Anger is ego, justified anger is ego that can cripple self-awareness, and sabotage goals.

Anger, Thoughts, & Social Behavior

Pain alone is not enough to cause anger. Anger occurs when pain is combined with some anger-triggering thought.

Thoughts that can trigger anger include personal assessments, assumptions, evaluations, or interpretations of situations that makes people think that someone else is attempting (consciously or not) to hurt them.

In this sense, anger is a social emotion; You always have a target that your anger is directed against (even if that target is yourself). Feelings of pain, combined with anger-triggering thoughts motivate you to take action, face threats and defend yourself by striking out against the target you think is causing you pain.

Anger is a social behavior

Gave me a better insight. I spend time listening to detractors. In the red pill, this is the biggest, easiest, but least understood concept. The anger phase. The big minds can't even agree. Is it a phase, is it justified, what do you do with it, does it go away? No consensus, thank god. If we had it figured out, then the topic would be dead. There's multiple levels of anger, which most have, to varying degrees.

The world (parents) promised you a life path, life disagreed, to your detriment.

You did all these supposedly good mate behaviours, you in turn were spurned by the laaady

You had a girlfriend, and you're lovely one-itis. She decided to do some nasty things to a dude at the bar instead, because you were too busy looking for a mommy surrogate.

Wife has decided, while she likes your provisioning skill, she doesn't want to touch your dick, in fact, she tries to shame you for doing so.

Theres more examples than I could possibly throw here.

This is the ego aspect. You have desires, and through the path you travelled to get here, are being denied said desires... Denied to you.

She turned down sexual advances from you.

Society isn't framed in a way that you find beneficial for you.

And by god, you'll hold onto what works best for you as the way it should be. Everyone does that. The level of ego behind the statement is astounding, but so normalized that it doesn't get an eyebrow raise, especially since, in the age of echo chambers, you'll be surrounded mostly by other 'men' with similar outlooks. And you know what? Having a scare resource, aka uterus, means you never have to come to terms with the idea that the universe doesn't give a shit about you, because someone else will always be thirstier than you are. It's not just social thirst, or I am scared of being alone. It's down to the biological level. There is nothing in a woman's body that will ever compare to the testosterone that constantly drives men to be hungry for sex.

Not that it matters, too many people show pride in the things that they put no effort into, have no say in its development, shit that you just didn't do. It's almost as if it's [again] ego protection that which we are most insecure about. You see it in BLM, you see it in the Alt Right, you see it in you go girl. All of it, people patting themselves on the back for something they have had to put zero effort into. I've been very lucky in the parts of my life I had no control over, there are no large movements to have me praise my inherent status:

A generic brown guy, I can pass from everything from Italian to North African to Fijian.

Adopted family on mothers side, black god fearing christians.

Fathers side stereotypical canadian white folk, mutt mix of german, irish, scottish?

I've been just as exposed in a family that dances and sings at funerals, as I have to one that would have been alt-right, working class folk. I am part of everyone and no one at the same time. All I can say with any certainty, the only thing holding you back from fucking your wife, replacing her, or getting some strange on the side, while you wait for the kids to move out, is you and your big baby of an ego. This is what prevents that poor indian guy from getting hot blondes, which by the way, is his fumbly way of crying because he wants status. It's why angry caucasian men in their STEM studies are mad they are orbiting a girl who doesn't want to fuck them. All men, who even when angry, are still balls deep in the feminine imperative.

You ain't shit, and it's OK

I get PMs from people, lots of others do. Usually sneaking into TRP/MRP from a deadbedroom. Want desperately for their wives to show affection, want the validation that their financee/girlfriend aren't giving them, offering money, as if I'm some authority, or magic friend that can give you a few words to reconcile the cruel reality of life, with the comforting fantasy of desire. It's humbling. A perfect stranger trusting me with their most intimate insecurities, yet still, with the giant ego in the background, dictating their obstacles, while their brain scrambles to justify why it's valid. It's surreal when you end up having the person argue with you, fight desperately to tell you how their lives can be done no other way. It's self sabotage, and it's worth a post of its own.

Simple, actionable, repeatable

I like to focus on something simple, actionable when I write, and that is repetitive enough to quash stupid shit from your behaviour, and replace it with something more useful. The common thread I've seen in every man able to overcome it, me included, is to internalize the simple message:

You ain't shit, and that's OK.

