her why she always talks to him, she says he's like an emotional dump for her. I shrug it off. Later, there is an instance where I can tell she's upset (she's been depressed for a long time), and I ask what's wrong. She says nothing. I say okay, if you say so, and then she immediately starts taking to M. I sneak a look at what they're saying, and she's shit talking about me to M. I am furious.

Fast forward some more. I see that M is hitting on my gf, she wasn't really responding to it at all, but he constantly suggests cheating on me with him. She declines.

Now apparently one night, M went to her place. He brought weed, and they apparently played an online game together while high all night. Which makes no sense because a) it's online, why would he needs to go over there, her internet can't even handle YouTube, and b) I've asked her to play that same game with me many times before, and she declined every time.

Every time I've confronted her about this situation, she gets extremely emotional and asks me why I won't believe her when she says nothing happened. (Does she think I'm retarded?)

On top of that, she's told me that she's never had a threesome (keep in mind that she apparently would never lie to me, as she says that she hates liars and would never do that to me), I did some digging and found a conversation from a few months before we met that goes something like this : Guy: so can I come over on new years? Gf: I kinda... Had a threesome planned.. Guy: oh.. Gf: would it make it more urgent for you to come here? Guy: if I could stop said threesome, than yes Gf: well I guess I could... Idk... Hang out with my mom

Now when confronted with this, she gets very upset, and days that's how her and her exfwb used to 'joke around'. Yeah fucking right. And when I asked the other guy involved with this, he said that what happened that night was personal, and he doesn't want to talk about it (I had asked him what happened that new years, and I don't really know the guy that well). I also don't particularly care if she did, but she always said that she wouldn't lie to me, and she said that she hasn't done anything sexual with anyone else that she hasn't done with me.

So asktrp. What do you think of the situation. I know how blind you all night think I am, but please, only constructive comments here. I am at my breaking point, which is why this post might seem messy, so I'm sorry for that. I just feel like absolute shit because her depression had gotten worse, and she said it's because I won't believe anything she says. She says having the one person in your life who you care about the most not believing you is torture. (She has no friends)

What the fuck did I do to deserve this bullshit as a first relationship.