Who ALWAYS calls me for advice and we ALWAYS have a conversation that revolves around one question she hasn’t figured out an answer for - what does she want from men. So I always offer her my advice, my experiences, how I realized what I want.

And then she always proceeds to chase some loser from Tinder, again not being happy, again asking me what to do. So tonight was not an exception and we again had an exchange.

Eventually, she said that she’s AGAIN DATING a guy who broke things off with her telling her she sees her only as a friend. This was about a month ago and I remember telling her that it’s for the best, since this guy not only gave her exactly zero effort, she even paid on dates, paid for gas money to travel to him and paid half of their holiday trip. She waited for him at his house while he went to hang out with his buddy and left her there.

Apparently now he told her that he will improve his behavior, so she’s sold. When asking what convinced her, she told me that he came to her town to see her and then took her on a tea date. I hope he at least paid for her tea lol but I wouldn’t put it past him if he asked for halfsies.

And she tells me this after I spent AN HOUR working out a plan with her to help her realize what she wants and improve her dating situation. Not even a year ago she came out of a long term relationship in which she covered her ex’s rent on her student loan money.

On a side note - the guy she just went back to, made her spend money on him knowing full well he makes at least 3x as much as she does, and that she has a student loan debt and saves up for a house mortgage. She then attempted to violate lockdown for him.

This was not our first confrontation of this kind, and she always calls me a shitty friend after I don’t pat her back for her actions.