Shit test? or more?

SorcererKing · 2016-07-27T05:43:29+00:00

I hope to hell you have plans to be in the gym a lot and not reward that bad behavior with your time and attention?

sh0ckley · 2016-07-27T13:00:47+00:00

I responded with "I hope my side chick doesn't feel the same way"

That's some bang up A.A.

Well handled.

She also text me after we spoke at lunch today and said i'm always nagging her... but I dont think I am..

She texted you. To nag you that you're nagging her?

Well. Ask her less questions. If you're letting her do too much decision making, this can come back as nagging. Even stupid crap like always asking where something is instead of looking for it. You know, things you'd see on a sitcom.

Easy enough to avoid if you're leading, making decisions and Shutting TFU.

I am actually super butthurt at the first comment.

Reminds me of an old joke:

Q: How does a real man know when he's made a lady cum?

A: Real men don't care.

Likewise , while I'll use her enthusiasm level in the bed as a gauge of how I've been doing lately: I couldn't care how she wants to verbally categorize it. I prefer the term "maintenance sex".

Fuck caring about that and instead be proud of your handling of her comment with the A.A. comeback. The only bad sex is starfish sex.

NEXT TIME if you draw a blank:

HER : "Our sex is duty sex"

YOU: "It's my civic duty...to bang the booty."

One of my favorite lines from "Fear of a Black Hat"

And then act like she said something of absolutely no consequence. Which she did.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-07-27T05:13:30+00:00

Comfort test: She's looking to see if you still approve of her.

Shit test: She's looking to see if you are worthy of fucking her.

Do you think her question is about gaining a sense of comfort from you or to see if you give too many shits about what she thinks?

Hint, it's the latter. Shit test. You agreed and amplified but you're but a baby learning to walk. You think you're Rambo...but she sees Ghandi flapping his arms around like Kermit the frog. You're a joke to her.

It's time for you to shut the fuck up and get to work. Agree and amplify once you have some more respect to work with. Side bar time...

Sepean · 2016-07-27T07:43:09+00:00

Why is your SMV low? Are you nagging her? Is your mood foul? Are you listening to what she says? Are you low energy and lazy? Live in her frame?

We need more details.

Married LTR told me this morning that sex with me is duty sex, I responded with "I hope my side chick doesn't feel the same way" and she responded by calling me a dick and saying that all girls in relationships give duty sex...

If your SMV is low then a dread comment comes off as weak, especially if your butthurt is showing and it was delivered negatively. Also, what happened next? Did you argue or walk off or?

screechhater · 2016-07-27T11:39:05+00:00

When you make comments like "I hope my side piece ...... " it has got to be timed at exactly the right time and you have to be all in and present mentally and physically, yet state it like it is off the cuff and you couldn't give two fucks about the storm about to erupt or you could walk the fuck away at the drop of a hat.

And, just so you understand this, it can only be done by doing it. So, perhaps you should sit down with a pad of paper and write out 1000x IDGAF. Then write out over and over I will read the side bar

[deleted] · 2016-07-27T11:40:45+00:00

You gonna come here and ask everytime she says something that hurts your feelings?

[deleted] · 2016-07-27T12:31:58+00:00

here you go

mabden · 2016-07-27T14:36:04+00:00

sex with me is duty sex

Is it starfish or does she get into it?

[deleted] · 2016-07-27T20:26:49+00:00

So the issue is you are not Vin Diesel. Not because of muscles...

Oh, The things I do...

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-08-14T05:27:46+00:00

"Yeah, and some of them are even good at it. Keep trying though".

Too much talking and reasoning w/ her.

redearththeory · 2016-07-27T05:39:16+00:00

I am actually super butthurt at the first comment, do you think she realised?

Not based on your response. Unless you looked butthurt.

Was this a shit test?

Yes, and it sounds like you passed.

and where am I going wrong?

You need her validation. That's why her lack of attraction bothers you right?

Title	Shit test? or more?
Author	outplayedRP
Upvotes	6
Comments	22
Date	27 July 2016 04:11 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	askMRP
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/207289
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4usstn/shit_test_or_more/