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Red Pill Sexting

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December 2, 2015
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I searched a couple of subs and didn't see any mention of sexting the wife. I understand texting for anything other than logistics is generally frowned upon but what about sexting? Do you any of use use it with your wife? Has it been successful/unsuccessful? Any tips, suggestions or advice?

 

In the 10 years I've been married I have never sexted her but have dropped subtle hints (ineffective) at times. This morning I'm sitting at work with a raging boner so sent the wife a short message about fucking her later tonight. She seemed surprised and receptive and I went radio silence since. The dead bedroom is much better lately and I'm owning more shit so this move today felt right. I'll report back tomorrow on how this played out.

 

UPDATE: No sexy time for me last night. As soon as we got home I got the preemptive "I'm tired, I'm bloated, the dog ate my homework, blah blah blah" and then our 2 years old was throwing tantrums all night. Had to endure an emotional shit storm of complaints and got hard denials that night and this morning.


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Title Red Pill Sexting
Author Quarter_Century_Club
Upvotes 6
Comments 19
Date 02 December 2015 04:08 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207849
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/3v5mvv/red_pill_sexting/
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[–]Redneck001Red Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

My wife used to say "I'll never send pics via text."

I get pics now whenever I ask. Sometimes when I don't ask. I don't know if it's leading to anything; never thought about whether or not it leads to sex. It's fun, flirty.

She likes to send them at inopportune times. I'll be in a meeting, get a sext pic, and lose my concentration. Fun as hell. If only my colleagues knew why I'm stuttering.

But I think it falls under "start gaming her the minute your feet hit the floor in the morning."

I'm going to send her a "whatcha got?" text right now.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's the kind of stuff I'd like to get during the day. I'll keep building my game and text game and see where it leads.

[–]FearDearg2015Mod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I've done the sexting thing. It's fun, especially if your wife gets in on the action, but it's a tricky one to manage. You need to be ultra clear in your mind what you are trying to establish. Ideally, the texts would just be some fun in their own right. Don't let it become some covert contract. If you make a commitment by text to "do a thing", then make sure you follow through. In other words, don't say you are gonna fuck her in the ass and then chicken out later when she lays on the LMR. Say it and initiate, or don't say it at all. If she makes any "commitment" to do anything to you, then make sure you discard the idea immediately. In other words, if she promises to suck your balls dry, don't let yourself think for a second that that shit will happen. Watch what she does, not what she says.

You gotta ignore any resistance or negativity in the replies she sends, and agree/amplify or amused mastery a lot. You can act out an alter ego even.

All in all, sexting is a bit of a waste of time unless you are enjoying it for what it is (playful sexual banter with your wife). Once you can avoid the covert contracts, then go nuts.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks for the reply. I'm keeping it vague and opened ended for the most part but also letting her know that I plan on cavemanning her tonight or tomorrow morning. I also want her to understand that my drive is high all day (especially porn/fapping free) and sex needs to happen often - as long as my SMV and owning my shit are in order.

[–]suddenlytrp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I also want her to understand that my drive is high all day (especially porn/fapping free) and sex needs to happen often - as long as my SMV and owning my shit are in order.

You haven't told her that, and the comment on getting shut down last night leads me to believe you are expecting it. It's a borderline covert contract you're playing there. Be direct and tell her what you want. More so, game her more throughout the day. Trust me, I'm a huge failure at that and it has been my mission to up my game, and to initiate outside of "bedtime" because that is the part of the day when I get the most LMR and hard no's.

Vary your game as well. If you haven't read SGM or similar, now is the time.

A quick edit: When I was direct a while back and mentioned where my libido was and where her acceptance was (probably a conversation that I didn't handle well,) her response left my jaw on the floor. "You should initiate and tell me more." Point taken. I thought I was, but what she was telling me and I had to come to understand was this: Initiation can be ANY time, not just when you finally go to the bedroom in the evening. Not just in the bedroom, nor your house. Not just in the ways you think she wants it. Initiate. You have nothing to lose.

