60 DoD: The End

bogeyd6 · 2016-03-26T02:38:41+00:00

I did lifting, and I broke some serious plateaus, and really took a look at the Cowboy method for fixing my benchpress. I took SL5x5 and Juggernaut and mixed them together. This really pushed through my plateaus and I am at least 45lb higher in two months on all my 1RM.

The other area I really tackled was my social life outside of the work and family. This was a tough area because I am traveling for business so much more than other people. I went to meetups.com and I also spent some time talking to neighbors. I have made three new friends in my neighborhood thanks to Archwinger's advice. Wife made friends by extension. Got some neighborhood bbq's expanded and made acquaintances with a large group of asians one block over. All in all, I am really glad I made some strides there. It's different for sure, I am used to only work people and my close group of friends. Expanding on that and my wife getting to make new friends in a foreign land was a huge plus. If anyone reading this says I talked to my neighbors but they are all assholes, I got one thing to say. Run into an asshole in the morning and you ran into an asshole, run into assholes all day and you are the asshole.

MRPguy · 2016-03-26T17:40:38+00:00

Multiple PRs with lifting and training. Everything from front squats to bench to press to 3RM box jump height.

I've read 11 books so far this year and have taken to making a list (hat tip to u/TheFamilyAlpha for the idea).

I purchased some v-neck t-shirts for the first time in my life, for the purpose of showing off more chest in casual situations.

A great year so far.

bogeyd6 · 2016-03-26T12:54:54+00:00

I hit all of the goals but 2.

I did not finish the book and I did not maintain the 0400 wake up time.

Both are on me and I have a POA for both. Fucking sucks, but I did get my sweet pair of shoes and everything else is running smooth so I got that going for me.

Kosmoknots · 2016-03-26T15:41:10+00:00

Bought new clothes.. Including tailored shirts and suits. Apparently my neck size grew and they no longer fit. Oh well..thats a good problem to have.

Tightened up finances. Paid off unnecessary debts and got everything in order.

Grooming article was my favorite. I had forgotten about some things like nose, ear and eyebrows hairs.

Still need to get in better shape. But I saved all the articles and will revisit them in 6 months.

Redneck001 · 2016-03-26T15:16:00+00:00

Lifted my ass off. I think I added another dimension to my delts. They're no quite 3D, but definitely 2D. Starting my spring cut this week, have about 6lbs I want to cut.

Bought some new clothes and some bad ass oxford with brogue shoes. Some gay guy offered to take me to lunch. Must be the shoes.

Bought a Superman and a Spiderman compression shirts for the gym. They fit me great, I get complimented, and it's like not wearing a shirt at the gym. You can see my abs through them. Gym owner took a pic the other day when I was wearing Spiderman at the bottom of my squat, put it on his Facebook and website.

Wife is being high value. She's working her ass off at the gym, being a great lover, and playing her girl dread game. Confided the other day that one of her friends has been complimenting me.

I'm working hard on being the most social animal I know.

I've enjoyed life for the past 60 days.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-26T23:43:54+00:00

Good job on this Mods and everybody who participated. This was a wonderful exercise for MRP.

ReddJive · 2016-03-28T12:58:52+00:00

I started MRP with 60 DoD. It was the catalyst that gave me the challenge to stop reading and starting doing.

BOTTOM LINE UP FRONT:

3 Weak Areas and Action Taken

Style It's horrible. The only change i made is my gym attire. Closer fitting and newer. I just don't get fashion.

Finances Created a plan to pay down/eliminate 60% of my debt.

Career My current job is too easy. I am doing an analysis to see what I would need to move to another career. I stand to loose a lot from the current job. Pension, fantastic benefits. If I can find a match then I am gone.

I also started freelance writing. Nothin spectacular, but it is something.

MORE DETAIL

Lifting I started around 60 DoD when I decided that this was for me. So I am two months in. Beginner gains are starting to wear out. I was a power lifter in my youth (I am 40 now) so this is not new to me. The SL5x5 is a new method and I am hoping I don't get the weight, nor the "gorilla stomach".

Eating There is no issue here except the occasional loss of discipline. Though I did cut calories a bit to start a serious move to get to 10%BF. The previous 60 days saw me dropping 20 pounds and loosing 2%BF towards my goal.

Hygiene The only change I needed to make was that I started wearing cologne. I chose Cool Water.

After long thought inspired by the 60 DoD. I am considering a beard, and mine grows in fast and heavy. I'd probably have a full beard in 2 weeks if I did it. The wife said she isn't turned on by beards. So I have to make sure why I am doing it. Still...not so sure I want to. I enjoy shaving. I am very fastidious about it and use the best products to shave.

I also shave my head. I have done so since I was 18 and joined the Army. Never looked back. I use all sorts of moisturizers and conditioners, and lotions. So the scalp is nice and smooth. I get compliments on it.

Style Yikes. I suck here. There is no other way to say it. I walk into the stare at all the colors and styles like a idiot. I really don't get it. The change I made is that I did bump up my gym attire to specifically fit closer and show off my forming muscles.

