It bothers me, every single day. As if the knowledge on the books isn't enough.
Read - The Manipulated Male, Alabaster Girl, NMMNG, Assertiveness, and a few others (can't remember from the top of my head). Hell, I listen to a lot of Patrice O Neil, so that's the best - of the best.
I'm 5'11''. 24 y/o Dominican. 180lb. Bench Press 245lb max, OHP 155lb, Deadlift 365lb, Squat 275lb.
Best shape in my life. I was skinny, average before working out in 2018. And yet, I always run into this same problem over and over again, here in the US. My god, its been the same annoying thing since I was 14. No girlfriend. I try to friend the girls but the conversation doesn't even get that far lmao.
Being in an all-boys Catholic HS and Military (US Navy) sets you back by a lot. ffs.
I really want to try to understand this, but I can't. I traveled to South America and women don't act this way. These women were feminine and nice. Beautiful and they took good care of themselves. Some of them asked if I had a girlfriend (Argentinean women usually do this if they're interested in you)..... and Brazilian women gave me compliments when I was just that skinny average looking guy.
Not the way I see American women. Closed-minded and short-sighted from the point I get their contacts (Instagram or phone number).
Compliments are empty, when I give it to a girl here in the US. In South America, they love it, at least 70% of the ones I tell them to. I find it even more difficult to understand as I talk to a Costa Rican girl, who I met in Peru last year, and she invited me to spend a trip to Cancun with her.
I tell myself how difficult it must be to follow up on EVERYBODY, as I try to friend as many people as possible (usually guys from class and the gym) and I imagine women experience the same problem too.
Somehow, I try to find some logical explanation why the women here in (well I live in Orlando, FL) behave the way that they do, in my view. It frustrates me, to the point where I can't even do my college homework. I can't focus at all. It throws me into a depression state and I fight this thought in my mind over and over again.
I started to go out and daygame today. I remember talking to a Brazilian girl who was working behind the counter of a small fast food stand and even my experience talking with her, showed how easy it was for her to fake a smile and say no to me asking her out. An irritated smile.
Rejection is easy. A no will stop the conversation for me. I don't care about becoming persistent. But the time I invest on a girl, is worse.
TL;DR - The approach process is a terrible experience for me here in Florida. Constant state of depression. Frustrated to the point where I need to at least go out there and TRY. I can't figure out why I can't even ask a girl out here in the US.
- I ask her schedule - it's like asking for sex
- I ask her out - it's like asking for sex
- I ask if she's free - it's like asking for sex
- she says she's free on this day - she has a history of 85% flakes and doesn't follow up with me at all, on the date (a girl I've known since June 2018)
Wtf is going on? I know women assume many things about men but I sense some kind of negativity from women. Help.
Edit: Reading Book of Pook - was hesitant on reading but these lessons sound similar to my situations.