[–]_Tactleneck_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good info. Lately I'm bad about sending a dirty text, then we get home and I'm doing my thing, she's watching TV or on her phone and then I just kinda never get around to it. I've got to break the cycle, reading this will help motivate me to!

[–]J_Incognito2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

OP, my favorite opener sext - "what color panties today" It always initiates a fun 5min exchange which get increasingly dirty and leaves us primed for later action.

I also do well with invoking a fantasy. Example, text right before lunch: H "meet me at home in 10min". W "why" H "naked in the kitchen" and so on...

However, don't over do it - you're done for today (stay radio silent). And don't turn it into a covert contract for sex when you get home. It should just be a sexy interlude in an otherwise routine day.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'm going to try that next. Thanks for the suggestion.

My wife works a few minutes away and I'd ultimately like to progress to a quick midday rendezvous. Have a ways to go first.

[–]FearDearg2015Mod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

My wife works a few minutes away and I'd ultimately like to progress to a quick midday rendezvous. Have a ways to go first.

Once you can avoid letting yourself make it a covert contract, I see no reason why you can't just straight up "progress" to that point right now. Worst case scenario is that she takes you up on the offer and now you gotta go making arrangements for it etc, so make sure you actually have a plan in mind before you send that text. Expect her to reject it, so approach it in as playful and horny a way as you can. No begging, no butt hurt at the rejection, no deviation from your true plan. In fact, it might even be good for your dread game if you can show her how easy it is for you to slip away for a quickie.

[–]J_Incognito1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Agree - no need to "progress" to that point. Boldness is rewarded.

Also aside from the sexting, since she works nearby, lunch dates are a great midday rendezvous for working couples. Surprise her at work, throw her PB&J in the trash, and take her out to lunch.

[–]FearDearg2015Mod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Alpha move right there. Bonus points if she catches you flirting with some other chick at her office while you are on your way to meet her. Pre selection bonus. Ironwoods "alpha moves" is the Bible for this mindset.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

When I'm trying to get my girl hot over text, I think it's important to focus on you, and how horny you are and all the things you want to do to your woman, as opposed to setting up arranged sex for later in the day or saying "I'm going to do X to you tonight". Leave it open ended so maybe it will happen today, tomorrow, on your lunch break. I've never had real success trying to get her worked up with the time and place already stated. She'll play along all day then when the time comes it's nothing. So I always leave it open ended, and focus on what you want to do, not what you want her to do to you.

Plus I think by not explicitly stating a time or place, just the things you want to do, it kind of makes her hamster spin a little bit. Like "he didn't say a time or place, hopefully another girl doesn't come along before I get to him". Maybe I'm reaching a little but I think there might be a little truth there.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

...as opposed to setting up arranged sex for later in the day or saying "I'm going to do X to you tonight". Leave it open ended so maybe it will happen today, tomorrow, on your lunch break. I've never had real success trying to get her worked up with the time and place already stated.

 

I agree as a general principle. In my case, my wife tends to bog herself down in the morning and at night with small (Non urgent) tasks so I want her to know that tonight is for me and told her some of what I'm going to do. If it doesn't happen, so be it - I'll try the following morning.

[–]CountpudyoolaMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think it works for some women, but you have to know your audience.

AWALT in all women like some buildup, but not always respond via text.

[–]MRPguy0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No sexy time for me last night. As soon as we got home I got the preemptive "I'm tired, I'm bloated, the dog ate my homework, blah blah blah"

For most of the guys that are new to MRP, or the guys who still don't hold a consistent frame on a daily basis, sexting will have this same outcome.

Really all you are doing in these cases is giving your wife many hours to come up with reasons to not have sex with you. She literally has all day to develop those reasons. Don't do this. Spare yourself. Remember, she can say (text) anything but all that matters are her actions. Guys get excited by what their wives text, only to be let down in the real world.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Right and I prepared myself for that outcome. I'll keep the texting to a minimum and stick to face to face Initiation.



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