It is by reason, not rage that you are going to achieve the standard of Marriage (or long term relationship) that you want.

The saying goes, “If You Want Something You’ve Never Had, You’ve Got To Do Something You’ve Never Done.”

This applies to many areas in life, but none more so than Marriage and Owning your shit.

  • Do you want a marriage where you’re fucking at the minimum 5 nights a week with blowjobs, roadhead, and kinky shit galore?

  • Do you want a Marriage where you enjoy the company of your wife, she enjoys submitting to your lead, and together you’re fucking happy and pursuing improvement as a couple and as individuals?

  • Do you want a marriage where it just works and life is good?

If so, then you have to do the things you haven’t done as what you’ve done up to this point obviously has not produced these results. You have to fight the behaviors that are deeply rooted in your mind. The cookie cut behaviors that are pushed onto males by a weaksauce feminized society.

Use your reason, not the feelings you’ve been told to share and act on.

As men we are biologically programmed to think shit out before acting; women, not so much. Is there a time and place for your emotions? Absolutely. But, you need to recognize that while you may have the power to both build and destroy, acting on emotion is not masculine and it is detrimental to your growth.

You’ve cried on her shoulder, you’ve scared her through your anger, you’ve played both nice guy and asshole…for what? Are you where you want to be? Most likely not.

While you may have improved, you must make that final correlation between acting on emotions (rage, sadness, guilt, resentment) and personal growth / marriage improvement.

I’ve noticed that it is the guys on here who completely own their shit that are experiencing the growth and type of Marriage they want. There is no end goal, but there is a standard that can be met and it’s the guys in control of their emotions that are reaching and maintaining this standard.

The guys who are still struggling, relapsing, and failing to get anywhere are the ones who still base their actions off of how they feel…

You feel you deserve better, you feel she betrayed you, you feel it’s not fair…I get it, but it’s time get the fuck over it.

Remove the feelings.

The facts are what they are and now it’s time to stop feeling like everything and everyone is out to get you and to accept this is the playing field and now you know the rules. Getting mad does nothing but delay growth. Is it important to truly let the pill dissolve and embrace the rage associated with ‘unplugging’?

Fuck. Yes.

But that’s where it ends. You use that as fuel, not an anchor and you use your reason to get to where you want to be. Set the bar from which every marriage should be measured. Set your personal bar as to how far you want to go in your relationship and fucking Own It.