I've been lurking here for a while. Read pre-reqs and currently 4-5 months into my map. Been lifting, eating right. And with the wife been consistently passing the smaller shit tests. Anyway, I had a big display of disrespect from the wife.
Yesterday was my son's Pre-school graduation. He was trying to get the attention of my mother-in-law and got upset because she was distracted. Anyway he was in mid-cry-tantrum and I took on calming him down since we need to get going. While i try to calm him my wife interjects with yelling at my son. I asked her to stop and she began yelling at me. Attacking my parenting methods, trying to enforce her dominance basically.
I walk off at first since her mother was here. I pulled her aside and told her that I do not appreciate this behavior and will not tolerate this disrespect.
She then begins to yell at my further, the long story short of her message was I need to do what she says. Her mother chimes in that we need to be a united front in front of them. Basically backing my wife. At this point she's screaming at me. I tell her this conversation is over until she can speak to me with respect. She began to scream more and I walked away. Note, this whole time I remained calm. I believe it was my calmness that made her escalate. If it weren't for his graduation i would have left but I couldn't do that to him.
I realized my mistake was not addressing her behavior when she calmed down. So today I calmly told her the same thing that her tone is appreciated and will not be tolerated. She goes off saying how i disrespected her when i walked away. I stupidly replied that I did so because I wasn't going to be screamed at (which I already told her yesterday when i did). Anyway she goes off and stay on message that this needs to change. Then i had enough and calmly told her this is a final warning that things need to change and left. She chased me out and told me not to come back.
So anyway, what to do now? I know i'll be ripped apart so please rip my ass apart. Tear me down so i can rebuild.
Lastly, i found it interesting that today she told me how nasty and disrespectful I was yet I remained calm the whole time. I fogged all her distractions and stayed on message that I demand respect. Yet she interjected her feelings of how i felt. Damn crazy women...