A recap of a text conversation that my wife had with me yesterday while I was at work.

The Texts

2:03 pm WIFE: Child #1 wet the bed last night, Child #2 threw up on the couch, fell back asleep on the couch and then wet on the couch.

2:27 WIFE: Do you want to have sex tonight?

2:43 ME: Of course.

2:44 WIFE: We should do it twice tonight

3:11 ME: Of course. You on top, then me pounding you (etc, etc...) x 2

3:12 WIFE: Ok!

Analysis

In days gone by, I would have jumped at that first message from her. My response would have been an "I'm sorry" followed my some statement how I will make it up to her. Perhaps I'll send her to get a massage at her favorite place when I get home, or I'll take her out to dinner tonight so she doesn't have to cook, etc. To be honest, that was still my first impulse, but I've learned to curb it.

Why would I apologize? I didn't wet the bed or make a mess on the couch. The kids did, not me. Why I respond at all? There is nothing I can do about it, I'm at work. The event already occurred, so I can't prevent it. She won't leave it until I get home to clean it, so I can't even offer to clean it. In my mind the only correct response to her initial text is no response, which is what I did.

Then, 24 minutes later, a request for sex. This is how it's been for almost a month now. My immediate reaction to this request is "hell ya!," but note the time of my response. I waited 16 minutes to respond. I purposely waited to build anticipation for her, and to show her that I'm busy. Intimacy with her is a priority for me, but I'm such a busy alpha, handling my shit at work, that it takes me time to respond.

My response is one that I stole from a poster here. I've found that "of course" works in a myriad of situations. It's great here because it's affirmative yet continues the status quo of sex every day. Of course is the answer because what else would we do?

Summary

STFU and reap the benefits. You are a busy Man. If you aren't busy, fake it until you make it, but improve your life so you are. Handle your shit as the Family Alpha.