There have been a bunch of posters recently asking will MRP work on my wife or how can I fix my marriage so I wanted to post this as it took me a long time to get past this when I started and maybe I can help some of them.
I had read the Reconstruction series on Rational Male when I first found MRP and to be completely honest I couldn't internalize some of things he said because I had a huge covert contract that despite thinking I was doing this for myself that I was really still doing it to fix my marriage.
There is a section that keeps coming to mind when I see these new posts about fixing your marriage and why its important to wipe out this covert contract:
"Hypergamy doesn’t care when a woman’s lasting impression of a man is his Beta status. How a man’s Red Pill awareness and the changes it brings in him will be accepted depends largely on his predominant condition. What husbands want is a sea change in their wives’ impression of them once they adopt a Red Pill / Game aware way of life. Most husbands have to weigh their emotional and personal investments in their wives with the reality that their wives’ impressions of them may simply never change. Becoming Red Pill aware forces husbands into a position of having to judge whether their marriages are even worth the considerable effort of trying to improve."
My wife has no idea how differently I interpret the world now, how I view myself, how I see her and she never will. But at the same time I must recognize the same is true for her - I very well may always be her supplicating beta bitch.
If I was still doing this for her I would be stuck still hamstering why she isn't coming around and seeing the changes in me and how much work I have put in. It would erode my frame, affect all of my decisions, make me DEER, change my MAP and stifle progress.
That is why we do this for ourselves - for the clarity of knowing who YOU are, what YOU want and how YOU get there.