Again, you ain't shit, that's OK. The words are meaningless, but it's the message that needs to sink in. It's how I describe non-achieved qualities. You're a black guy? No one gives a shit. You're a white guy losing his country? Don't give a shit. I don't have a chip on my shoulder, no dad who lived vicariously through me, no mom who filled my head with nonsense. No cultural norm that got me arrested constantly, or made me being a plow horse to some woman as a noble deed. Sucks in a way, no framework to build a plan from, but freeing, no bullshit obstacle that I could use to hamstring myself. I'm not bragging about any of it, because you won't give a shit about it either, and that's OK.

Try being that guy. You ain't shit. You'll never see your likeness on a billboard as the pinnacle of beauty, desire, or power. People only associate with you, because you make them feel better, they gain from your company, or they can use you for their benefit. You see both the transactional nature of life, and the subtle way we pretend that we don't have a transactional nature.

Nothing about you is worth a damn, the BLM protester who isn't working, dresses like a thug, and thinks he's not going to get bad interactions with the police. The Alt Right guy who can't be bothered to take care of that white guy in the mirror, yet thinks he's doing his part to protect the white western society. You ain't shit, and it's OK.

How do I action this?

Luckily, your work is half done. Your wife won't fuck you, girls friendzone you, your boss treats you like crap. Your life plan is leaving you unhappy. The only one who is at all ego invested in you is you. Time to treat that bitch the same as everyone else does.

When your ego creeps into something, like what you're owed, how you should have been given the tools to succeed, or how time was wasted on a dead end, who fucking cares? Laugh at your shitty ego for thinking you deserved better. For what? Some shit you had no control over? You didn't pick your parents, your upbringing, your race, society, or present day variables of abundance. I guess it still isn't an action, so I'll throw one in. Look in the mirror, every day and say you ain't shit, then smile, and brush your teeth. Since you don't have an anchor to attach your ego to, you can finally get to work.

Why do you lift? Because you ain't shit, but you will be the pinnacle of your genetic self. You will lift so you give a shit, and others will follow.

Why do you study hard, work hard, build a brand/business? Because you ain't shit. No one will coddle you through adult life. In fact, you're lucky, a century ago you would have been eaten by wolves for being this lazy chode. You will work your ass off, because then you're valuable to the financial security of others, and they will begin to give a shit, it's now a reflection of their desires.

Why do you dress well? Because you ain't shit. But you will signal to the world you're a man of worth, and stand out from others. You give a shit about that guy in the mirror.

Why do you game women, work on your map, or swat your wifes shit tests? Because you ain't shit. She doesn't owe you sex, no one would fuck you anyways, why hold her to a different standard? You will work at being interesting, well traveled, with great stories, good company and social skills. You will be that person in life who others enjoy being around.

Back to anger

I've never understood the crocodile-fears over angry men. The blue pill men, and women they white knight for, cry about it so much. Any time a man is angry, it's as if he's a potential rabid dog, who needs to be put down. It's a great tool for separating desire from reality, and we need it more. When you realize its social nature, you can learn to use it. You're angry because you want something you aren't getting, so you learn to focus on that thing, either get it, or learn to live without it, because it ain't happening.

Luckily, almost everything people want is simple. It ain't easy, but simple.A process of work, learning, and patience. For the edge cases, the truly unobtainable? You'll learn to let it go. I will never play in the NFL, and I am OK with that. But slaying pussy? Yeah, it's totally doable.

You want the wife to come around? Laugh at your bullshit ego who thinks being a provider with a contract entitles you to that aging pussy. At this point, you look in the mirror, realize you ain't shit, then get to work. Hit the gym, learn to have some frame and boundaries, go talk to women, flirt a bit, then when you have some options, assess, remove what you want, and add the rest. yeah, ditching the stay at home mom? It'll cost you, there's many stories of guys being put into homelessness because of alimony and child support payments. They came out all-right. A little jaded with women, and they'll use that too. They are never taken advantage of again. Children they will never see grow up without them. You ain't shit, and no one owed you any of that, regardless of what you were told. The way the law is structured, you are not a father anyways, you are the paternal guardian, at the behest of their mother. Sometimes you don't even know if the decision is being made for you, until you've received your subpoena in the mail.

You will get it when you no longer crave it

And the weird part? When you get to that place, the where none of this shit is owed to you? It aligns pretty well with the time when everyone starts to worry about missing out, and starting to give you more. Fucking irony eh?