I don't know if it will work in the Game department since everyone there knows my wife.

Finances Could be way better. With 60 Days I made a plan to pay off 60% of my debt by the end of the year.

Career Could be way better. I work for the DOD. When I got out of the Army I just changed uniforms. I can't say much more about my job, but it's become too easy. Upward mobility is difficult. Mainly because there is an attitude of succession. You wait until someone dies or retires. This is due to old style management practices (most people here are over 60) and the fact that there is a hiring freeze. So no new positions are opened up.

I could move up. The question is do I want to. The leadership here is weak. The climate is weak. There is something to working from within but I just saw someone brought on Sexual harassment for using the word "guys". Why work in area like this?

I am doing an analysis that looks at what I loose if I go into industry and what I would need to make/get to make a move worth my time. In addition I also started free lance writing, no small feat since any business venture has to be cleared by security here to make sure there is no undue influence. I got a couple gigs. It was enough to pay for beer for the week but you have to start somewhere.

Social Life I have no issue here except the time to do more of it. My interests are wide and varied. I have more hobbies then time. I make friends easily.

Persaeus · 2016-03-28T15:05:20+00:00

I met all my 60 DoD goals with exception of the squat weight, reading two books on PUA (only ready Day Bang), and getting two new guys on man-fishing trip to RMP (only got one…still looking).

I increased my gym days from 3-4 per week to 5-6 per week. Unfortunately, I sprung the sternocleidomastoid muscle (neck) in late January while moving the bar on squat rack and this retarded my progress some. I adapted and overcame by modifying workout around this muscle and increasing cardio. Injury is healed now. With the exception of squat (due to back injury…see below) I actually am now lifting more than my 60 DoD goal. Validation of a common MRP observation: in the last month as my arms and shoulders have gotten larger; wife will often grab hold of biceps when in mish position and coo as I pound her. THANK YOU MRP.

Rocking the cologne (had fun getting advice from MILF while shopping). Wife asked why I was wearing cologne now. Me “my secret girlfriend suggested it”. Have finished assembling winter wardrobe; but still working on leather jacket.

I met or exceeded my goal of talking to at least three strange woman each week; and am generally talking to a lot more people these days. Talking to strange women has been a lot easier than I remember it being in my early 20’s pre-marriage. While I have had a few fails, most were very receptive. Being an older guy and mostly targeting older women (35+); many of the really interested ones always seem to work the conversation around to telling me there kids are grown up….. I would say the only “problem” with this exercise is I spend days thinking about the really eager beavers; and how I should just “hit that”. Luckily in a few days these thoughts drift away. This exercise, along with going on two out of town Tinder dates in February, has really improved my abundance mentality.

I joined the BJJ club, and went for five weeks before injuring my back wrestling a 16 year old. Really loved the BJJ and was meeting lots new people, including several smoking hot ladies. Going back tonight for first time in three weeks. The double dates with wife and other couples has been a SMV bonanza. I am leading the date night (planning, let’s move here, etc.), and generally getting a lot of positive attention from the other wife on the double date. Been on three double dates, and major sexy times have ensued after each one. Actively working on expanding this pool.

[deleted] · 2016-03-29T03:11:00+00:00

The 60DoD inspired me to create a weekly set of 9 goals similar to the categories here (minus career, combine hygiene and style, and add friends, family, and wife) with which I could set a baseline goal for each of these areas and then continue to stack improvements as time went on and I reached those goals.

Food: Diet had already shifted from high sugar items (nearly everywhere in my diet) to high protein-low calorie foods to support lifting. Goals here right now are reducing my main weakness, snacks after meals, by increasing no snack or low snack (a single fun-size piece of candy) days. Right now it's at 3 no snack and 1 low snack days a week. The result of no snack days is magic to reduce bloat and show off a tight core.

Fitness: Contains a variety of activities to try and cram into the week. The list I demand of myself will increase mileage in support of running this year's marathon, increase time on bike and in the pool for my first triathlon, and keep lifting at the forefront leading to two and three-a-days. Combine all these with the standard climbing and sports.

Looks: Money is tight, but I'm slowly and consistently adding and passing goals to acquire a new wardrobe, find better soaps and deodorants than axe, and keep style tight with good shoes I don't ruin running.

Friends: As much as I try to involve friends in my activities, I find it difficult to keep them engaged, and even deal with the lackluster motivation I find in them. I am setting goals in the social category to try and find friends more centered to my interests, but the road has been difficult so far.

Game: Read Bang, am reading Day Bang. Recently found Seddit, which seems to be a PUA/social interaction improvement zone. Their attitude as I see it so far is similar to the no holds barred get your shit together attitude I see on MRP so I plan on going there more in the future. My goal is to attain a comfortableness with being at Dread Level 7. I see no reason why all men shouldn't set that as the norm rather than dread level 5, I feel especially passionate about getting myself confident in this area because I've been such a pansy with social interactions with women all my life. The fact that I am afraid to have a conversation with 50% of the human population is completely retarded.

