Shit Tests and Complaints of Legitimate Health Issues (Noob)

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-24T21:35:20+00:00

Ugh. You're one of those sailors who can't fit through the escape hatch, aren't you...

Ill make it simple, dependapotamus don't want dick, she wants a paycheck that's out of the country half the year.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-09-24T23:57:42+00:00

Get the fuck out before one of her ovulations trip and accidentally speared by your fat slow moving sperm.

This woman is treating you as a paycheck.

I hate reading this stuff it triggers PTSD.

[deleted] · 2017-09-25T00:46:59+00:00

Read the sidebar. Your marriage is over, we might be able to fix you, but there is no fixing your lazy, miserable, worthless hypochondriac of a wife. In fact you should just leave her now and move into a small apartment above a gym. Just have your bed and motivational pictures of real men up all over the walls. At least you are starting to exercise. Fix your diet as well fat ass.

welshmin · 2017-09-25T00:51:23+00:00

I know these responses are brutal, and since you've posted in dead bedrooms, might not be what you're used to...

I hope you take it for a wake-up call man. Tough lovin'

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-09-25T01:37:03+00:00

One anecdotal thought;

If you impregnate this woman you deserve EVERYTHING that happens to you.

And don't come back here if you DO get her pregnant.

bogeyd6 · 2017-09-24T21:36:22+00:00

Get what you are doing here, would start with SL5x5 at the 45lb bar and go up from there. If you need assistance with form or technique I would recommend searching for a power lifting gym and paying for a few hours of training. If you get hard core on problems, you can private message me videos and I will show you where your form is incorrect. You can also use /u/gaylubeoil and his skype service.

iamtheswoop · 2017-09-25T01:09:01+00:00

My wife has Fibromyalgia and Severe depression and anxiety. All I can say is the diseases become a very convienent excuse to get out of the intimacy in a relationship when men in the relationship are completely unattractive. The woman who is attracted and wants to have sex is the woman who will do whatever it takes to get fucked by that man. And if it's not you it's someone else. I was in your boat and was completely unattractive so it was no wonder she didn't want to be near me.

Count your lucky stars you don't have kids because once you do everything gets far more complicated. As everyone has pointed out you are Beta AF and your relationship is over. Move on and improve yourself, Read the fucking sidebar, the rational Male, book of Pook. Get your head out of your ass and regain your freedom. She is doing you a favor, you can finally become a man.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-09-24T22:12:14+00:00

After reading your post in r/deadbedrooms, which was quite informative BTW, I'll offer you this...

You are a typical, pussified, beta loser piece of flotsam and jetsam floating in the ocean of shit that is your life.

Your wife has told you no oral again, ever. You're masturbating in the shower with her consent, EXCEPT when she's ovulating because you are actually trying to have kids.

Can that even be fucking true? Really?

Is she even medically fit enough to grow a child in her?

I'm tired.

Tired of you baby making mother-fuckers coming to the top of the reddit mountain to get serious fucking answers to your serious fucking problems.

Normally I'd launch into a nine paragraph narrative about how to get started, but since we weren't worth the effort of the post you wrote in r/deadbedrooms, I'm going to reflect the effort you gave us just now.

READ THE FUCKING SIDEBAR!!!>>>>>

SailorAground · 2017-09-25T08:17:52+00:00

Bro, I've lived through/am unplugging from a similar situation. Here's the plan:

Read the damn TTPs: When I Say No I Feel Guilty and then read No More Mister Nice Guy. You need to know how to communicate before you start completely unplugging (the exercises in NMMNG).
Head over to MWR and get a trainer at the base gym; bonus points if she's hot. Tell her you've never lifted before and start at the basic powerlifting movements. Show her the Strong Lifts 5x5 program and use that.
Tell your PCM that you need a dietician consult and schedule one. Most NBHCs and hospitals have one. Clean up your damn diet. If you're on sea duty, crush as much lettuce and veggies as possible before it turns brown.
Get a shrink, either through Fleet & Family or medical. You're gonna need this otherwise this process might kill you. Sea duty makes it a million times worse.
Start meditating daily, twice a day. I do it when I wake up and before I go to bed. Look up a book called Buddha in Blue Jeans.

And once you've done all that and are progressing, start reading MMSLP and building your MAP. That's your Class Tac Pub and NWP for your own life. And if you ever think it's too much, just remember that there's no way it's any scarier than your DI or any worse than getting RPT'd in the fucking SUYA.

SgtSilverBack · 2017-09-24T22:10:32+00:00

Of course I don't care about you, you don't care about yourself. Say that and walk away with a smile.

You needed to use her to learn how to lead difficult sailors and nothing more. Get it through your head that your marriage is gone. DONE.

Start thinking strategically...where do you want your ship to go, how will it look, what is YOUR vision?

Then implement the tactical plan to meet your strategy. I hope to God you aren't one of the officers that let's your enlisted folks drive everything while you take credit or worse talk right over their input and get mad when you don't get buy in.

