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Active Dread Question

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November 8, 2018
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Quick bio:

40 yrs old, married 15 years, two kids, swallowed the RP a year ago, lost 35lbs, Bench 200lbs, been lifting for over a year, active in kick boxing, currently getting promoted, and have gone from sex once or twice a month, to sex once a week. I've read just about everything and more on the sidebar. I have had multiple women at work give me IOIs so, I have confidence that I can game chicks at work on cautious mode because of #metoo bullshit

Question:

If I have a few texts to women at work on my phone that I let my wife find (nothing flirtatious or compromising), is that a good idea for putting on some active dread? My wife has noticed a few hot girls from work as my Facebook friends and she gets uncomfortable about it. For sure, I know she'll be super pissed, but will that backfire or will it have the active dread effect?


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Title Active Dread Question
Author Rojo-Gringo
Upvotes 6
Comments 21
Date 08 November 2018 01:59 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203808
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9v5u59/active_dread_question/
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[–]JudgeDoom6929 points30 points  (4 children) | Copy

What you're describing is an overt and transparent effort to induce jealousy in your woman. It will only make you seem weak and pathetic.

True dread comes from increasing your actual Sexual Marketplace Value. Demonstrate that you have value as an alpha male through peak physical fitness and being social leader, and the dread will follow naturally, without your effort.

Your little shallow attempts to make her jealous only expose your insecurities.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

What about after rejection on a Friday night i get out of bed and grab a drink. Then calmly get dressed and say goodnight. She asks where im going and i say out going to grab a beer at the bar. She goes into a violent rampage about how i make her feel as though she has no choice but to fuck me or I'll leave for some bar slut. It's as if she has a mental breakdown at the thought of any dread. Do I need to ngaf about her issue and just continue? She blew up on a coworker sitting next to me once. Claimed she was rubbing my dick under the table. I was just having a casual convo with her.

[–]JudgeDoom691 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

The key is to stay in your own frame at all times. You don't let her words or mood affect you in any way.

You find her little tantrums to be mildly amusing, nothing more than that. She's a little girl who is acting up, nothing more.

By the way, your woman has Borderline Personality Disorder. There's no treatment for that, she's just wired that way.

The good news is, she will be exceedingly easy to dread. The bad news is she will wig the fuck out every time you rock the boat.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I debated flirting with a waitress once. Then imagined my wife charging at her and biting her tounge out through her neck.

[–]JudgeDoom691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha she sounds like a fiery one. Is she Hispanic?

You’re still very much in her frame. Everything revolves around her reaction.

Just concentrate on self improvement. Keep lifting, dressing well, etc. and her hamster will run wild

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your goal should be passive dread, until you get to the highest dread levels. What you describe is both weak and obvious.

She will sniff out your lack of congruence pretty quickly.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

'Planting' evidence is beta. In a way it is just another covert contract, she must get jealous and fuck you because you planted some texts to make her jealous.

You will get pissed because she didn't get jealous. NMMNG basics.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look mommy. Mommy look! Over here! Mommy! Mommy?

No, that doesn’t work. She can stiff it out from a mile a way too. Just be awesome. The passive dread will do its own magic.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everyone here is giving you the standard boiler plate response for active dread.

This is your relationship to burn and only you know when using active dread is the right tool. You are your own fucking judge.

The fucking "rules" we have here are just guidelines.

If you truly don't give a fuck, and you love the man that you are, and you can envision yourself thriving with it without a first officer, and you have put in the work to become the man that can thrive without a first officer, then what the fuck does it matter.

Do whatever you want.

Active dread away and let the universes feedback be your guide.

Everyone is giving you the same advice for a reason though.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Active dread - no

Passive dread- yes

But, if you read all of the sidebar “and more,” you’d know that

[–]Reach180Red Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have had multiple women at work give me IOIs so, I have confidence that I can game chicks at work on cautious mode

Work IOIs, "hot girl" work friends....it's not real. Work game is mostly women looking for orbiters. If that's the only place you're getting IOIs - which I assume it is, because you've convinced yourself it's a BFD and are trying to leverage that as dread - then work on an additional venue.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't be a sneaky rat. Earn your stars the right way. The real way.

When your balls are sufficiently dropped, the dread will come.

[–]redwall922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Facebook is not a valid source for dread.

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bad idea. You’re overthinking it and it’s a beta move. Which means she’ll be less turned on, not more. If it happens by accident, while you’re busy pursuing your mission and goals, now THAT’S true dread-inducing and tingles-generating.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"You mean I can dodge bullets?" "No Neo. When you're ready, you won't have to."

[–]mrpthrowa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No it’s not. Dread is accidental. Dread is a by product of being awesome, of enjoying life, not giving a shit and having a high SMV.

You concentrate on you. What you’re doing is living in her frame of this marriage is your aim. You are your aim. You make the marriage awesome by being awesome. Alas eventually you get to a point where the baggage either can’t keep up or won’t keep up.

At that point you just move on

You can only change yourself

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I like it. I love the Game.

It can be effective if you “let” her find them. Not going to tell you how though. Up to you.

It’s social proof. Your wife can see other women finding you attractive and high value. Depending on your current situation, it can help.

Use any leverage you can find.

[–]becoming_alpha0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If he had said there were texts from women at work that his wife could find on his phone, I'd agree. But he said texts to women at work. Smells like a transparent attempt to manufacture some dread.

[–]Rojo-Gringo[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

That’s true if they happened to text me there’s nothing I can do about it, if I initiate it makes me look like a douche bag

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Text her first, then delete your text.

When she text you back, it will look like she initated . Need to be smart.

[–]DeplorableRay1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know if I like you or I hate you on this sub, but you are certainly very fucking interesting. Cheers.



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