Several years ago I was watching Conan the Barbarian with my wife. Towards the end of the movie Conan "dies". At his burial site the female lead, Valeria, is mourning her loss when demons begin to come after Conan's body. She fights ferociously for him, and in the end her efforts pay off and Conan comes back to life. When this scene was over I looked at my wife and said "That's all I want from you". She didn't understand. I told her "All I want is to know that if I'm dead and demons are trying to take my soul, that you would fight like an amazon to keep me” I was being silly, but she said she would absolutely fight for me. It's been years since that moment and I can say, figuratively speaking, my wife has fought some demons on my behalf.

So, why the story? Someone commented recently that "If you're a high enough value man, there is nothing a woman won't do for you" or something to that effect. It reminded me of this scene and caused me to reflect. Gents, we talk a lot about the negative aspects of woman on this sub and they are valid. However, I believe most of us are here because we've decided we're going to give TRP on hard mode a try before going full Ultimate CAD.

It's difficult to flesh this post out, because on the one hand, she is not the prize, or the end goal. On the other hand, getting a woman to this state in the relationship is an incredible boost to you as a man. A woman who supports and encourages you. Fills in the gaps, gets her hands dirty with, and for you. She becomes a great asset and companion. The catch, is that you need to be at a place where you can do it all without her, first. As long as you're reliant on her, she will never get to that point. To take it back to the movie for a sec: Conan was already a self-sufficient BAMF before the girl came along. He didn’t need her in the slightest, and because of this, she fully gives herself to him as a result.

Gentlemen, if you want a woman like that you need to be a fully sufficient BAMF who isn't looking for it. You need to learn to move your focus from her and your marriage and all the externals, to you. Become single minded. Sex, no sex, doesn't matter. All that matters is the thing you put your mind to. (Weight loss, business venture, finishing a degree, whatever). As long as it's yours and you are pursuing it with laser focus.

-When she is no longer your focus, you become hers.

*This last note is for all you dumb fucks who will say I'm advocating neglecting your basic daily responsibilities to your families.....no. You still need to OYS and take care of business.