Ive asked questions before, got answers and have been working hard but I'm stuck on the point below.
I have two kids, one 2.5yrs old girl and 1.5yrs old boy, I love my kids, they bring me happiness, and I take a great deal of pride in raising them. I am emotionally invested in my children and I don't feel it is blue pull of me to have this paternal love for them.
With that out of the way and shifting focus toward the main goal of MRP, "Sexual Strategy" by being an awesome man. I request some guidance on managing your own needs against those of your children.
I get off work at 5, pickup kids by 6, workout M-W-F in the basement (my 2.5yr old daughter watches and plays while I lift). Dinner shortly after, which is a mixed bag (leading my wife to healthy food has been a challenge - she likes food... and it shows). On off evenings, before dinner, I make it a point to get outside with the kids as much as possible, be it cleaning the garage, going for a walk, talking about nature - and my wife likes to tag along.
We then give the kiddos a bath together (luckily they are still at the age where they are still pretty oblivious of each other's naughty bits). Then it's bedtime: my wife and I each take a kid and chill on the couch and read or watch some sitcom until my daughter requests to go to bed (usually 30mins or so). I'll take her up and wait for her to be fully zonked out and sneak out the door. (Yes I know this isn't the perfect bedtime ritual) done by 8-8:30.
My wife often is busy being a couch potato. Or trying to fit in a shower (makes me angry)
This leaves 2-3 hrs where Im up busting my ass to get things up to speed around the house, shower, groom, then get to bed by 10:30-11 and up by 6am to get kids up and ready for work by 8am.
I'm not looking for a pity party relief. I'm not asking, "so when's the pussy coming?" I'm not getting laid, does it bother me, sure a little, but she's not really attracting me too much (beached whale).
She also has a shit attitude toward me "not sure if she is resentful or what", but it's hard to really even want anything to do with her... Shes not really the girl I want to hang out with anymore, her attitude: shitty, her goals: none, her self-respect: none.
I know I need to lead her, but by example isn't doing the trick. My kids favor me, and I don't know what to tell her when she bitches about it other than, "I'm the shit".
Any advice is appreciated.