Wife (33) filed for divorce a year ago, because I lacked in a lot of areas, was poor and was generally beta (still am). I am 32. We are in the process of waiting for the court to approve. Meanwhile living separated already.

At the time I discovered trp. I started lifting and reading. Improved my career from unemployed to lower executive. Upped my wardrobe, from watch to shoes to suits. Got hobbies. Got a new car just yesterday. This one in case anyone is curious. It's not a pussyslayer-car, but definitely an improvement from what I had. Plan on upgrading again as soon as possible.

I still meet with my wife every now and then. And whenever we do, she makes remarks like:

  • "Finally you got a new car. Maybe we shouldn't divorce after all."
  • "Now that you got this position, maybe we shouldn't separate."
  • "With whom am I going to make my next child with? Our daughter needs a sibling."
  • "You should come over more often."
  • "Do you love me?"

And to be honest, I don't know what I want. I told her, that I could imagine staying with her, but she would have to accept any girlfriend I like to keep, if I decide to do so. I would treat her as number one, but I can't imagine her being the only one forever and ever, because that's not the way I would like to live my life. At least I would keep it honest.

To that she just flipps out, that if I ever got to do something like this (having a girlfriend), I would never ever see her again (typical shit test of somebody who thinks he is the price), to which I just tell her straight on, that that's just the way I tick.

We still had a good night that evening, I drove her home later. I digged the trash (meaning we fucked) and I stayed for the night.

The thing I am confused about:

Except the argument "for the kiiidz", I have difficulty tolerating any shit anymore. Yesterday, while we had dinner at a restaurant, she made a remark about "you'll never accomplish" whatever I am trying to accomplish. I stood up immediately, excused myself, told her I go to the bathroom. Paid inside and was ready to just drive her home at this point. Instead I went accross, bought ice cream for myself and when I returned to the table she was shits & giggles again (meaning she was excited about a different topic I started).

Now, in the past, I would have jumped at the opportunity to be back together with her. She is still a good looking HB8. Dropped from HB9 due to aging. But since the RP, I just see hypergamy. Oh, I got a new job? Well, now I am worth something. Oh, I got a new car? Now we better stay together, since I have resources and would be a good BB.

I feel like, IF I wanted to, I could steer the relationship back together. If I would show more beta qualities, like talking about the future, kids, money and promotions, a house. Instead, whenever she asks for commitment, I talk about, if she's okay with non-exclusivity on my part. Here we usually change subject.

She asked me not to fuck any other girls, now that she visits her mom for summer holidays (3 weeks) and asked if I can restrain myself for the time. I replied: "Do prostitutes count?", which I had to ask half-seriously 5 times, because she wouldn't give a definite answer. I haven't yet fucked any other girl except her and she knows it. Also she has the best bullshit detectors out there, which seem to be standard equipment for women.

We kept talking and I mentioned that there is a brothel right next to my golf club. I said that I researched it out of curiosity and girls cost only 30€. I asked her if she wants me to buy us one. Personally if I was going to ever use a prostitute, which I don't know for now, I would spent it on quality instead of something cheap, because you get what you pay for. (btw. it's legal here in europe and I bring these topics up, to put her perception of her SMV into perspective)

I lurk and read this sub religiously. And I am wondering, why the hell do people in this sub even try to reconnect with their trash wife's? I mean, they are getting OLD. Mine is still good looking but for how long? Why would anyone put up with wife's shit? Maybe I am a special case, because damage has already been done, due to announcement of the divorce, and I don't give a fuck anymore.

But generally speaking, whenever she pushes me to do something for her, f.e. to block a girl on whatsapp, that's been sending me non-nude-pics, (to which I don't reply, because she's a hb6), by telling me that: "If you don't block her, you will never see me again. Delete her, right now." I cringe a little bit, because she still thinks she is the price. I respond with "No, thank you. You can't tell me what to do. If I ever decide to start dating again, I will let you know, don't worry about that."

I understand that this rumble may not make sense. I am just confused and try to figure out, where to bring this relationship. I think the best thing would actually be, having a "main"-bitch and "side"-bitches, without doing it backstabbingly. Other than that, I don't see why a man should invest so much for an old car, that just keeps getting older. What's you guys long term master plan in regard to relationships? Still fucking your wife, when she is 65? That's just gross.