What to do when someone attacks your public image?

redpharma7789 · 2019-01-28T03:44:52+00:00

You need to cut that motherfucker off. He isn't your friend.

2comment · 2019-01-28T04:41:09+00:00

You don't AA reputation destructing things.

Call him out, publicly, for being a lying piece of shit and then cut him off.

There isn't much else to do.

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-01-28T05:52:00+00:00

Text "so what's up? You lied to <insert people names> and said I did <thing>. Do you have some kind of problem?"

9/10 times they will back down and say something like "sorry man I was only kidding" and now you have proof hes a liar if people ask you about it.

Surely the best tactic is to just ignore it and if anyone asks about it tell them hes a liar and that didn't happen and move on though.

Whatdoin27 · 2019-01-28T15:11:07+00:00

No dude, you confront that little asshole and call him on his shit IMMEDIATELY. Don't even give him the time of day either. Gather your good company and simply check his ass and ask why he's spreading rumors like a female.

The goal here is to use a form of reverse psychology here, ask him in whatever way you wish why he decided to lie like that and right after, come up with a good quick witted joke after. Make all the people around him hear this so his ass can be put on blast, just like he was trying to do to you.

An example: Say "So I heard you said (this) about me and I'm wondering why you did it? What was your goal?"

Right after you catch his ass off guard and say something like, "Only females spread rumors like that bro, that makes you look like a bitch."

I can guarantee you that you have a 80% chance of turning the tables on him right there. Another key thing to do right here is to pay attention to his reaction. Most of the time he will probably stumble by body language and say he's just joking or some other lame ass excuse. That's when you say, "Next time you joke around like that someone might knock your teeth down your fucking throat."

That's a way to amplify it. Not exactly agreeing and amplifying here, it's more like amplifying and turning tables on him.

Of course, do your best not to fight because violence is pretty dumb, but you can ALWAYS assert your dominance and protect your reputation or image.

Good luck man. I've dealt with that shit too. Do not let people do that shit. Cheers!

MOSFETBJT · 2019-01-28T15:07:16+00:00

Fuck that dude's mom.

i8a4re73 · 2019-01-28T05:30:00+00:00

Crucify him and cut him off

DiskKiller2 · 2019-01-28T05:41:15+00:00

It depends on what that thing is. I was in a similar situation, although it wasn’t a friend (nor a “friend”). I told her very publicly that she can’t spread lies about me - and that I’m taking the matter to my lawyer unless she apologizes. So practically threatened her with a libel. She backed off.

thatbadrogue2 · 2019-01-28T04:19:20+00:00

confront him and cut him out publically in front of a few of the bros who believe and don't believe him. ez. if he pulls the joke thing just give some cheesy shit like "nah, you're the joke [email protected] bro"

Classy_Amir · 2019-01-28T10:02:57+00:00

Outstanding move! For him. When someone spreads doubt about you, they put you in a dilemma. Are you trying to hide it? Why? Is there some truth to it? Are you going to ignore it? Is there some truth to it and you're scared to face it?

Learn from it. Protect your reputation at all costs.

To deal with this situation, start repairing your reputation little by little

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-01-28T16:58:13+00:00

I’d confront him in person and be ready to beat his ass

A_solo_tripper · 2019-01-28T05:02:30+00:00

What is the context?

hazaraMoghul · 2019-01-28T10:27:23+00:00

DO NOT defend, just ignore the situation, but do confront him.

Grantevans1987 · 2019-01-28T12:09:20+00:00

Completely depends on exactly what was said

[deleted] · 2019-01-28T13:57:19+00:00

I like the two pieces of advice that you received: Get him in text admitting it's not true, or call him out publicly. No matter what, this faggot is no longer your friend.

SirAttackHelicopter · 2019-01-28T16:08:36+00:00

It depends on the person doing the act and how they are doing it. One response does not fit all situations.