If you are a halfway competent officer then you know what to do. Learn your job as a man (OCS). Implement those actions (first duty station). Use her actions NOT WORDS to gauge your progress (OPR)

Use askMRP like an O-call to figure out how others work a certain situation. That doesn't mean come in with all problems and no solutions. The military doesn't let the good idea fairy fly around the DMZ and neither do we.

Now start the male version of OCS over at the sidebar------------>

Hell you might even learn to be a better leader for all your POs.

fluentsymbol · 2017-09-24T21:56:06+00:00

I bet that if you were hot enough, she wouldn't be complaining about headaches.

Maybe some of it is real and some of it isn't. It doesn't matter. Improve.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-09-26T00:30:07+00:00

complaint shit tests

In my last comment I just said everything a woman says is a shit test. I was wrong.

For some women complaining is like oxygen. They want you to stand their and take it over and over and over and over and over again. They want you to hold your frame and bring them out of their bitchy frame.

A lot of the time it is more trouble than its worth.

However, these are not all Shit Tests. I would call them Bitch Tests. Shit tests are woman testing her man to see if he will stand up to her (at which point she will realize she wants to fuck). Bitch Tests are not always a Test. They are just bitching and whining and complaining- aka a woman breathing.

Fortunately "Bitch Tests" and "Shit Tests" have EXACTLY the same solution. Frame motherfucker. Don't be phazed. Etc.

when to give compassion vs when to call her bluff

Compassion and calling the bluff are not mutually excludable. And Compassion can be shown with a pat on the head, an arm on the shoulder, or a kind word. Compassion does NOT require that you stand their and let her pummel you with her complaints for longer than about 20 seconds.

I saw once a PUA advocating the 1 minute rule. If she comes to you bitching about a problem let her whine until you can't take it any more. Then tell her she has 1 additional minute to make her point and then she is done complaining. When the minute is up you take her in your arms and kiss her if she won't shut up. Ideally, pick her up throw her over your shoulder for a helicopter ride. Distract her. Don't take anything she says seriously. She will complain some more but hold frame and you are likely to pull her into a better mood.

Finally, the BEST remedy for minor aches and pains is also the BEST remedy for a low sex marriage and a LOT of other things. Get her to the gym and get her working out and her complaints will fade over time.

dudeson12345 · 2017-09-24T22:26:07+00:00

It's over you just haven't realized yet. Either leave now and don't pay cs since no kids now or leave after you have kids and pay cs.

slodojo · 2017-09-25T16:09:33+00:00

DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH HER

Edit:

I’ve read through many of the posts on here and have to admit I am very impressed with most of the responses. It’s filled with good advice for you.

I’m going to add more of the same. Based on your life story and your current situation, I think this marriage will never be a happy one. You have picked someone / fallen in love with someone who will force you to continue to live the trauma in your life over and over again. End it. Take care of yourself and start over again when you are a better man.

That being said, I think if you seriously turn your life around, you may actually end up making your wife into a happy/healthy person as well. But it will only be accomplished by improving yourself. The reality is, it will take longer to do this than your wife will be willing to wait to have kids.

BobbyPeru · 2017-09-25T02:37:43+00:00

It's obvious you haven't read the sidebar.

Start there

JDRoedell · 2017-09-25T12:17:57+00:00

Not going to repeat what’s already been said about how most of this is your fault. That would be a waste of all of our time.

Read the sidebar and in the meantime do NOT get this woman pregnant. After you’ve read the sidebar and decided if the future “improved you” would even want a wife like this, then make your decision on what to do. Then maximize your sexual strategy and improve your SMV. If she still is making excuses and not exceptions to fuck you after that, then move on.

BIG_HUB · 2017-09-25T12:44:41+00:00

I've seen this situation way too often. Where is your fucking pride! You're in the Navy and yet still let yourself go physically....on top of that a fat, worthless spouse to come home to after a hard day of slinging donuts down your pie hole. Too late to save you.

screechhater · 2017-09-25T21:20:16+00:00

quit bitching and get to work

I bet you see a lump of shit in the mirror, I bet you wear flannnel untucked dogshit off duty along with cut off shorts

Read this and quit your bellyaching read it until you totally understand how long this change takes place- it's all about consistency

Lifting and the sidebar are your only course let us know how many of her ailments are coming up after 90 days of seriously owning your shit

Barvazon · 2017-09-25T22:26:02+00:00

alpha for pay

you fucking wish

Neo_1975 · 2017-09-26T00:28:12+00:00

Bad situations have a way of allowing true colors to bubble to the surface. You already know the answer...you are hoping that someone will tell you that wrong is right. Fortunately, wrong is just wrong, and you should listen to the harsh, unvarnished advice of the men on this forum. Without a radical turnaround in her health, mindset, or both, you are wilfully entering into an unnecessary period of suffering at her hand.

You have no kids. She, by your account, makes your life less enjoyable than if you had never met her. She is not taking active steps to improve her life. The choice is clear. If you had kids together, you would need to weigh their best interests...but there are no kids so the only human you owe anything to is yourself.

You have one life. Do you really wish to sacrifice yourself for no good reason?

Title	Shit Tests and Complaints of Legitimate Health Issues (Noob)
Author	Throwawaydb42
Upvotes	11
Comments	69
Date	September 24, 2017 7:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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