Wife accused me of having crush on her sister

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March 20, 2017

My wife's younger sister has a new boyfriend. He recently spent some time with the family and having got to know him, he's a bit of a dick. He's in his early 20s and he's quite arrogant. I get on with most people but he's one I just don't 'click' with.

Anyway, my wife today asked me what I thought of him, to which I replied 'I think he's a bit of a dick'. Which started WW3, as she proceeded to tell me that she can't understand why I don't like him, it must be jealousy, either I'm scared of him taking my place in the family or BECAUSE I HAVE A CRUSH ON HER SISTER. What. The. Actual. Fuck.

She went on to say how I'm like this with all of her sisters' (she has 2) boyfriends, and that it must be jealousy. This statement is bullshit by the way, but there have been 1 or 2 others I haven't got on with either.

She's insecure about this particular sister as she's quite a bit younger and no kids yet (we've got 3). And we've always got on really well. Have suspected that she had a crush on me for quite a few years, for reasons I won't delve into now, but it is 100% not reciprocated - I've known her since she was 7 yrs old & don't look at her that way at all.

We were interrupted in our conversation today so I just said 'we'll talk about this later'. Well now is later, and I have no clue how to react to this - any help greatly appreciated.


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Title Wife accused me of having crush on her sister
Author Jimbocaan
Upvotes 9
Comments 29
Date 20 March 2017 08:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206381
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/60iuiw/wife_accused_me_of_having_crush_on_her_sister/
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[–]abdadaRed Beret47 points48 points  (11 children) | Copy

Wife has a crush on sister's boyfriend and is projecting.

[–]RPAlternate42Red Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. Didn't even get past:

to which I replied 'I think he's a bit of a dick'. Which started WW3

To know that she's tingling for the boyfriend.

[–]PBRistasty6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]mrpthrowa6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. I literally didn't have to read any of your post, and it only reinforced my thought after reading the title. Boy you are in a world of hurt of your own making if you mismanage this.

[–]atlhartRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

My guess is OP's wife is an older, therefore less hot, version of her sister. OP doesn't have to worry about Chad, cause Chad's already banging the hot one

[–]atlhartRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Couldn't be more obvious if you shoved a red hot poker up OP's urethra

[–]abdadaRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even the red hot poker would be starfishing, though.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

exactly what I thought before I even completed reading.

[–]Soberskipper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP we all thought this and I'm quite shocked you haven't seen it in your post when you read it back before posting. I hope your in better shape than said "cocky young early 20s dick" because if not your about to get cucked bro.

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Wow she accused you! Thats so serious! You´d better explain yourself right now! You dont look at her sister that way!

Give less fucks man.

"Problem with your sister is that birthmark she has just beside her cunt, instant boner killer"

[–]dandar46004 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I actually laughed out loud. Just saying lol wouldn't give you justice.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Best way to win this one is to not play.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

I stopped describing guys as "a bit of a dick" or "douchebags" or "players" when I realized that usually those feelings came from my feelings of inadequacy when my drive and initiative to succeed were compared to theirs. Often, my insults would be based on a moral high ground on my part...as in "I'd never be like that to get what I want."

And if they really are being a bit of a dick...in particular to me...I handle it. Kill your ego.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I used to be this way too but now realize I was just jealous that my strategy of being nice wasn't as successful. I was doing "the right thing" and girls liked my jerk friends more. My wife definitely had tingles for my alpha friends. Had a Christian upbringing so I literally thought God was going to give me everything I wanted if I was a nice person. I kept waiting for that to happen. Spoiler: it didn't.

[–]nantucketghost0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

First off, /u/abdada is 100% onto something about your wife projecting. The way you describe this guy, I'm about to get a crush on him. You could probably stand to learn a thing or two from him tbh.

Secondly, never ever say anything negative about this guy again unless he absolutely deserves it. From now on, he's like your best bro. Beta males talk negatively about alpha males because they are insecure around them. So seriously, STFU.

This isn't about the sister at all, but if she makes it a point to bring it up, just tell her "yea, she's hot" or "I wouldn't kick her out of bed" or whatever that game of thrones chick said. DO NOT BRING UP ANY POSSIBLE FEELINGS YOUR WIFE MIGHT HAVE FOR THIS GUY. I can't stress that enough. If you mention any of that shit you're going to look like an even bigger bitch than you already are. One more thing, don't ever refer to any feelings you have as a "crush". I know your wife brought it up, but "crush" is just a word girls use to downplay the fact that they really want to fuck a guy. Guys don't get crushes, they either want to fuck a girl or they don't.


One more thing, your wife asking you what you thought of him was a test. It was a test to see if you feel threatened or insecure around this guy. She desperately wanted you to like him and get along, because that would mean you're on his level, but instead you got insecure and started throwing shade and your giant beta flag went up and dried her vagina in an instant. If she didn't have a crush on him before, your insecurity will probably push her there anyway. Sisters compare their men all the time. Your wife flipped out because your answer made it certain in her mind that her sister has a better man than she does. Your insecurity proved it. That's the real reason she flipped out, she's married to the bitch man while her sister gets her cool "asshole" boyfriend. Wew boy.

Good luck buddy.

[–]abdadaRed Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

If it was me, I'd be number closing the boyfriend and then going out with him duo style.

Dread Level Ricardo Montalban

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy


I wonder how many other "girlfriends" this guy has besides OP's wife's sister.

[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sisters compare their men all the time. Your wife flipped out because your answer made it certain in her mind that her sister has a better man than she does. Your insecurity proved it. That's the real reason she flipped out, she's married to the bitch man while her sister gets her cool "asshole" boyfriend.

THIS 1,000 times. Be the hawt asshole BF/husband, not the weak bitch. If I ever get the desire to nuke my family, I could be creampie-ing my SIL in a fucking heartbeat. If that's not you, you need to Get to that level.

[–]zurgenfloggin3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

When they are riled up, remember to initiate soon afterwards. DNGAF when they get mad. Shrug, perhaps smirk, and fog (WISNIFG).

Stop explaining yourself. Stop arguing. Stop justifying what you said.

You have the right to think whatever you want about people. You have the right to not justify your thoughts or actions. You have the right to change your mind (about saying you'd talk about it).

[–]jtzabor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I read initiate at urinate....that left me confused for a minute....

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your SO is "tingleishis" for the BIL

Better step back and remember, mate guarding is Unattractive, so is DEERING

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you have a crush on the sister?

[–]hibloodstevia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This guy is going to enjoy fucking your wife.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is dread.

Bask in it.

Amused mastery.

It may be projection also, like abdada suggested. I'm thinking it's both dread and projection.

[–]TheLionQueen1110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell her to stop speaking to you that way.

And ya, you do have a crush on her sister, but you choose to be with her, but she better cut that attitude out right now, or you are going to find a better girl. Oh, and your not jealous of her sisters boyfriends, she is just projecting.

That will set her straight, and if it does not, leave her. Find a better women, and this time don't get married, so she can't try to be a parasite.

Edit: And if she acts huffy-puffy over it, ignore it, if she wont stop tell her to cut it out or you will never speak to her again, she is to act right, or you will find a women that does. Simple as that. She either acts right, or start looking for a better women and find one.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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