I would like some insight from you guys on this. I have in my mind already what I would like to do, but I am concerned that it will just show butthurt.

Background

I feel that sexually things have been getting better with me and my wife. I received my first blow job ever from her just two weeks ago and that is after 13 years of marriage and it is something she has never done with anyone ever (both of us were virgins).

Pre-MRP and about 6 years ago I noticed that my wife hadn't worn any lingerie for quite a while. She doesn't particularly love lingerie and would mostly do it for me. She would wear lingere every other month or so just for fun. I was thinking that she was maybe bored with what she had, so I bought her something new on like Valentine's or our anniversary or something. Later, she wears it and then later she tells me that she threw away all of her lingerie one day months before that because she was mad at me. I laughed off and didn't press the issue. But, at the time I was thinking WTF? I was too blue to rock the boat and confront.

So, over the course of the next 6 years or so I have purchased her 1 or 2 lingerie pieces each year. She usually wears them when I buy them, but rarely wears lingerie. Granted, I usually wouldn't ask her to wear them either. She stores these up in some boxes in her closet. Today, I discovered all of her lingerie thrown away in the outside trash.

Interestingly enough, last month she wore lingerie twice after hardly wearing any lingerie for the past few years. One of them was a two piece set and my wife never wears anything two piece, ever. She looked damn good in it and I made sure she knew it. She said something like "I don't know why you like lingerie so much". I told her that since she always dresses modestly that I really like seeing my wife dressed in something sexy. It is kind of my chance to admire her beauty. That conversation was about 2 weeks ago and the lingerie was thrown away either last night or the night before.

More Background

Wife for about the last year and a half has been unusually moody. It coincides with her cycle. Pleasant the first 2 weeks and then depressed and lathargic with zero libido the last 2 weeks. She went and saw a natural path doctor just yesterday. She diagnosed her with adrenal fatigue and low progesterone. Wife started her period yesterday. So, this could have been a PMS episode. Regardless, PMS is not an excuse to act like a bitch in my opinion.

The Dilemma

In all honesty, even though I really like lingerie, I really don't care that she doesn't wear it or that she even likes it. I could probably let it go. Hell, after swallowing I didn't care that she rarely ever wore them anymore. I didn't really care that they sat in the closet unused.

But to throw them all away? To me, this is a slap in the face. She knows that I like them and to throw all of them away to me is a cunt move. If I ignore this and don't at least call her out on it then I don't feel like I am setting a boundary or at least calling out cunt behavior. If I do confront then I risk showing butthurt. I get that I can't make her like or want to wear lingerie. I just don't like that she knows clearly how I feel about it and has completely disregarded it.

My thoughts are just to flat out ask her, "Hey, I was throwing some stuff away and I saw all of your lingerie in the trash. What's that all about?" Then just listening to whatever bullshit she says and then look at her and say "K" and then go do something else. It's the not being pissed at her afterwards that I am worried about. Or, the fact that I don't even want to kino, initiate, and escalate afterwards because I am butthurt and pissed.

Speak some sense into me. Let it go? Confront? If I confront, how do I do it properly?

TLDR; Wife threw away all her lingerie. She knows I like lingerie. I don't really care about the lingerie only that she is deliberately throwing away something she knows I like and enjoy. I feel it is a slap in the face. Confront or no?