MRP since March, slowly implementing. Marriage was great, except for quality of sex- we are generally happy. Married for 5 years, together for 5 before that. We have 3 kids (2.5 year old twins and 8 week old). We are both 28 and started dating in high school.
BACKGROUND: Since I started working on me in January while wife was pregnant, I didn't really know what to expect. I didn't force too much as I knew it could backfire. However, when we got the all clear after 6 weeks post-partum, we have had sex every night save one. I've gotten more blowjobs in the last 3 weeks than I did the previous year. Added bonus.
I mainly started to follow MRP because in September, the foundation of trust in our relationship had come crumbling down after she confessed some infedelity in our high school/early college years- "never sex, but close". I got trickle truth every night for a week and I'm convinced that I still don't know the WHOLE truth. Went through a couple of counseling sessions and left still pissed off. That's when I made the decision that I cannot control anything that anyone else does. What I can control is how I proceed. Not going to lie, Divorce had crossed my mind.
I started working on me. I began to lift, run, read, eat correctly and really focused on playing with my kids and fixing up our first home. The I swallowed the pill about 1.5 months ago. I needed to make sure that my son grew up knowing what a man does and how he holds himself. I've read NMNNG and half-way through MMSLP
PROBLEM: The last couple of weeks/months, I have been in the best shape of my life, I'm getting compliments from everybody I see that knows what I used to look like 6 months ago. I have had no rejections for 2 weeks, closing nightly and sometimes in the morning or on lunch break for a quickie. Yesterday, I told my wife that I am going to be taking over the finances of the family and bill-paying. She is first confused, but let's it go.
Today, while at work, I text my wife and tell her to have herself and the kids ready to go out when I get home (playfully). She's confused but excited. We needed to leave right when I got home or we would have missed the event.
We go to this outdoor art fair event, live music and all. Kids are having a ball, I'm playing with them, playing with her, pulling her in for some dancing. It was a great day. Go out for some pizza afterwards with the kids.
After kids are in bed, I ask if she wants to join me in bed so I can take her for a ride.
"Not tonight honey. But I love you"
I say, "of course you do" with a cheeky smile. Give her a kiss and get up to go downstairs to start working on organizing the bill chart and finances. She asks where I'm going and I tell her. SHOULD I HAVE STFU?? She loses it about not wanting me to do the finances and bills, that she LIKES to do them and she doesn't understand why I want to all of a sudden. I don't think I lose frame too much when I answer, "I want to take over the finances and I am going to do it. It is not a knock on you, it's what I want to do".
She gets mad that I leave it at that and walk away and she's yelling as I walk down into the basement, some shit about how she doesn't understand what's going on.
Any help or advice appreciated.