Social: I am a part of a sports social league and am alternating between volleyball (good for meeting guys and girls with a carefree attitude) and soccer (my go-to sport) to meet new people. I downloaded Meetup but am going to play the cop out line of "there's just no time" to go to an event. The truth is I should always be able to make time. I have failed in this specific goal so far.

Family: Has involved me beginning to teach my 4 year old things at home after dinner such as reading, writing, early math, science, and practical things like getting herself dressed. In addition I set goals to plan activities with them, since they are an important part of my life I need to make sure not to leave them behind in my quest to fill out the week.

Money: I have begun heavily studying investment material. Have taken a chunk on money so far and invested in a stock and ETF market tracker. Am looking into mutual funds to diversify into safer investments as well. I keep a very intricate budget already.

Wife: Finally an area to make sure I'm still gaming and mixing things up with the wife. Though I have set aside some time with her for things just we can do like go out to a bar and chat or play games or whatever, I have found that I have been slipping as of late back into a beta mode. I think I've caught it early and will detail more in OYS. But overall I still believe she does not believe what I'm becoming is real yet.

Overall this activity has given me a great tool to keep track of all the shit I want to accomplish, and every week I can look at it and see what I did/didn't do and assess if I failed and if so why.

The_Litz · 2016-03-29T08:23:56+00:00

I am just going to give the highlights of my DoD.

My biggest failure and biggest win was in gaming. The win was that I have reached a state of OI with my wife whereby I game her when I feel like it and she takes it in a good spirit. I don't force myself to game her, I just do it. It is interwoven in our day now. I don't get butthurt or angry when she says no either, I just laugh at her and go on with my day. And I may humbly brag here, the no's are getting less and less.

The failure part is that I had, as a target, to get at least one random woman's phone number. Catch and release. The thought behind this was to bolster my abundance mentality. I did game a lot of women that I know and some I did not know, but to initiate a conversation with the sole intention of getting a phone number eluded me. I am still scared of failure. There is still a self confidance issue at work here.

The other hilight was regarding my career. I was in a little bit of a victim mode here. Long story short is that because of the politics of my country I am at the back of the line regarding promotions and career advancements in my industry.

I let go of the victim mentality and analysed my current position. I have a weak manager, but he relies on me for my experience and knowledge regarding certain aspects of our company. I have grown bored with my day to day tasks. I am now in the process of bypassing him and initiating a project which will at least stimulate me as this is outside of my normal scope of work and keep me busy. It will still let my manager look good so he won't mind either. Win win.

The biggest realisation was that it is up to me to make me happy at work, and even in this unfavourable climate I can still make the most of it.

Further to that, I am looking at furthering my studies, the decision needed is whether I go in a totally new direction or go further in my current line of work. As it stands I already have outside interests that bring in some money and might expand on those as well.

alphabeta49 · 2016-03-29T18:14:24+00:00

As I mentioned in an OYS thread, I had a bout of depression recently. Didn't make much progress at all.

However, the things that I did manage to keep constant or improve are:

Eating well, counting calories, not indulging, sticking to my cheat days.
Getting shit done around the house. Seriously, there's dozens of projects that have been 80-90% completed for years that are now finished off nicely and fading into the norm, rather than sticking out like a broken finger nail.
Staying social. I've made a practice to accept at least every other time my guy friends invite me out somewhere.
My job situation is looking up, or at least, I feel more positive about it. I have an interview today. Its sort of a step backward, will probably mean less pay. But god I'll be happier. I'll also have a more flexible schedule so I can invest time in developing other skills for new career paths. I'm also starting training for a part time teaching gig this week, which will make up for the pay cut at the main job.
Hygiene has improved. I'm growing out my hair, so I'm looking into some decent shampoos and conditioners. I also threw away my last disposable razor and invested in a safety razor starter kit from Maggard's. Beautiful, glorious difference there.

The ugly:

Fitness. I'm so angry at myself that I haven't kept up with this. I know my depression and everything would turn around, if only I would lift. I'm going back to the gym tomorrow morning. Fuck the excuses.
Failed in my game. Did not approach women or do the rejection challenge.
My reading has also been dead. Mostly because I've been getting so much shit done around the house in the evenings.
I gave up on programming for now. I just cannot bring myself to spend THAT much time in front of a screen. I already sit at a desk and stare at a monitor 8 hours a day.

Looking forward: coming out of this depression has brought clarity on several issues. Not the least being a steady realization that I am wasting my life being depressed. I'm the only one in charge of my career, so why the fuck am I sitting around whining to the internet about it and not doing something about it? Nothing is free. If I'm going to make a change, there's going to be temporary sacrifices, whether that is more student debt, less time with the kids, a more strict bedtime, whatever.

Time to buckle down.

Title	60 DoD: The End
Author	SorcererKing
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Date	March 26, 2016 2:04 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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