I have been implementing red pill into my marriage (10+ years)over the past few months, and I am definitely seeing some results. Before knowing about the red pill, I got great results in the past by tracking her menstrual cycle and making sure to always take advantage of the week that she was ovulating.

First off, my wife has never had much of a libido, and I've got a high one. It was good while we were dating, but pregnancy and kids has played a large role in pretty much killing our sex life....or maybe it was the wedding cake! We had lots of arguments that usually led to me getting angry at the screechtard...she would threaten divorce...I would always lose these arguments horribly because I just wanted her to shut the hell up so everything could run smoothly again. I was literally Mr. Blue Pill Nice Guy. After the 1st kid was born, sex dropped off to nothing. She had severe post partum depression. It took a while, but she finally came back around and things got better. Now, we have 3 kids with the youngest still being a toddler.

When we were dating, I had options and was actually being red pill without knowing it. She was initially just one of my plates, but I fell hard and got oneitis. After 2 years of dating I had turned blue pill, she wanted to take some space after developing a crush on some guy that she was carpooling with. I told her "hell no", either choose me or choose him, but I'm not taking you back if you can't choose me today. (Again, I had been so blue pill to her before that this had her swooning for me immediately). If only I would have realized that all it takes is to have some balls and lead, marriage would be so much easier now.

I've read MMSLP and working on book of pook right now. I'm working on my MAP. I've been working on myself since Thanksgiving. I've lost 23 lbs, putting me in the 180's. My wife is willing to have sex at least 2 times a week most weeks, but she too often tries to dictate that we can't have sex during the week and tries to put it off until the end of the day constantly. She's always got some excuse...most of the time its "I'm too tired, I got up at 5 this morning and worked all day..blah..blah.blah and I just want to go to sleep" followed by her doing something else for the next hour and not sleeping, which always ticks me off. During the week before her period, she is very hateful and is always yelling at me and the kids. I'm getting close to putting a stop to it just by not responding and looking at her like she's stupid, using amused mastery and a&a.

For the record, she had her thyroid removed due to cancer and is on hormone replacement therapy that does affect her mood swings, energy and libido. I don't mind the sex being twice a week. I'll keep working on myself and get the frequency up. My problem is that I can't figure out how to solve is that I want her to actually desire sex and most of the time, she just doesn't. I don't think she would desire sex if I was a SMV 10. Sex is very low on her priority list...She almost always pushes me away until the end of the day and then its like..."ok, lets get this over with so I can go to sleep"...who wants duty sex, not me. I can barely even get her to say sex or fucking...it's always "alone time"...I've gotten her to watch porn with me and she's not a prude when it comes to toys. I'm happy with most aspects of my marriage, but I really need her inner desires or maybe her inner slut to come out to play. When its her ovulation week, the desire is there and she is quite fun, but the majority of the other times, it's more fulfilling to watch porn and fap than it is to put up with her lack of interest in sex. There is NO enthusiasm.

Today, I let her know that we would be having sex when she got home from work...When she got home, I made sure to be playful and kiss her. She liked it and seemed good to go, but a friend showed up and invited her to come to her new house to look at it..I was ok with that even though I was ready to go right then..I got our toddler to sleep and went to pick my wife and other kids up later...As soon as we get home, I isolate and escalate..she gets naked and in the bed, but absolutely kills the mood. She became very negative..."lets hurry this up if we are going to do it, I'm so tired, lets get this over with.." (like a broken record).. I hop in and start a little foreplay because if I don't, she'll get sore and then I won't get any more all for a few days..(yes, I have been fucking her as hard as I can like a caveman at every opportunity)..She will not shut up and enjoy and it gets to the point that I'm not even interested anymore. I've totally lost all desire to fuck her tonight because she is just showing absolutely no desire to be doing this. I tell her that all of the negative comments are not a turn on. She says "I'm sorry, but keeps bitching". I don't know if she is even conscious that she is doing it. I get up and go do something else and tell her to go to sleep because I'm not interested in fucking her if she isn't going to be into it. She didn't like that. I started to come back, but she started bitching again. I tried to convey to her that I couldn't even get into it again with all of her nonsense...I should have told her, "If you really want me to hurry up and fuck you, then spread your legs and tell me to come and get it with a smile on your face...its not that hard." She didn't say anything and just laid there for a few minutes as I went away then went to take a shower. Needless to say, she was up for at least another hour checking on animals and doing other stuff that didn't matter before going to bed. If the kids were not around it would be easy, but they are. Getting time alone earlier in the day is extremely hard with 3 kids. The oldest one is easy to deal with but the smaller two are constantly making it hard. I put them to bed at around 8:30 every night. My wife thinks she has to go to bed with them. I often pull her away and initiate for a quick session while the kids are awake, but it seems like every time I do, they will be banging on the door, screaming or fighting within 5 minutes and effectively ruining the time.

I have a 6 figure salary. I work around the house. I help with the kids homework. I've stopped taking shit from her. I never argue with her anymore-her tirades are becoming amusing to me now that I'm not taking them personal or trying to fix her problems. I'm lifting, dieting and becoming a better man daily. I'm making decisions instead of letting her take the lead. She's a control freak and doesn't like it. I just don't know if increasing my SMV will even help me with her. I think my SMV is near level with hers since I've lost weight. I guess it could be slightly below. Her SMV has went down a couple of notches over the past few years as she never lost the flab on her stomach after the last baby. She's attractive still, but not rockin a perfect bod anymore. Lots of people are noticing the weight loss, and I've had more females make it a point to smile and talk to me. I have no interest in straying, but I am really starting to resent my wife due to her lack of desire. I tell her that my top priority for her is sex. I don't care what else she does. Its great that she cleans and cooks, but I can get someone else to do that. Why can't she just take me at my word and step it up in the sex department?