Hey guys

Looking for some insight & suggestions. Here’s the skinny on my situation (I posted more details previously and not much lately since things have been sloooowly improving).

I started my transformation at the beginning of this year, been lifting, focus on myself, STFU, raise my SMV, own my shit & more assertively lead family.

Results: it takes time after 6+ yrs of marriage & betadom, but I have started to see results in recent months. For example, last weekend we had sex 3 days in a row – something that only happened a few years back while on vacation. So overall, I am raising my game, became more dominant and gradually assert myself & my leadership. I am way more confident at work, never complain at home about anything, act more dominant and am busy pursuing my own goals, and like every minute of it. Classic NMMNG (slow) recovery.

It’s rocky, and she still acts like she her pussy is the prize I am to qualify for it. Last night I come home after 3 days away on a biz trip, and was definitely looking for some action & release. Shark week had just started and she denies me any kind of B/J or HJ, almost yelling at me with “I don’t want to/ I don’t feel like it” and “can’t you wait a day?”. At this point I am tired after a long week and although a big part of me wanted to just go to sleep, I decide to fuck it, couldn’t tolerate her attitude which basically was communicating she didn’t really care about me and my needs and just put my jeans on & left, in as much of OI as I could and without looking (too) butthurt. ” Where r you going?” “Out”. And there I went for 2+ hours till midnight. (went to get a massage at a place nearby pretty awesome actually).

Anyway, she freaks out, blows up my phone (I had left it at home), this morning starts ranting and almost yelling at me. I walk away, saying “don’t talk to me that way on a Saturday morning” and go walk the dog. An hour later she goes again but much more calmly ”Where have you been last night?” “Out”. “Out where??”, “Slaying dragons”, smirk on my face, almost laughing at her.

Then she starts with the mother of all shit tests “I want you to go get [STD] tested and bring the results before you ever get close to me again. I can’t trust you anymore blah blah”. I just laughed at her, did my own thing, amazingly not event feeling worried or controlled anymore, like I used to (I have done things like this before, she is all butt hurt, and I go become a beta bitch – classic).

I did say something like “why would I cheat on you honey? Do I have any reasons to?” (but there has got to be a better come-back.)

Anyway, I am already going about my weekend, work on my to do list, and couldn’t care less about her silent treatment. She’ll come around (let hamster work on its own) and eventually I will fuck her brains out – that’s my job, since my sometimes bitchy, unappreciative, harpy wife severely needs it. But looking for some tips and smart come-backs to her “go get tested” nonsense and newfound “mistrust”. I definitely don’t want to sit her down and have a serious talk about how I want more sex. I don’t think we’re there yet (and I hope I won’t have to up dread that overtly). I think this is just dealing with this bitchy banter that I could use some help with. Thoughts?