Brothers, I've just swallowed the pill. I have a lot of reading to catch up on but am slowly plowing through it. I've been doing 'Men of March' too. Please forgive my ignorance.

However, there is one thing I really struggle with. What to do when pregnant wife (second child) rejects sex. She will give the right signals when we are downstairs, will flirt and generally be keen, but 5 mins upstairs once the clothes are off and the hands are working magic, she will make some LMR about suddenly being too tired/ too ill etc and then shut down any notion of the idea. I cant really dispute, as being pregnant, I have no gauge as to how she is feeling. Before anyone asks, she absolutely will not fuck downstairs in the living room, or at least I cant convince her to (yet). I find myself taking it so personally and getting so wound up, that I cannot think straight. I'd be pissed if she outright said no, but at least i'd know where I stood and could get on with something else. But it's this whole leading on thing that's driving me mad - it's such a fucking waste of time. As I write, I'm thinking well that was an evening fucking wasted... again. It's moments like now that I grow to resent her, and think fuck this, I should throw in the towel and go out and just get someone else (I dont think I'd have any trouble). We found out she was pregnant second week of January and have had sex three times since, although I should admit there have been longer term issues - dry spells followed by periods of intense sexual activity followed by dry spells.

Any ideas? I want to have the right attitude in these situations, but am too new to this to really know what is right long term.