I have lurked for a little bit. I realized that I should probably make an intro before I start asking questions.
It feels like forever, but really only two months. I know this because I got serious about MRP with 60 Days of Dread, which became the gauntlet being thrown down for me. It was time to stop reading and studying. Time for action. In that time I have seen things make a turn. Maybe not a radical turn, but one all the same.
My career, I have some work to do here. I make 6 figures, and I am damn good at my job, but it's too easy. I need more. So I've started freelance writing. I've always dreamed about being a writer. In two months I've gotten a few gigs. Not huge money, but it's something to work with.
My social life has never really been a problem. I make friends easily. I have a wide variety of interests. Yet it was always getting more time to do them. I was always looking for moments of time while she was gone, busy, or didn't mind if I went out...saying that turns my stomach. I've adapted a bit of MRP because we have young kids, an active family schedule. I just don't leave, I do tell her that a certain day and time I am going out and keep the schedule. So far very little guff, though once I got a titty flash as an entice to stay home. Didn't work...though I'd be a liar if I said I wasn't a bit moved by the gesture.
A year ago I had some health scares and a long talk with my doctor. It was time to loose weight. I started Crossfit and while I don't regret it (I lost significant weight), I wasn't back to the body I once had. oh I was in shape, but no shape to it. most Crossfit guys are like that which amazes me considering some of the stuff they can do. I was a power lifter in my youth. I know strength and how to get it, but I didn't want the weight that comes with power lifting. When I found MRP I quit the Crossfit and picked up the heavy weights again using SL5x5. Boy the muscles don't forget do they. 2 months definition is coming in fast. I fully recognize this is beginner gains but I will take it. At the moment I think I want to cut a little more to gain some tingles around me. So I am at 2300 calories a day, high protein. Cutting some calories might be the something to do over the next month.
I stopped doing "little things" or more like servant tasks, for my wife. For example she enters the room, sits down then looks at me and says. "I'm sorry I meant to get a cup of coffee. Would you get it for me?". You would think that this was a normal thing until you realize that it happened EVERY night and EVERY time she sat down. At first it was "sure I will sweetie." Now...just a simple "no". It was like a week of nos and suddenly she will ask, catch herself, and say "I'm sorry. Didn't mean to ask. I can do it. I am being silly," she'll flash a smile and get up to get it herself. This exact statement was said a couple times.
Recently, I had to confront her about not doing her share of the household chores, or at least riding the kids to do them and theirs. It resulted in her raging for a couple hours about it. Everything from I was a dick to being heartless asshole, to a misogynistic jerk. It's important to note that during her 2 hour rage I was preparing dinner and the next few days worth of meals for my lunches. I didn't say anything so she was having her own conversation. It was really quit something. The end result was her yielding to do a better job at making sure her part was done. It must have really worked because around 2:30am I woke up to her yanking on my dick.
Every Sunday we go out to Breakfast. There used to be times if she was pissy she wouldn't want to go and then the whole family didn't go. I like taking my family out to breakfast on Sunday. So now we go regardless of her feelings. Twice I have left her at home, one of those times she started a fight and threw a temper tantrum in the car. I turned around and dropped her back home. I told her she wasn't welcome if that was her attitude. I left and took the kids out....we stayed out all day. She was pissed the rest of the night but I had an awesome night's rest.
Some times I still have to weigh my motivations before I do them. Make sure there is no beta intentions, sometimes I just do it and later realize it was pure of thought.
There's still more work to go. SMV is something I am unsure about. It just seems very subjective, and that's ok, but it also means I'll be chasing this one for a while until I find what works...so keeping doing and that's fine. I am enjoying the little things.