The general rule is you do NOT want your reputation tarnished if you can help it. Do whatever it takes within the realm of context.

monsieurhire2 · 2019-01-28T19:39:33+00:00

Tell him he really shouldn't run around slandering people or else he's liable to get sued for defamation of character down the road. That should make him think twice before opening his mouth again.

Also try to get to the bottom of why he did that. Did you threaten his status in some way with your existence? That is usually one of the motivators.

Also, he's not exactly the whole problem. What about all the so-called friends who believed him and had no faith in you? I've been on both sides of this situation. People's opinions are very malleable. People are often ready to believe the worst. Did any of these people bother to come and talk to you to clear things up? Once a person has been demonized, people want nothing to do with them.

If you value these people, or not, in any case, it might be a good idea to pointedly ask them why they would believe such ridiculous lies. In the meantime, start cultivating other people for relationships.

One final thing. Even though I don't know you or the situation, this tendency is so strong that I actually am wondering if you DID do the things you are accused of, but are trying to find a way to do damage control.

friendandadvisor · 2019-01-30T01:21:11+00:00

If I playfully go along with it (agree and amplify?), it will appear that I'm admitting to it.

If I deny it, it'll seem that I did it and am desperately trying to deny it.

If I confront him about it he'll say something like "It was just a joke, I didn't mean it" and I'll appear weak because a "joke" got me so upset.

What do I do?

Do NOT A&A, I don't care how many dicks tell you to do that. That is for picking up chicks, not recovering from a man's attack.

If somebody asks about it, look at them like they just shit on their shoes, and say "WTF are you talking about???"

Don't confront him, asshole; drop him. He's no friend. Avoid him. That means when he comes up to you after a month, and says "Hey, I was just joking!" You say "No prob; look, I gotta go, let's get a beer sometime, k? Later."

adonis_syche · 2019-01-28T13:32:17+00:00

Me perosnally? I actually drive people to that point when they would say "It is just a joke bruhhhh", then do something similar in that scenario and you can say it back "It was just a joke bruhhhhh"

Example : A friend of mine once started calling me gay because of my dildo collection. We were in a cafe and was my newly made girlfriend there as well (he knew we are dating, he probably liked her too but never expressed so). 'GF' cuz it was years before I even knew what TRP was.

I know when confronted he will say it is a joke, and I intentionally drove him to a point where he did say it. I mixed a sprinkler full of black pepper in his drink and he vomited fire,( next morning probably shat fire too). But when it was all going on, despite my tender heart's calling, I looked at him in the eyes and said in the sternest teen voice I could muster "It was just a joke bruuuuhh" He was miserable, and didn't talk to me for days, but he, along with other bruuuuhs understood that I am not the kind of guy to mess with.

Not to brag, but takes a pure badass to pull such things off. Your mileage may vary of course. But like they write in nuclear doctrines

" retaliation of sufficient magnitude to inflict ‘unacceptable damage’ against nuclear use by an adversary against XYZ Country or its forces anywhere"

Edit (not really) : I did have a dildo collection.

lerossignol77 · 2019-01-28T04:15:11+00:00

You can cut that friend off but here’s what I’m gonna ask you. Why the fuck do you care so much about what other people think? They reacted in disgust because they thought it’d affect you and it did. If anyone brings it up again, AGREE AND SAY SO THE FUCK WHAT? Grow a fucking spine. They will be able to do nothing especially if it’s something you’re afraid to be associated with. If someone says you’re racist, say yes I absolutely am and so what?

Think about it, what can they really do about it? They just want to shame you so they feel more powerful. Fuck that. The more you deny it, the more power you give them because you’re responding how they want you to. You’ll all go back to your regular lives

[deleted] · 2019-01-28T07:15:00+00:00

Agree and amplify.

Title	What to do when someone attacks your public image?
Author	Piscicide
Upvotes	84
Comments	29
Date	28 January 2019 03:34 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
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