Mental load

UEMcGill · 2017-05-28T21:23:57+00:00

Low effort. Make a point or post in ask MRP

SirGaetanDugas · 2017-05-30T00:53:37+00:00

or be a man that she wants to keep a clean home for.

you lift a duster, Ill do deadlifts and earn coin and tell her the house looks like it needs a good cleaning

IronBlok · 2017-05-29T19:56:54+00:00

This is not red pilled truths at all. This is the hamster trying to get men to do household chores. Her house is a fucking mess. The towel should be in the laundry which should be already washed and put away. The groceries should never be on the counter, they should be put away immediately. Only a women could justify why it takes 2 hours to clear a table when a man does it in 2 minutes. Guess where her cartoon takes place... in her head. Guess where men live... in the real world. The Guardian is one of the shittiest places you can read news or editorials. I suggest you throw it out as most people have done in the last few years along with the New York Times and WaPo. Never buy into narrative like this. Mental load is MADE UP to make her argument seem valid when in fact it is baseless. For example, if I made something called male mental load which by my definition means a man cannot do household tasks as easily as a females because he is too busy thinking about his job and providing for his family it would invalidate "mental load" easily. But both are bullshit so you shouldn't pay attention to either of them. Remember, feminists fap to victim status all day and try to create a reality where their world view becomes true (even though it isn't). Making terms like mental load is a pathetic attempt to legitimize being a victim.

rocknrollchuck · 2017-05-30T19:36:27+00:00

Women would not have so much "mental load" if they spent as much time actually DOING the tasks that need to be done as they do thinking, talking, complaining and blogging about it.

coluorred · 2017-05-29T23:33:40+00:00

Mental load is just being accountable for your actions and in this case your chores. No adult is so without some responsibility that they don't have a mental load of some sort. I have a mental load when I drive for example.. do I have enough gas, has the car been inspected, keeping on top of oil changes and maintenance, checking tire pressure etc.... but somehow I just manage to survive. Wow I'm special.

Whining about having a mental load is just total nonsense and immaturity. This is just weak people complaining that the strong are not taking care of them.

In the example of the SO managing household tasks is lame. Yes lots of things need to be done and managed. When the SO asks what they can do but no task is delegated who's issue is that with? If she won't delegate, then she doesn't know how to manage, lacks trust in others, or really just wants to be led herself by her SO.

There are RP truths in this article. It's clear that complaining about mental load is an abdication of management responsibility and a desire to be led.

Aechzen · 2017-05-31T23:29:01+00:00

OMG guys, I clicked the comic. What a train wreck.

I wonder how all this "mental load" stuff goes down in a two-woman lesbian household. How can we blame men then?

Red_Dragovian · 2017-05-28T20:41:28+00:00

The Guardian is spitting Red Pill truths. I like this direction. You're the man, it's your fucking house. Own Your Shit and run your house. If your wife has to tell you laundry needs to be done, if your situational awareness is so shit that you can't see her LEGITIMATELY struggling, you've done fucked up. There was no reason for that pot to boil over.

Sure, if she's just whining and trying to get out of chores period, then she needs to suck it up. But your wife shouldn't be managing the house, just her corner of it. Captain up.

88Will88 · 2017-05-29T22:27:33+00:00

Fuck off, the whole thing is just more feminist propaganda yet you see a point to it all? Go and change your tampon. Housework should be completely delegated to women, unless she is earning the same money as you. If she is earning the same money as you then you are an androgynous bitch anyway so sure, go ahead and do the dishes

brotherpotatos · 2017-05-30T15:57:19+00:00

There are different circumstances. My wife works part time, so I know that just the time involved in keeping up the house requires me as well. Theres a limit to what I would ask her to do without stepping in. Like when I tell my son to clean his room, but its such a mess he just sits there depressed: I go in and started shoveling toys into the box for all of five minutes, knowing that eventually he will see that it is not that hard, and leaving him with a small and manageable portion of the task.

But I don't do things because my wife delegates them to me. I do them because they need to get done. I set an example like this, and I try to do more than should be reasonably expected to make sure I never have to hear "oh and you don't appreciate all the work I do around the house". Well guess who makes the kitchen spotless every night after reading to the kids, before laying her, this guy.

What I think is important here is to take responsibility. This mental load stuff is not challenging. Just make it a point that when your wife starts yammering about all the stuff going on in the house, that you listen to it like its a report for your cognizance as the leader. Don't just brush it off. Analyze it, but not just how she wants you to analyze it as in putting her on a pedestal for the little bit she did around the house after going to the gym. There is legitimacy in mental load, but organizing your life takes that down by 90% so that you're not like the helpless cartoon women in the link, victims of your own inability to execute in an orderly manner. Mental load is not hard. If your SO is struggling with it, assume as much of it as is needed and get things done just to set an example and show them that it is not difficult.

There is ego involved in saying my wife needs to do a, b, c, d,... because it is womans work or whatever. Maybe if you make 7 figures you can dictate that, but then you should be able to hire a maid and a nanny at that point.

My point: This shit is not hard. Be a leader and don't give your wife the opportunity to say that she is struggling. Tedious household management is not beneath an RP man, especially when he needs to set an example for the rest of the family. If your SO is chronically lazy then a little bit of tactical leadership is not going to help and that's a different story.

Title	Mental load
Author	cheltman
Upvotes	10
Comments	26
Date	May 28, 2017 8:16 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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