Just took the RP last week, and I'm looking for some concrete advice on initiating morning sex in bed (details below).
I'm already RP in some areas, my marriage is good, and sex can be excellent. However, I want more sex, and I'm doing a bad job of initiating when my wife and I wake up in bed. My wife acts passively in this situation, and my beta self-doubt can't handle this.
Thoughts appreciated, and go easy - I'm only a week in!
I want sex some mornings, but I'm bad at initiating when my wife and I wake up in bed.
We sleep naked. We're generally spoon cuddling when we wake up, with me on the outside. I gently stroke her arms / tummy, and kiss the top of her back. She'll make the occasional contented noise, and that's it. Then my beta self-doubt kicks in, and I don't initiate further. I alternate indecisively between doing nothing, or stroking her arms / tummy. I must be sending mixed signals to my wife at this point. Then she gets up for work. Sucky start to the day for me, and probably her too.
I guess I'm not initiating further, as:
- I've historically only escalated sex if I know wife wants it too (she's responding to mouth kisses, stroking me, grinds my butt back into me, etc). In this waking-up situation it's hard to tell, as she's passive. She can be enthusiastically submissive during sex, so I wonder if she's waiting for me to escalate.
- I'm unclear how to escalate from this passive spooning position. Should I physically roll her over and start kissing her breasts? I realise I could just grow a pair and do this, but it would be good to know the options :-)
Thoughts appreciated, particular on the escalation from spooning position.